Acted like an idiot with my girl..

[Jhcl4000]

Don't know why I'm posting this, it's absolutely ridiculous and I shouldn't have acted the way I did...

First of all, her and I had a great time together last night. Great dinner, great sex, and I spent the night. Then today we went for a walk with another couple (her friends) at some park. Here's where I goofed.. At some point I got a call from my dad, and I don't want to get into it, but it kinda ticked me off.. Anyways, I was a bit bored during the walk, but after talking with him I started to feel angry, depressed-ish, and just went all quiet, acted detached and walked ahead of them (so I was walking alone). Ridiculous, right? I went on like this for a little while, then eventually sat on a bench and caught back up with them. I was "better" after that little episode; still kinda quiet/detached, but at least cracking some jokes and interacting with them.

When we got back to her place they were talking about chilling somewhere else, and I didn't think I was invited, so when she was about to get into her car to leave I went up to her and told her..

Me: "I'm sorry about the way I was acting in the park, babe. I need to talk to my dad about a couple things and just needed to think."
Her: "Oh.. I thought you were mad at me."
Me: "No, it had nothing to do with you. You make me happy."

It turns out that I WAS invited, and that she was planning on me going with her, but after I told her this she said something along the lines of "no, you should go talk to your dad/go talk to your dad" when I offered to go with them.

*SIGH* She's going on a trip till next week, and I wish I hadn't have left on this sh!tty note. Plus, I've been seeing this girl for half a year, had no real problems, and I rather not f*ck it up by doing something stupid like this.

 

[DonJuanit0]

lol! Nothing happened actually! No worries here dude, just go on with your life...

 

[Maximummax]

DonJunito is right
You went thru some emotions thats pretty normal
if a chick likes you she will understand you.

 

[Z Man]

She could have acted *****y and selfish, that you weren't giving her enough attention, etc, but she didn't..

She is understanding and wants to give you a chance to go resolve things with you Dad. I also don't see what the perceived problem is here..

There seems to be a lot of general hate and distrust of the fairer sex on these boards, and with that, lots of guys overanalysing every move they make with said women; moreso now than when I lurked years ago.

Not ALL women are going to leave you or lose interest just like that.

Anyway, it sounds like you have a decent, caring girlfriend.

 

[Iceberg]

*SIGH* She's going on a trip till next week, and I wish I hadn't have left on this sh!tty note. Plus, I've been seeing this girl for half a year, had no real problems, and I rather not f*ck it up by doing something stupid like this.

You are WAY too uptight about this. Nothing happened.

Loosen up, man.

 

[Desdinova]

On the second date with my current gf, I wasn't in a stellar mood. The reason was that morning I had broken up with my last gf and felt a bit 5hitty about it. I was very noticeably off with my personality, and she commented on it. I told her that it has nothing to do with her, that I was not normally like this, and it was just some stressful stuff I was going through. I told her I'd be back to my energetic, happy self next time we saw each other. And I was.

As long as you're not making every moment with her miserable, you'll be fine. In fact, women like to feel like you're mad at them once in a while. They like drama, even if they've created it entirely in their own mind.

 

[Aaron B]

you can't fix it. its done. she feels about it however she feels about it. your words won't change her mood.

no need to explain it afterwards unless she asks

if you are with your girl, why take calls at all? my opinion is that the people i'm physically with should get precedence over people calling on the phone

next time let the call go to voicemail and call back when its a better time

for some reason we have this idea that every phone call is critical because it "might be an emergency"

if its an emergency, they should be calling 911, not you

and of course the chances are very high that this particular phonecall is of little importance in the grand scheme of things

 

[joverby]

I know it's been covered but I just want to reitterate so you will get it!

NOTHING happened, bro! Don't worry. This is probably one of the first times she's seen you be emotional / upset about something like that. So you are naturally a little freaked out.

But don't worry man, showing emotions is not a big deal. You've been with this girl for 6 months, don't worry!

 

[Jhcl4000]

It's funny, because we saw each other 3 times last week, then this week she went on a trip and there was no contact between us at all, all week, now when I text her today I get this bullsh*t...

11:00am - Me: Hey baby, it's been a hectic week.. Hope you had a good Thanksgiving. How about this afternoon we resume our quest to obtain you a Wii? And of course, you're gonna have to tell me alllll about your adventures in *city*.

12:45pm - Her: I'm supposed to go watch the Pats game at *friends* house. Was really looking forward to it but I found out *person she doesn't like* is gonna be there. Now I don't know what to do.

