AAAgent's Approach journal

[AAAgent]

she then sends me a text message that takes about literally 1 minute to scroll entirely through it and then emails me the same message as if I didn't get it the first time.

This is all during hurricane sandy and we have no power, my neighborhood is a mess and the house next door is partially torn down. I wanted to call the cops on this crazy girl as she didn't understand what leave me alone was. I've talked to her at least 4 times to try to give her some closure and each time it comes back worse than before and i'm planning on moving out in february so i'll try to tough it out until then.

 

[sageproduct]

Wtf? Lol I click on this thread for the first time, read the first post, go to the last page, now read this...what happened in between lol

 

[AAAgent]

what makes it worse was we never dated...I haven't kissed her or even held her hand. b1tch be cray man.

 

[AAAgent]

Not even sure how to handle this.

I washed and dryed my clothes on Friday night. I left the dryed clothes in the dryer unit. She knocks on my door 9pm at night asking if i can take my clothes out of the dryer. I Ignored her.

Why you ask?

Because the b1tch didn't even wash her clothes yet...why do i need to remove my clothes from the dryer if your not even using it yet. Anyways, she texted me letting me know she put my clothes on the couch. I leave them there over the weekend as it's my couch anyway. I come home to find my clothes back in the dryer.

Great, no biggie. Atleast she didn't put them in my room this time (which she has done MANY times). I bring them back to my room and i realize the crazy b1tch dryed her clothes with mine.... WTF is this sh1t. My clothes were already dry and you left them on the couch. Does it even make sense to put my clothes back in the dryer and dry your clothes with mine?

This girl takes the bus into NYC everyday. I take the train because im used to it...its a bit more expensive but it saves me the hassle of seeing her. Today i get on the train and halfway through the ride i realize she has been standing behind me the whole time. The train has 15 door entrances.....even if you did have a reason to take the train...how did you end up randomly at the door i chose.

to make it worse, once the crowd of people cleared up she stood directly behind me and wrapped her arm around me. It wasn't that drastically crowded that required her to to that okay. I just pretended like it wasn't a big deal and just minded my own business. Now i try to leave the train and 2 people next to me are trying to get out as well and she doesn't move her arm until i say "Excuse me.".

Suggestions on how to handle a crazy psycho girl?

 

[Kbomb]

She is infatuated with you. The version of you in her head is like this supreme being. You must shatter that illusion by doing weird things like biting your toenails in the living room and sniffing your fingers after you scratch your balls. Sniff your socks in public view. Etc etc.

 

[AAAgent]

Any other advice that doesn't involve me acting like her (crazy)?

 

[AAAgent]

pretty buzzed. Went to company holiday party and asked out the bartender. Told her she was cute and i'd like to take her out to lunch or dinner sometime....obviously she told me she had a bf. She poured me 3 shots even though she said she wouldnt do shots.I saw 3 ppl ask her about shots and she ignored them.

Basically i get a few drinks from her and she's stone cold face.

I then ask for 3 shots and she says that they're not doing shots.

AAA:Can i get 3 shots of patron.
HB8: Sorry, we're not doing shots tonight.
AAA: okay.

I turn around and talk to my co-workers and tell them. Then she says, wait.

HB8: I can probably do 3, but 3 only.
AAA: cool.

We down the shots and i tip her real well. I go back to chill and talk to people then i come back for another drink.

AAA: Can i get black label on the rocks.
HB8: sure. (she gets it and gives it to me)
AAA: THanks.
HB8: So what kind of company are you all from?
AAA: blah blah
HB8: what's the name of it?
AAA: (i tell her the name). Then walk away.

I go back later for another drink and she gets it for me.

AAA: Hey (i motion for her to come closer and she leans over the bar)
AAA: (I say something and she says she can't hear)
AAA: I thought u were cute and I want to take you out to lunch or dinner sometime. When are you free?
HB8: oh sorry, i have a BF.
AAA: oh okay.
HB8: Thanks though.
AAA: ( I just turn around and walk away casually).

I later grab a red bull from her so i can head home.

Not sure if i'm too forward but i like being direct. I may need to build more rapport but my conversation skills haven't been great lately. I probably need to be a bit more C+F but depending on how im feeling i'll be a hit or miss with my speech(blunt or smooth).

I also told the global head of marketing at my company that she was smoking hot and lived up to the montreal rep of having beautiful women....damn im pretty buzzed. oh well.

We were talking about how she started here, how long she's been here, what offices she's been to, etc.
I also told the head of sales at my company she was the most beautiful girl in the company. She is pretty but i mistook this guy as her husband and she seemed mad so i threw her a compliment.

