Abundance is the most important factor

[corrector]

Still here in The Philippines. I don't get back to the states til January or February.

All I can say is if you come here, if you've got those dating apps such as Tinder and such....expect it to blow up. I mean I'm just a normal looking Asian dude, but imagine a 'loaded' white dude or an exotic American coming out here...you should not have any problems getting attention.

Filipina women...I would compare to a traditional latina women from South America or something...there very traditional and family oriented. They'll look after your needs, cook for you nice meals and such, you just gotta pull your end of the deal. If you're Catholic, it would be a plus out here...Lol...it's a Catholic country.

If I would give one advice...it would be to find a Religious Filipina who Loves God. That way they have a sense of morals about themselves and would have a guidance for right and wrong when it comes to relationships and not easily suede by Emotions.



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Is your Tinder dating apps blowing up there? Are you meeting normal women from the datting apps (ie not fatties with tattoes, but regular slim women that look decent and is not ghosting you after a few convos?) It sounds like even if you have a decent experience there it's better since allot of sub-8 non-chad/chadlite guys (in Western society) get either nothing, or one date and no second date nonsense.

What about cold-approaching there? Do you feel comfortable approaching women in public, and introducing yourselves to them without feeling any pretentious getting too much attitude?

Part of Abundance might mean moving to another country where you might get a boost on your SMV. Do you feel like you have Abundance of options in the Phillipeans compared to America?

 

[GoodMan32]

yes but there are other factors that make a man focus on a specific woman such as emotional attachment. Sometimes you’re just not able to think straight.

Yeah. There's the Taking Back Sunday song that goes "Why can't I feel anything for anyone other than you?"

I've listened to that song many times.

Sometimes a man fancies one specific woman (for whatever reason)

 

[GoodMan32]

You're now a Jedi my friend!!! Even if you do not have a bunch of women at the moment one flakes on you eventually if you put yourself out there they will come, it's a numbers game but to have the numbers in your favor you have to put yourself out there and of course be your best self. It's all about mindset first, and it looks like you have that figured out.



Thirst makes men do some strange things, the thing is the thirstier you are the more desperate and simpish you act and it's a turn-off to women kind of like it's a turn of to men when a woman is to needy. Same energy

As I've got older I learned the secert to curbing this thirst is to be present and calm, and realize that you can't force it. The more I'm in my "Chill" (or as most people would call it stoic but I'm far from) the easier it gets



Let's be honest a lot of guys who say they are quitting dating weren't in the game to begin with. I have spoken to some incels myself a few years ago and they give up after 10 rejections, 10 rejections!!!! I use to get rejected 10-50 times a night back in the day when I was a "Game addict" but I'm talking about these guys got rejected 10 times in their live and now it's doom and gloom and we are talking about men in their early 20's working at chick fillet, living with their parents not going to school etc

Do not expect a woman to make you happy, it's better to be a man of joy and peace and have a woman enhance it, instead of relying on another person for complete emotional fulfillment

Also a lot of "MGTOWs" are one ******* away from going back to the plantation. In 2016/2017 I used to be friends with a latino guy who was a "Super MGTOW"(he even made youtube videos but didn't get a lot of views) the guy found out his baby momma was cheating on him and swore of women. He then went to the Philippines in 2017 (before Passport bros became a thing) smashed 10 women in a month, and met his now wife a doctor. The guy left MGTOW, deleted all his youtube videos and no one knows where the **** he's been since lmfaoooo

You're damn right when you say thirst makes a man do some strange things.

I was thirsty (on cringeworthy levels) from the age of 20-23. In retrospect, I turned broads off with my desperation. But I couldn't help it. I had the sex drive of a guy in his prime, yet a social awkwardness that disqualified me from the vast majority of the female population. Any time one of the few broads who was willing to entertain me lost interest, it really was the end of the world.

I even ended up developing some twisted visions in my head of getting revenge (which I would never really act on)

It's a massive relief my sex drive plummeted with age. In my early 20s, I was basically a prisoner to an addiction.

 

[Solomon]

You're damn right when you say thirst makes a man do some strange things.

I was thirsty (on cringeworthy levels) from the age of 20-23. In retrospect, I turned broads off with my desperation. But I couldn't help it. I had the sex drive of a guy in his prime, yet a social awkwardness that disqualified me from the vast majority of the female population. Any time one of the few broads who was willing to entertain me lost interest, it really was the end of the world.

I even ended up developing some twisted visions in my head of getting revenge (which I would never really act on)

It's a massive relief my sex drive plummeted with age. In my early 20s, I was basically a prisoner to an addiction.

Just curious how old are you now?

 

[GoodMan32]

Just curious how old are you now?

I'm 33 (young to notice a drastic decrease in sex drive; I know)

 

[Solomon]

I'm 33 (young to notice a drastic decrease in sex drive; I know)

I totally understand about having a high sex drive it does slow down in your 30s and allows you to think with your bigger head by the time you're 40 you will become picky

 

[corrector]

I'm 33 (young to notice a drastic decrease in sex drive; I know)

Wait until you reach 48.