1:00pm - Me: Drama, drama, drama.. Lol. Well, I'll be in the gym till around 3, so lemme know what you decide. And if not this afternoon, we can always just cuddle up on the couch and watch some breaking bad at your place tonight.

1:25pm - Her: Ok, I'll let you know what happens. I may be going to the gym to swim after the game tonight at like 8pm.

Nothing else since then.

If I had just seen her in the last couple days and was trying to see her again, this "maybe" game would be fine.. But the fact that it's been a week (with NO contact AT ALL) and she's not making an obvious effort to get together is, to put it simply, not cool.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The girl hasn't texted you in 3 hours, big friken deal.

Is this your girlfriend? Your too focused on this girl. She should be the compliment of your life not your LIFE.

 

[Packers2010]

oh man. i thought i was the only one who got calls from my dad at the WORST POSIBLE TIME. i mean he could call me while i was having sex FFS.

wish he would gtfo

 

[iwanttofight]

dont worry about her, F*ck it, then she'll love you more

 

[Jhcl4000]

Don't understand wtf her deal is tonight..

Her: What time is Gamestop open till? Extended hours this weekend perhaps?

Me: Perhaps. Up for a drive? I can pick you up at your place and we can check it out.

Her: I'm still waiting to hear if my swimming date with *friend* is still on or not. I'm mildly drunk.

Her: Can you call and ask them what time they close?

Her: I think they must be closed.

Me: Yeah, they're closed.. We can always pick one up next week, though.

Her: Boo.

Me: Even if I can't kick your mildy drink ass at numerous Wii games tonight, I'd still like to see ya babe. Lemme know if you wanna chill tonight.

So far, nothing from her after that.

 

[Atom Smasher]

When a girl is into you she will move heaven and earth to see you.

I think you need to back off completely. Radio silence for a while. Either she'll start to pursue you or she will disappear. Either way you win, because you don't want a girl that is on the fence about you. You need to force her hand by disappearing.

 

[Iceberg]

When a girl is into you she will move heaven and earth to see you.

I think you need to back off completely. Radio silence for a while. Either she'll start to pursue you or she will disappear. Either way you win, because you don't want a girl that is on the fence about you. You need to force her hand by disappearing.

What Atom Smasher said.

I've never had any "mixed messages" from girls who were into me.

The ones who were flaky, lowering Interest Levels, etc, were the ones who started ignoring texts or finding reasons not to hang with me.

 

[Alicanto]

When a girl is into you she will move heaven and earth to see you.

I think you need to back off completely. Radio silence for a while. Either she'll start to pursue you or she will disappear. Either way you win, because you don't want a girl that is on the fence about you. You need to force her hand by disappearing.

I agree with Atom Smasher. If she wanted to see you, she would find a way of doing so. Back off completely.
And if she texts you again, wait some time before texting back. Like an hour or two. That will make she wounder why would you take so long.
You also gotta keep her interest on you.
1st - Do different stuff every time you can think of sth.
2nd - Take longer to answer her calls and text messages.
3rd - Don't care. That's right, don't care. If she wanna hang out with her friends, instead of being curious about who will be with her, just say sth like "Sure, go have some fun. I gotta do/finish *anything*, so I'll be kinda busy today." That kind of attitude can even change a cheater's mind.

[Sorry about the vocabulary.. English is not my primary language.]

 

[st_99]

dont worry about her, F*ck it, then she'll love you more

simple as this.

logic tells me she has low interest but you shouldn't care. the more you care, the less she'll care.
some kind of law of nature i suppose.

and i think why you were so concerned about "acting like an idiot" is because your gut told you
she had low interest and you are trying to be perfect now. its not going to work, just say "screw it,
if she likes me then she can come over and f*ck me, if not, get lost"

and on a side note, dont get all cute with your texts, just get to the point and probe her interest,
like you can say... "come over, lets go out to...." she replys with some lame short story, dont respond and
go hang with your buds. thats all, simple.

 

[BillieAnn]

I am girl. Sorry if I disturbing man's chat I just whant to say .. you are sure that just your acting was a problem, or just reason for her left without you? You got my point?

 

[cordoncordon]

First, stop catering to her every whim and desire, stop with the cute little baby talk texts, and STOP CONTACTING her period. IF she contacts you, don't be in any hurry to answer.

This girl's IL in you is very low right now, but she knows she can basically say to you "eat that pile of dog sh!t" and you will. IF you want to have any shot with this girl, back off completely. A gf should make you happy, should be there for you, should WANT to do things with you. She sounds like spending time with you is pulling teeth at the moment.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Her: gives command
OP: yes master

And you wonder why she puts other friends before you