Maybe i'll ask her out when im sober. She did thank me.

 

[AAAgent]

Anyways....this girl that's been bugging me on Facebook...i asked her out

How we met is below.

She my boi's girlfriends friend. She had a bday dinner about 6 months back (she's 21). I could tell she was digging me but had a bf. I just ignored her and added her on fb. 1.5 months ago she messages me on fb a few times. We get talking and she's clearly into me. She said g'night to me a few times but logged back on FB and kept talking to me so i just asked for her number (never give her mine) and told her i'd hit her up sometime as i wasn't really into her.

she's pretty damn innocent and has a curfew n **** but i decide she'd be good to work so i text her after im home (which is now), being drunk n all (which she doesn't know.).

AAA: HB6.5
HB6.5: ?
AAA: Are you free this weekend?
HB6.5: Who is it?
AAA: AAA from ur birthday dinner.
HB6.5: Oh.. Yeh im free this weekend. Wassup?
AAA: Would you like to come out for lunch or dinner?
HB6.5: Oh doesn't matter to me =) but let talk bout dat later tmr. I having my last final exam tmr, gotta study now..
HB6.5: good night AAA =)
AAA: Ok. I'll let u go but i'll put u on the clock have a good night.
HB6.5: Lol! I will text u when im done my final, no worry! =)P.

This weekend i will try to get some good news...not really into her but she's decent enough...i really only go after 8's and higher tho.

 

[AAAgent]

at 5:45pm the next day

HB6.5: Hello =)
I respond 3 hours later. I'm busy working and commuting to and from.
AAA: How'd finals go?
HB6.5: It went well! THanks =) sorry just ate dinner upstairs! Wrud?
AAA: watching football. So how's lunch this saturday?
HB6.5: Oh where when n with who? =)
AAA: Just me and u. Do you prefer Asian or American food?
HB6.5: Oh, what so special? Any good news I should know? And i like Asian food =)
HB6.5: Good, nite!! I gotta go work at 8am tar =( sweet dreams! Oh, btw are u in NYC now? Or u move back to NJ?

I didn't respond. she asked soo many questions and i was chilling with my boys. She seriously asked me where when and with who and that annoyed me. I respond this morning but i have a busy day so i respond straight forward and to the point.

AAA: (8am) haha. My bad, didn't get ur text till now.
AAA: It'd be nice to get to know u and see maybe if i might like u (such poor word choice on my behalf. I should have said "maybe if i find you interesting.").
HB6.5: Good morning!!
HB6.5: Lol, so u mean ur single?
AAA: morning and yes i am. Don't go advertising it now.
AAA: Let me know i u want to grab some food Saturday.

(as im typing this she responds 30 minutes later)

HB6.5: Yup, we can do that's.
AAA: Cool. I'll give u a call later tonight and work on plans (autocorrect changed out to on).

Well off to my interview guys.

 

[AAAgent]

So the girl has been crazy texting me all throughout the week. I respond periodically to maintain her interest but im not into this texting thing anymore.

I think i just killed a part of the afc inside of me. I have only slept with girls i've had feelings for in the past (liked/love) or I have been completely sh1tfaced and just don't care.

I dropped this girl off at her house and went in for the kiss who i didn't care for at all. I got it on the second try and called it a nite. She called me 2 minutes later.


HB6.5: Hey, im in my room now.
AAA: What's up? Something wrong?
HB6.5: Oh, nothings wrong. I just wanted to know why you kissed me.
AAA: umm... Because i wanted to.
hb6.5: oh. okay.
AAA: I'm driving now, so i'll ttyl.
hb6.5: okay. bye.

She *accidentally sent me some a text in viet but obviously it was on purpose for me to decode. I don't really care. She then text it was great meeting me and would love to learn more about me which sounds good. ttyl.

She continues to text me and i respond to the first one and leave it at that.

 

[sageproduct]

Asian girl eh? Only fwcking asian girls do that "why did you kiss me" sh1t. I kissed this asian who was 27 FWCKING YEARS OLD and she immediately goes "what are you looking for"

 

[AAAgent]

Update on Asian girl:

She started texting me alot of I miss you, when are you coming back and i really couldn't deal with it. Not that i wasn't interested in her, i just didn't want to get lovey dove like that. My conscious got the better of me and i told her straight up that i was only looking to casually date. Then she said that's cool she just wants to be friends with me and learn from me since we're in the same field. She started texting me less and stopped the needy stuff. I came back this week after christmas and we agreed to get dinner and a movie. I picked the time and place. I later texted her that there aren't any good movies out and that i would go out and buy a few movies and we could watch it back at my place. She said we could just do dinner but i insisted on watching a movie together... but she finally agreed after alot of resistance.

