Abit of a Pvssy I am..

[SilverSonnet]

There's all this info about stand up for yourself, dont give a fvck what anyone thinks, dont take sh!t from anyone, but I'm kinda ****-scared of getting my ass kicked. Especially by this one guy that ALWAYS wins his fights. Once, he hit me on the back of the head ONCE, and I had a huge lump there for the rest of the day. I walked back home crying, and clutching my head. Sh!t, I still feel like a pvssy now, even for writing this..


Anyway, what the hell do I do?

Ben

 

[Bible_Belt]

He could not have hit you in the back of the head unless you turned your back on him. Keeping your eyes on your opponent at all times is important. Everyone is defenseless when their back is turned.

If you want to learn to fight, then train in a martial art.

 

[Technical1]

dont fight. the damage you can do to yourself long-term is not worth it.

learn to refine the art of walking away, and being above petty sh1t, because that is something you need to keep doing throughout your life. When a situation develops, try and "zoom out" like with a photographic lense to observe yourself in time and space. A little tiff with 3 guys you dont really care about, a situation you will have forgotten in 2 years time, none of this is worth risking long-term bodily damage that may NEVER go away. A guy puts a finger in your eye socket, and you'll never see with that one again. A guy knocks you down and stomps on your head, permanent brain damage. A guy smashes a bottle across you're face, you'll wear that scar for decades.

I know it hurts you to back down but you have to realize we dont live in caveman times anymore and the people today at your age that are really good at fighting probably have nothing going for them. You have a lot more to lose than they do. Its always this way. The people who are good at fighting and who want to fight have nothing going for them except that.

Caveman times arent coming back, its the dorks and thinking types who rule the world now, for better or worse. The nations with the most macho cultures (for example Somalia) are easily manipulated and steered by countries with feminized cultures (United States) because of the advantages that accrue to cold-blooded examination of facts and strategic thinking which isnt a caveman or a tough's strong suit. Its better to be a thinking man than it is to be a fighting man. Thats all.

 

[SilverSonnet]

He could not have hit you in the back of the head unless you turned your back on him. Keeping your eyes on your opponent at all times is important. Everyone is defenseless when their back is turned.

If you want to learn to fight, then train in a martial art.

No, what happened was...I was NOT fighting this other guy. I was ****y to him, and he took it the wrong way. So he kept hitting me. Then this hard guy, walks up behind me as I keep walking away, and WHACK!!!
Then the big group of on-lookers all walk away. I sit there surrounded by women asking if I'm ok.

 

[Bible_Belt]

he took it the wrong way. So he kept hitting me

And what did you do? Nothing? That guy knew it was ok to hit you in the back of the head, because you showed that you would not fight back. That's what bullies want - an easy target. You have to hit back immediately, or it only gets worse. You don't have to win the fight, merely fighting back is winning. I agree with the advice to not fight, but this is I think the best way to accomplish that goal - just knock the sh!t out of the next guy who hits you, and then people will leave you alone.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Young Brother, I do not condone unrequited violence but defending yourself is not an option.

When that douchebag hit you from behind it proved that:

1. He's a pvssy.
2. He realized by your not retaliating that he gained some momentary power structure.

In the future you WILL defend yourself. You WILL acknowledge you're not a punching bag.

A few kicks to the balls have a wonderous way of putting one back in place. I learned long ago that if you take out the biggest and most vocal the rest of the sheep will fall in line.

 

[Technical1]

I agree with bible belt.

In school you are not a free man yet, so you may have to establish yourself as "not someone to fvck with".

Beware of ethnic gangs though, sometimes they carry knives and have an honor system which will not let you (presumably white) beat up one of their own without taking retribution so to speak. If you are in this kind of environment, attach yourself to a white gang and wait it out until you are free. Things dont sound this bad though where you're at.

Basically, if the bully is white have a go at him. If he is ethnic and in a gang, think twice about doing it.

 

[randalll]

i was assaulted a year ago and im still really dizzy from it now, cant even walk in a straight line a lot of the time.... avoid fighting at all costs. it aint worth it.

 

[Birdem]

The only reason I responded to your post cause I thought you had potential, but boy was I wrong. If you acted ****y to this guy for no reason, I do not blame him at all. There are some people that will take that sort of thing and some guys won't. What was your goal in trying to act ****y to this guy? Next time if you are going to act ****y to someone that won't tolerate that sort of thing be prepared to defend yourself or lose respect from everyone in the school. In your other post you asked what you can do to be popular in school. Look at the most popular guy in your school and ask yourself does he ever get picked on?

