Abundance mindset mentality

[Glassguy]

We always have discussions about having "an abundance mindset". But does it mean that you have to have women lined up waiting for you? Absolutely not.
For years when I was not in an exclusive relationship, I ran a rotation. And was good at it. That's worth a separate post altogether
While it helps to have multiple women knocking down your door, it's not necessary to have an abundant mindset. Let me explain:
Anytime I have left a relationship (fwb, exclusive, engagement and marriage) i have always found a better woman. Every single time. Maybe it took a little time of dating a decent amount of women, but I've always upgraded. Maybe that is because we all find out more of what we are really looking for and have a better understanding of what we aren't compatible with as we date a lot of women. So we take or should take that with us and screen women even harder when we apply what we've learned from previous dating experiences.
When I've hit a dry spell and it seems as though really good women are hard to find (especially in today's dating world), I can fall back to knowing that I always find better.
That in itself leads me to an abundant mindset. So don't fret if you don't have 4 chicks lined up. It's no big deal. Keep your swagger and positivity.
Just because I could line up plenty of dates next week if I wanted doesn't mean that I should or that it's well spent of my time. I'm beginning to realize that quantity doesn't outweigh quality.
So keep that positive mindset and screen these women hard based on what you are compatible with and what you aren't. Dating is time consuming and expensive if you let it be. Focus on the women who have the qualities you're looking for and realize that you'll find better and upgrade more than not.

Happy Hunting

 

[justaroundthecorner]

When I've hit a dry spell and it seems as though really good women are hard to find (especially in today's dating world), I can fall back to knowing that I always find better.

I think it depends who are you. How would you rate yourself objectively (looks, money, character, overall "attractiveness", what women tend to gravitate towards you?) and what are your prospects of getting more attractive/more successful?

For example: I am of average height, average frame, well educated, with above average personal wealth (but nothing exceptional even if I earn well as I do not come from wealthy background), started to fight off first signs of "dad bod" recently - I look young and I'm the smart guy type but since my interests were always quite nerdy, I never really attracted the top SMV women (the best looking gals I scored were 8s, mostly due to my game and intelligence as nothing else was my forte) I also understood that I feel the best having good looking (not necessarily beautiful) but nerdy or old fashioned woman and that I am definitely not a "rotation" type of guy (I never got a thrill from an idea of having more than one woman at the same time - in my mind it was as if someone else would steal time from me that I could spend on my hobbies, reading, meeting with friends, getting higher qualifications for my job etc.). Taking all under consideration, I doubt my prospects could get much better from what I have now (divorcing my wife would lead to being a single dad of higher mid-tier attractiveness and there are millions of such guys in this world) it would also ruing peace of mind I have now.

Therefore I am wondering what is your plan for your personal life considering you seem to be 8 years older than I am?

Staying single and w/o personal obligations like children is major forte when it comes to dating, but do you really think that every next woman will be better than the last one? I kind of think 49-50 years old mark is end of prime time for all guys (for some guys its even earlier, counting prime as somewhere between 30 - 48 depending how healthy is or was your lifestyle). I believe after that every woman you will meet will have some major flaw you will need to accept.

 

[BaronOfHair]

But does it mean that you have to have women lined up waiting for you?

Nope... Wrapped in plastic, and laying face down in the basement freezer, is infinitely more accessible than having a few million broads you've met online(and who may not show up)on speed dial. The sex is almost guaranteed to be more frosty than ardent, but alas, there are trade-offs for everything in life

 

[sevbucmash]

Wrapped in plastic, and laying face down in the basement freezer

You sound like you have a body in your basement freezer.

 

[BaronOfHair]

You sound like you have a body in your basement freezer.

Wouldn't be surprised to learn that many a squatter has ODed in the basement of this apartment complex I currently call home... Critters beyond even Rog Corman's imagination https://m.imdb.com/title/tt1263433/ almost certainly guaranteed that these poor souls remain classified as "Missing"

 

[Gamisch]

We always have discussions about having "an abundance mindset". But does it mean that you have to have women lined up waiting for you? Absolutely not.
For years when I was not in an exclusive relationship, I ran a rotation. And was good at it. That's worth a separate post altogether
While it helps to have multiple women knocking down your door, it's not necessary to have an abundant mindset. Let me explain:
Anytime I have left a relationship (fwb, exclusive, engagement and marriage) i have always found a better woman. Every single time. Maybe it took a little time of dating a decent amount of women, but I've always upgraded. Maybe that is because we all find out more of what we are really looking for and have a better understanding of what we aren't compatible with as we date a lot of women. So we take or should take that with us and screen women even harder when we apply what we've learned from previous dating experiences.
When I've hit a dry spell and it seems as though really good women are hard to find (especially in today's dating world), I can fall back to knowing that I always find better.
That in itself leads me to an abundant mindset. So don't fret if you don't have 4 chicks lined up. It's no big deal. Keep your swagger and positivity.
Just because I could line up plenty of dates next week if I wanted doesn't mean that I should or that it's well spent of my time. I'm beginning to realize that quantity doesn't outweigh quality.
So keep that positive mindset and screen these women hard based on what you are compatible with and what you aren't. Dating is time consuming and expensive if you let it be. Focus on the women who have the qualities you're looking for and realize that you'll find better and upgrade more than not.

Happy Hunting

Good post.

I geuss the concept of the "abundance mindset " can have several meanings.
-One obviously is the physical part, having "plenty of women " at any given time .

The other one is the mental/spiritual part of it. Confidence might be the easiest explanation.
When you know that you will ALWAYS meet new women you don't have to worry about the last one.

An abundance mindset basically allows a man to NOT put all his chips on women and/or the love ,loyalty and cooperation from a woman.

Heck ,in today's daring world a decent stand-up man ( between smv 6 and 9) will meet many women with many flaws , and only now and then he will meet a GREAT woman with truly great potential. Once you know this you can put your mind on other shyte.