HB6.5: Hey sorry my phone has no service (email texting)
hb6.5: idk if u would ge this message...im using iMessage now! Tmobile sucks
hb6.5:so are u free tomorrow nite after 10pm? I can come over ur place for a movie and hang out..
AAA:sure sounds good.

She asks for my address and i give it to her. The next day she texts me and bails......what a bummer. I've been getting more aggressive and sexual and it seems to be doing the job but i need to get better at this LMR. I tried to get her to come over again but she kept telling me she didn't want to get hurt and she knows i don't like her. I just basically left it alone. NEXT

Global head of marketing seems to have interest in me and all my close co-workers are telling me to ask her out but thought she is attractive, i don't really want any drama.

Lesson's learned:

Never reveal your intentions. (i told the girl i was looking for a casual relationship and that is what caused this mess. I could have gotten her over for a movie if i didn't say that stuff but then again she'd probably be clingy as hell.)

 

[ARrocket]

Update on Asian girl:

Lesson's learned:

Never reveal your intentions. (i told the girl i was looking for a casual relationship and that is what caused this mess. I could have gotten her over for a movie if i didn't say that stuff but then again she'd probably be clingy as hell.)

Ha! I was about to reply and say pretty much this, but then I read the last paragraph. Definitely wait until you sleep with the next one before telling her you're just looking to casually date

 

[AAAgent]

Ha! I was about to reply and say pretty much this, but then I read the last paragraph. Definitely wait until you sleep with the next one before telling her you're just looking to casually date

Definitely will do. I use to be a nice guy way too much. Now I'm trying to break that habit, but i won't lie to do it.

Well, i'm still trying to work her since she's all i got atm. She keeps wanting to do special things with me like NYE fireworks which i deny, meet her friends etc. but im not looking to make anymore friends. Went out to the movies last night and made out and touched every except down low. Tried again to get her to come over today but she hasn't responded. She knows i'm trying to fvck her but she doesn't want to give it up to me unless i get into a relationship with her.

Oh well.

Hope u guys have it better than me.

 

[AAAgent]

Found out the girl was staying at home because she didn't have anyone to hang out with. Plus I denied spendingg it with her. I felt bad and stepped away into my friends room to do the countdown with her on the phone. Pretty afc I think but w/e. I'm slowly getting her to send dirtier pics.

Met this white girl hb6.5 also. She came over to the house. Randomly saw her come out of the bathroom and went for the kiss. I got a peck on the lips. Got her number right before she left. I haven't really been smooth about my advances so far but It gets the job done.

 

[AAAgent]

Things didn't work out with the hb6.5 i met on NYE. I think her friend heard me and my friend talking about just wanting to bang chicks because she told me she was free all week and then went cold on me. I called her twice later to try and ask her out but no answer and no response. Next.

Asian HB6.5 is on vacation. She is still really into me but its not vice versa. She bought new lingerie from VS and said she'd wear it for me and would sleep over next time at my apt, instead of my parents house.

Today went out with the Chosen0ne. I was feeling pretty good and after watching him make a few approaches i did the same.

Saw a girl working at macy's. cute little tiny italian or middle eastern of some sort. I passed by her 5 minutes and then told chosen0ne i was going back to talk to her. I went back and walked around her for another 5-10 minutes and then slowly inched towards her. Right when she noticed me i initiated.

AAA: Hi. (she looks up at me) I thought you were cute and I just wanted to come over and introduce myself. My name is AAA.
HB8: Oh hi. I'm Jennileese (something like that).
AAA: Nice to meet you Jennileese. (hold on hand and shake hers. I have a huge smile and it makes her smile too).
HB8: I have a boyfriend.......
AAA: Oh ok. Well it was nice meeting you.
HB8: Thanks. You too.

I consider that my very first successful cold approach sober. She was actually friendly and not creeped out since i was able to get over my anxiety.

Approach 2

We walk by a fossil store and i saw a cute asian girl HB7. I told chosen0ne i would go back in a bit to talk to her. He went to look at some stuff and i told him i'd brb. I walk into the store and look at a few watches and she comes to talk to me. She asks me what im looking for, compliments my necklace and ask's what nationality I am. I told her Chinese and she says she thought i was viet and blah blah she knows asians. We talk some more i ask her whats popular but i really have no interest in fossil watches. Finally i ask her out.

