Nicholas Hill
Master Don Juan
I have some time left before Uni year three begins so I think I will invest it in you guys once again. I'm going to hopefully write a series of advanced tips - NOT NEWBIE TIPS, like I have been doing for oh so long now.
So, if you're new or still clueless about women, consult the simple tips on e-c.
Its advanced only because its difficult to do, not because of its academic value, and I use an example for my basis.
Its all about...
How to maintain intense eye contact
I remember when I was 16, just about to get past secondary school UK based education, when I was speaking to a teacher of mine. I would glance at him, then speak, but I would speak without even looking at his face. That's how bad it can get.
Soon I learned that eye contact is important, so I then started looking at people's eyes for a second, then looked at their face for the rest of the conversation. I believe this is "normal" behaviour with the average guy.
That wasn't good enough for me. I never felt confident, probably because I still wasn't really looking at my subject.
Then sosuave happened.
I'll not go into my transformation process, but I will simply say that I learned to maintain significant eye contact over the years with girls and women, normally for about 60% of the time. I'm guessing that half of the rAFCs and most of the DJs are at that level. It gets results and it works, and most of you see no reason to boost the eye contact up any further.
Let me share with you an experience I had on Sunday.
I was in a gathering of people and had just come back down from the buzz of being on a brilliant holiday in England. My friend told me that the two people behind me, about my age (but older) had gone to the same place!
They were boyfriend and girlfriend.
I looked at them both, said a ballsy "hi", and got to meet them. This is where it gets special...
I made friends with her boyfriend, and had no ulterior motive for the girl, but I was really interested in getting to know her, so after the meeting I kept the conversation we had before going, and gave the girl the most intense eye contact I think I have ever given girls. She was, after all, very cute.
By "intense", I mean, barely flinching at all. Occasionally looking at her lips, but never trying to look "through" or "behind" her, or to her sides. I would always look at the face, but 90% of the time (as opposed to the average 60% for the average DJ) I would look at her eyes, and to make even more of a point, I chose her left eye and stuck to it. I did not look at her left, then her right, then her left...etc.
I was reading through my very own created boot camp book and came across the fifth article of the first week by surfboard about eye contact and why it is important, then I realised that I had recently done such a ballsy thing and so had the inspiration to write this little article on it.
I felt exactly as surfboard did, as though I was in love with her. I can personally testify to this, but we all know that it doesn't matter what we feel, we should be dependent on what they do. So this is what she did: She would hold my hand for longer when I shook it (which, by the way, when you're shaking girls hands you need to hold the hand horizontally not vertically - its a girl shake) and when she pointed at something for me, she grabbed me and gently led me there! This was after about a total of four minutes of conversation.
Girls are suprising creatures. I can't find many who are not born with the guts to give you so much eye contact when we guys have to work it up. This girl told me her name and helped me to remember it! (I do still know her name but I'm not going to share such personal details about someone else!).
I could say that I walked out of that room afterwards a little "lovesick". And if that happened to me... imagine what effect it had on her.
(It also occured to me that I and she had applied kino and become friends right there and then with her boyfriend right there with her! ...But that's another story!)
So, if you're new or still clueless about women, consult the simple tips on e-c.
Its advanced only because its difficult to do, not because of its academic value, and I use an example for my basis.
Its all about...
How to maintain intense eye contact
I remember when I was 16, just about to get past secondary school UK based education, when I was speaking to a teacher of mine. I would glance at him, then speak, but I would speak without even looking at his face. That's how bad it can get.
Soon I learned that eye contact is important, so I then started looking at people's eyes for a second, then looked at their face for the rest of the conversation. I believe this is "normal" behaviour with the average guy.
That wasn't good enough for me. I never felt confident, probably because I still wasn't really looking at my subject.
Then sosuave happened.
I'll not go into my transformation process, but I will simply say that I learned to maintain significant eye contact over the years with girls and women, normally for about 60% of the time. I'm guessing that half of the rAFCs and most of the DJs are at that level. It gets results and it works, and most of you see no reason to boost the eye contact up any further.
Let me share with you an experience I had on Sunday.
I was in a gathering of people and had just come back down from the buzz of being on a brilliant holiday in England. My friend told me that the two people behind me, about my age (but older) had gone to the same place!
They were boyfriend and girlfriend.
I looked at them both, said a ballsy "hi", and got to meet them. This is where it gets special...
I made friends with her boyfriend, and had no ulterior motive for the girl, but I was really interested in getting to know her, so after the meeting I kept the conversation we had before going, and gave the girl the most intense eye contact I think I have ever given girls. She was, after all, very cute.
By "intense", I mean, barely flinching at all. Occasionally looking at her lips, but never trying to look "through" or "behind" her, or to her sides. I would always look at the face, but 90% of the time (as opposed to the average 60% for the average DJ) I would look at her eyes, and to make even more of a point, I chose her left eye and stuck to it. I did not look at her left, then her right, then her left...etc.
I was reading through my very own created boot camp book and came across the fifth article of the first week by surfboard about eye contact and why it is important, then I realised that I had recently done such a ballsy thing and so had the inspiration to write this little article on it.
I felt exactly as surfboard did, as though I was in love with her. I can personally testify to this, but we all know that it doesn't matter what we feel, we should be dependent on what they do. So this is what she did: She would hold my hand for longer when I shook it (which, by the way, when you're shaking girls hands you need to hold the hand horizontally not vertically - its a girl shake) and when she pointed at something for me, she grabbed me and gently led me there! This was after about a total of four minutes of conversation.
Girls are suprising creatures. I can't find many who are not born with the guts to give you so much eye contact when we guys have to work it up. This girl told me her name and helped me to remember it! (I do still know her name but I'm not going to share such personal details about someone else!).
I could say that I walked out of that room afterwards a little "lovesick". And if that happened to me... imagine what effect it had on her.
(It also occured to me that I and she had applied kino and become friends right there and then with her boyfriend right there with her! ...But that's another story!)