 

[corrector]

I totally understand about having a high sex drive it does slow down in your 30s and allows you to think with your bigger head by the time you're 40 you will become picky

No he won't. Lower libido does not translate more pickiness if you are struggling in your 30s. Your SMV (in his case especially) will be lower because he doesn't have money, his looks will be worst, especially when he loses his hair, and his folks will get older and he will either have to start taking care of them too (ie unless they can get their own caregiver), and when their income is reduced because of retirement and they have more personal/expensive needs because of age, that means there is less money in the pot to help him out unless they are really rich. The biggest disservice is saying things get better when you get older. From hearing women hit some sort of wall to hearing that it gets better when your sex drive is lower. Nothing adds up with that logic. A lower sex drive does not mean it's non-existant or you become asexual, plus you get AMOGGED by younger guys.

 

[GoodMan32]

Wait until you reach 48.

Sounds exciting (and yeah, I'm 100% serious). A lower sex drive is a good thing.

 

[GoodMan32]

No he won't. Lower libido does not translate more pickiness if you are struggling in your 30s. Your SMV (in his case especially) will be lower because he doesn't have money, his looks will be worst, especially when he loses his hair, and his folks will get older and he will either have to start taking care of them too (ie unless they can get their own caregiver), and when their income is reduced because of retirement and they have more personal/expensive needs because of age, that means there is less money in the pot to help him out unless they are really rich. The biggest disservice is saying things get better when you get older. From hearing women hit some sort of wall to hearing that it gets better when your sex drive is lower. Nothing adds up with that logic. A lower sex drive does not mean it's non-existant or you become asexual, plus you get AMOGGED by younger guys.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

Granted, since I haven't reached 40 yet, there's no way to be 100% sure. But my sex drive reduction these past 10 years hasn't led to me getting pickier (in terms of a woman's looks); all it means is I don't want sex as often as I did 10 years ago.

You're spot on when you point out that in my case especially, my SMV will drop as I age.

 

[Solomon]

You took the words right out of my mouth.

Granted, since I haven't reached 40 yet, there's no way to be 100% sure. But my sex drive reduction these past 10 years hasn't led to me getting pickier (in terms of a woman's looks); all it means is I don't want sex as often as I did 10 years ago.

You're spot on when you point out that in my case especially, my SMV will drop as I age.

let me correct myself if you have had success with women with women in your 20s or 30s or both than as you get older you will get pickier

 

[GoodMan32]

You're still thirsty, except that now your thirst is bigger and even more cringe.
As is the word cringe, by the way.

No, I was way more thirsty at 20-23.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I've listened to that song many times

Expand your repetoire, hoss

The final few lines of this one may prompt you to modify your current life philosophy

 

[MatureDJ]

that’s cool and all but not everyone wants to have a Filipina wife. I want to continue my legacy as with a woman that has the same background. You can absolutely go to these countries and enjoy it but building a family with such a woman is not for everyone.
For someone’s who is already Asian it’s probably not a big problem

Agreed. As a white man, I want to stay within the Caucasian race, and so I'm starting to warm up to Bulgarian Roma (i.e., "gypsies").

 

[MatureDJ]

Sounds exciting (and yeah, I'm 100% serious). A lower sex drive is a good thing.

Cope

 

[BaronOfHair]

You are descending into deeper incel levels than I hitherto thought possible. Yes, by all means, go live on a Bulgarian rubbish dump with the Romani. I'm sure they'll welcome you with open arms, white saviour.

Said folks still aren't enthusiastic about their kinsmen(and women) mixing with dilicoys either

 

[tksniper]

Purpose creates abundance. Don’t go out to approach women. Go out with an aim to learn something new, listen to an audiobook at a Starbucks, go to the gym, take a kickboxing class where women are there, etc. Fill your entire day with purpose of improving yourself and it will create serendipity with women.

Now, what MOST guys do is they drift around aimlessly looking for validation from women. And it is very obvious in your vibe and presence. Women can smell your neediness a mile away. This is why most guys don’t know how to create abundance. They have no purpose and drift around. They become NPC’s.

 

[corrector]

Purpose creates abundance. Don’t go out to approach women. Go out with an aim to learn something new, listen to an audiobook at a Starbucks, go to the gym, take a kickboxing class where women are there, etc. Fill your entire day with purpose of improving yourself and it will create serendipity with women.

Now, what MOST guys do is they drift around aimlessly looking for validation from women. And it is very obvious in your vibe and presence. Women can smell your neediness a mile away. This is why most guys don’t know how to create abundance. They have no purpose and drift around. They become NPC’s.

I didn't know there were that many bums on here.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I agree with this, but I don't agree with the premise that abundance is cultivated by "plate spinning". Abundance is a mindset. You can have an abundance mindset in a vaccuum, with the simple mentality or self talk that says "there are an infinite # of women out there, and I can do better" or something along those lines. For this reason I think the plate spinning thing can be cope. However in general it's not going to hurt, and an analogy exists in the job market where you should continually have multiple interviews and job offers indefinitely so you don't ever take the first offer you get or get too invested in your current job without having options.

I only say this because you can still get wrapped up with a particular woman even if you have other women blowing up your phone begging to see your ****.

Point being, to truly have abundance you need to learn how to stop taking all women seriously and stop assuming any one of them is special. They're not special.

 

[Sandow]

The mentality of abundance should come when it’s natural. In low times, I’ve tried portraying abundance when it really wasn’t there and I struggled. I had the mindset but it didn’t come off natural or believable. When you truly have options, you are more bold, nonchalant, and thus more confident and attractive. There is also a lot less thinking, things just happen naturally (because they are). Anyhow, all I’m saying is that you should keep as many girls in your obit as you can. BTW women probably have twice as many as you do.