AAA: I actually came here to talk to you. I thought you were cute and wanted to introduce myself. My name is AAA, whats your name?
HB7: Oh, i'm donna (she's super flustered and looking down/away).
AAA: Nice to meet you Donna (hold out my hand ot shake hers). I have to get going but i'd like to take you out to dinner sometime. What's your number?
hb7: I can't................(she says very reluctantly)
AAA: I just want to sit down and grab a bite to eat and get to know you as we don't know each other.
hb7: I really can't.........I have a boyfriend...
AAA: Oh okay. Well it was nice meeting you Donna.
hb7: you too AAA.

This girl seemed upset she had a bf.

 

[ARrocket]

I like it AAAgent, you're pretty direct, it's the kind of approaches I'm starting to get into. Keep approaching and keep us updated, it's good motivation.

 

[AAAgent]

Yeah. I figure small talk only really works in the girl is interested enough in having a conversation with you. Direct works for me and doesn't waste as much time.

Went out last night and invited chosen0ne. Got 3 numbers and invited them all to hang out with me next weekend. One of the girls would not give me her number although i persisted in asking for it. She told me she had a bf, then said she'd give me email, etc. I told her i can't actually save her contact in my phone if she gives me an email address because the contact needs a number (haha you probably can but i didn't know how).

The girls are leaving and I invite them out next week.

AAA: Why don't you give me your number and i'll give you a call/text next week and let you know when and where the party is.
HB6: Haha i'm not sure. I don't really give out my number like that. We'll be here next weekend.
AAA: Haha what?! Well i'm not going to be here next weekend. You guys should come hang out with me next weekend. The more girls the more bottles we get. Let me get your number so i can let you know.
HB6.5 (friend of hb6. I opened both but this one is married): She has a boyfriend though.
HB6: yeah I have a boyfriend. I'm not sure he would like it if he saw my phone and getting texts from a guy.
AAA: Look, if you want to come i need your number. Otherwise how am i supposed to let you know.
HB6: I think we're going to come back here next week, you should come here.
AAA: Can't its my friends bday. (i grab my friend, turn him around and point to him so they know. I wave by to them and talk to my friends.)

She comes back 2 mins later and taps me on the shoulder. The two set i was talking to earlier was standing above me dancing and this girl pulls out her phone and asks me for my number instead. I save my number in her phone and dial. So now we both have each others numbers but for some reason it didn't dial through and i didn't get her number (maybe i saved it wrong, who knows). She'll call if she wants to hang out.

I text the other 2 girls to make sure they got home safe. Only the really ugly one responded back. She's an hb5.5 and seems pretty interested. We'll see how this all goes.

 

[AAAgent]

Update: I was in a relationship all of 2014 so i was off the market. I broke it off because I didn't want to waste the girls time as she wanted to get married. inbetween my last post and my latest gf, i was pretty much just messing around, grabbing tons of numbers, making out with girls at bars and such. My ex was one of these situations that just wouldn't leave me alone but she was good. Cooked, cleaned, and took care of me if you know what i mean.

During my relationship, i quit my job to work on my startup. I didn't plan it properly and spent all my savings and had to get back into the job market. Being broke and single, i decided to focus on picking myself back on my feet and didn't really start dating until last month. I did make out with some girl back in January but it didn't work out. My game is strong in person, but im horrible at texting since i'm pretty cold and straight forward.

 

[AAAgent]

I was set up on a blind date with an older woman (im 28 she's 32). My friend is asian and is dating this white girl whos 5 years older. They set me up with her best friend.

They gave me her number and asked me to call her. I sent her a text asking her if she'd be cool if i gave her a ring later on that night. she said yeah. I gave her a call that night, prepped myself to have a smooth convo. I was only planning on chatting for 5 minutes or so to get to know her and make sure everythings good before i setup the date, but the call ended up going on almost 20 minutes. I had to cut it short to setup the date. We set it up for two weeks later and we agreed i'd give her a call in a week to follow-up and confirm with a place and time. I did that 5 days later and kept the call to 2 minutes.

We met up and the date went really well. Spent 5 hours together, started off at a restaurant, finished a bottle of wine and went across the street to play some pool, air hockey and get a few more drinks. We left to get more food and were already holding hands. She made a comment about me being assertive, which i took as a good sign. We got food and sobered up a bit and as i was walking to her car, i gave her my jacket and put my arm around her. She drove me to my car and I made out with her. She texted me she had a great night.