 

[ready123]

stuff I've learned, and this is from the point of view of someone who's well out of high school:
- the people who are most likely to fight in a party environment are either belligerent drunks or insecure. and the insecurity is usually blatant enough to taint that guy as low-value
- most people that act like punks have NO CLUE how to even throw a punch
- the people that KNOW how to fight are less likely to get into fights. it's like, by taking up martial arts, they lose that need to prove themselves
- if you're at at a club or bar and try to scrap, 9 times out of 10 bouncers will be on your ass and you'll end up feeling like a moron because you just ruined the night for everyone
- the more socially intelligent you get, the more congruent you become with your limitations and the better your ability to defuse social conflict gets. personally, I can't fight for sht. I have a muscular frame and people misinterpret this plus the fact I'm Chinese as I must know some martial arts, but I don't. but I CAN talk my way out of conflict without losing value. which is better, because when we go out, we go out to have a good time, not to be sitting on the sidewalk with the pigs watching us

 

[TakenDirectly]

^^
that brings up a good point. What was it you exactly did that you considered "****y"?

 

[PrinceBeavis]

What they said about being ****y. You only smart off to your friends, and only after you are close enough to do so, and they get when you're joking.
All other times, you show fair respect to others, and show yourself as someone who demands it in turn.

 

[SilverSonnet]

The only reason I responded to your post cause I thought you had potential, but boy was I wrong. If you acted ****y to this guy for no reason, I do not blame him at all. There are some people that will take that sort of thing and some guys won't. What was your goal in trying to act ****y to this guy? Next time if you are going to act ****y to someone that won't tolerate that sort of thing be prepared to defend yourself or lose respect from everyone in the school. In your other post you asked what you can do to be popular in school. Look at the most popular guy in your school and ask yourself does he ever get picked on?

we were on MSN, and I was making a few jokes, and he took it the wrong way and said i was being ****y. I didn't think I was. His words, not mine. And to clarify this, There were TWO people. One that I was "****y" to (for which I apologised beforehand for) and the guy that hit me hard once(whose like the hardest guy in my school)

 

[SilverSonnet]

What they said about being ****y. You only smart off to your friends, and only after you are close enough to do so, and they get when you're joking.
All other times, you show fair respect to others, and show yourself as someone who demands it in turn.

He was my friend. I used to play football(soccer) everyday with him..

 

[SinJester]

At least make it known that if he is going to be physical with you that its going to hurt him to.

I'm not suggesting you fight, it should be your last resort, but if he starts getting seriously physical, i.e. throwing punches and landing a few, you should at least make sure it's known no one can walk over you.

That's my opinion, take that advice if you will.

 

[Groovy]

Lesson to be learned: It's easier to stay out then it is to get out.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Do you have friends Silver ?
Why dont they help you to beat his ass ?

You cant be pvssy always and to run away home crying . Next time someone bothers , try to be the first to hit him . Hit him on nose , or in middle of nose and mouth or on the chin . This will put him in the ground . One straight punch . Kickin in balls also helps but its a bit wussy move . Ive been into fights a lot of times and ive been beaten many times too .

Its better to fight back and to be beaten than to be beaten and go home crying .

 

[SilverSonnet]

Do you have friends Silver ?
Why dont they help you to beat his ass ?

You cant be pvssy always and to run away home crying . Next time someone bothers , try to be the first to hit him . Hit him on nose , or in middle of nose and mouth or on the chin . This will put him in the ground . One straight punch . Kickin in balls also helps but its a bit wussy move . Ive been into fights a lot of times and ive been beaten many times too .

Its better to fight back and to be beaten than to be beaten and go home crying .

Haha, Love it bro. Well, your points are pretty sound. Some guys say it's always best to avoid fights, but sometimes you have to fight once to stop from having to fight more. (Watch Never Back Down for a bigger idea on this)
So, next time somebody does start, I'm gonna kick his ass. Hopefully, that will be the end of it. And if not, I'll keep doing it, until people get the picture.
It's just I have a hard time hitting back. I go all wimpish, putting my head down and walking away, like a beta male.
Anyway, I'm going to finish learning Kickboxing, and hopefully I wont have to use it, but from now on, I'll always defend myself.

 

[WesCottII]

*sigh*

Ben, I'll tell you what my "mentor" told her son, when he got smacked at school.

I can come to school, and I can sort this out for you. The "guys" who scare you, don't scare me, nor do their friends, dads, or anyone they can drag from the gutter. What they'll fear more, more than me kicking them around, more than me bringing all the big guys I know, is you. fighting. back. Next time anyone touches you, you smash them, and you don't stop, and you do it every time. It'll make them think twice about trying anything on.

At the end of the day, it's your fight, it's your life. But i'd be damned wether any gutter scum is going to touch me, and think they can get away with it.

 

[In Motion]

Do you have friends Silver ?
Why dont they help you to beat his ass ?

This is a good point, I recently got into to trouble with this punk, So many people are afraid of him, but I saw through that. My friends had my back and when he wanted to fight, we beat his ass. Have confidence. You are NOT a doormat, you fight BACK!

Btw; that guy we beat up lost all confidence and respect after what we did.