AFC friend as a confidense boost?

[Life-Trainee]

I discovered this curious phenomenon couple of days ago. I was chilling with my antisocial nerd AFC friend. I found out that I can talk to women with much greater confidense and disregard when and AFC is accompanying me. As if I take a leader role, and show him the ropes, even if i'm not successful. In such situations i don't seem to care for outcome or what others think. Anybody else can reflect to this?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

It's called an egoboost because you know you are socially above him.

 

[ScrewIt]

haha im the opposite.

the reason why? if they see me doing that, i know for sure they'll get jealous, cause im able to do something that they would never dare to do in their lives.

besides, i know and they know i'm more social active than they are, thus i have no need in proving anything to them

 

[Life-Trainee]

I can't do it in presense of my non-AFC friends for some reason. I've lost some great opportunities because of that. I'm in completely different mindset when i'm with my non-AFC friends.

 

[Billy Bob]

Come out of the closet bro and admit your gay. it's ok. you need to try and impress a hoe instead of your little brother.

 

[Yotsuya-san]

Might not be a good idea to make a habit of intentionally surrounding yourself with AFC friends and trying to come off as their leader. Anybody can appear charismatic when compared to his more nerdy friends. Even if you're the best looking and most outgoing of the group, a lot of women may interpret you as simply being the head nerd.

It's even worse if one or more in your group is better looking than you but only quieter. Trying to come off as the charismatic leader of your posse is AFC in itself. Not to mention immature past college age. It reeks of Generation X era movie stuff. Those women might gravitate toward one of your sidekicks if they come off as more mature.

 

[dillin]

I hate talking to girls when I'm with any guys who are AFC's because they all get jealous and try to ****block me and then tell me how I made a fool of myself and I fvcked up so much while talking to her. Then they tell me how I am such a wussy because I have never approached a girl before yet I go around and hookup with there girlfriends best friends and spit game to chicks everytime we go out and get numbers.

Some words of advice from me are DO NOT hang out with total AFC losers, hang out with some good looking confident guys who atleast have the balls to spit game to ho's.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by dillin
I hate talking to girls when I'm with any guys who are AFC's because they all get jealous and try to ****block me and then tell me how I made a fool of myself and I fvcked up so much while talking to her. Then they tell me how I am such a wussy because I have never approached a girl before yet I go around and hookup with there girlfriends best friends and spit game to chicks everytime we go out and get numbers.

Some words of advice from me are DO NOT hang out with total AFC losers, hang out with some good looking confident guys who atleast have the balls to spit game to ho's.

exactly, i feel the exact same way man. and those AFC guys i know is all talk and no action. they think the all that and better than me when they get jealous, but a big mouth is not always a good thing as it shows you're insecure.

when i hang out with confident guys who are outgoing, we talk about which chick is hot and just basic guy stuff andwe can relate well and get along well. even if one of us tried to hook up w/the chick, we'd support each other.

dont need no negative crap from crap talkers who dont even know jack or tried it

 

[So pimp its scary]

Sometimes, it's good to give a deomnstration to an afc friend to show him that there is nothing to it.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Sometimes, it's good to give a deomnstration to an afc friend to show him that there is nothing to it.

it's not really that, it's more the fact that they lack confidence & are arrogant cause they choose not to change their ways or use their full potential.
and it's their choice to not meet anyone, i wonder if their plan is to stay single forever?

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
It's called an egoboost because you know you are socially above him.

Hmmm... feeding ego, getting "confidence" from it.
Bad, bad, bad.

A true DJ is opposite to that.

Ego is the source of AFC'ness.
Ignore your ego.
It's in the way of your true self and along your true self, inner confidence.

 

[squirrels]

Your social skills should not be contingent on anyone else.

It may work for you at first, but women will eventually sense the message that you're conveying: "Hey, I may not be much, but at least I'm better than him!"

That may work with Kerry on Bush, but it's not going to get you laid. BTW, how would you feel if your boy actually started getting BETTER than you at macking women? If your answer is anything but "proud", then you're not really showing him the ropes, you're taking advantage.

Plus, are you going to take this guy along on your first date? LOL

 

[Genghis Juan]

You got it backwards.

My grandmother, from the old country, always said, "Be with people who are better than you."

Find a friend that is a womanizer and hang around him, learn from him and emulate him.

People who are worse than you will only drag you down; whether its the seduction game, or the game of life in general.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Most of my friends are "settled" in LTRs with their girlfriends. I've nobody to go to the clubs with. Most of my classmates in college are horrible AFCs and nerds due to the nature of our major (computer related).

 

[Genghis Juan]

Branch Out

Don't ditch your AFC friends. Do different activities and go to different social events on campus by yourself. Meet new people, at large social events (like parties, clubs, other campus organizations), the nature of people involved tend to be more extroverted.

I was in a very similar situation with exception to being in school. Most of my friends are of engineering background, a profession populated by introverts. I am not ditching them, but I am in the midst of a process to meet new people.

You have nothing to lose.

 

[SparkleMotion]

As I'm sure the rest of you here do, I have a lot of AFC friends. But I don't get an ego boost my friends who are AFCs, I get a confidence boost from the AFCs who try and ****block me. Since it makes me think that they feel that I am alpha male in the situation and must take me down. It's cool being thought of as the alpha male.

Oh wait I am

 

[dillin]

One of my friends who is in a serious LTR with this girl he knows he is a bit AFC like he has his little "special account" for his girlfriend, he basically saves money just to spend it on her pretty pathetic if you ask me but I have been teaching him pimp ways and he is catching on really fast actually and agrees with me on all the stuff. Soon I will have another person to go partying with but I told him he needs to ditch his girlfriend when he goes to parties so he can spit game to other chicks and be on top of his game. Normally when were at a friends party he always brings his stupid little girlfriend so he just hangs out with her the entire time instead of improving his pimp game but this should change soon.

 

[DJ_Dork]

now this is a good topic. This is pretty much similar for Queen Biotch and her entourage of 1-3 uglier (or considered less biotchy) girls.

Pros: You seem more confident because someone is lesser than you.

Cons: Your buddy will envy you. People will think you associate yourself with losers. Your buddy may think because you can get a girl, he will try to butt in.

I would go with a buddy if you can't do things by yourself but make sure you both split and do your own things. I once was getting my groove on with a girl then all of a sudden my punkass AFC friend came over and decided to try to grind against her, she whispered in my ear "Yuck!" and I just said "Dunno the guy" After that - I explained to him to f-off at clubs.

Make sure your AFC buddy leaves quickly to do his own thing instead of being an annoyance.

 

[myfriendblu]

Yep, your essentially doing what most HB9's and such do when they hang out with uglier/fatter friends. Usually it stems from jealousy and self esteem issues, so maybe thats something you need to work on.

 

[gentleman193]

This is a character flaw, surrounding yourself with weaklings. You will feel strong . . . but you are weak. They will drag you down, too (see my last post about that). And while they may gain ground on you, you are in danger of reverting back into them.

In sports you seek a partner better than you to improve your game. Life is also a game. Seek the best company you can find. Better to walk alone than to walk with weaklings.