Well heres a story (sorry it's a bit long):
Theres this girl who was actually dating my brother first, but they had a falling out and he left town for a while. Me and this girl hooked up, and at first it was awkward and we didn't really know what to do next. We understood that it would make a lot of friends angry, but opted to pursue things anyway.
Anyway, at first things were great, but some of my brothers friends would not stop harassing this girl about how low down it was to switch between brothers. (What they did not understand is that she and my brother had went separate ways before our thing was ever thought about) and eventually she told me it sort of made her feel guilty. I anticipated that this could be a problem, and I just flat out asked her if she wanted to deal with it or break things off. I explained to her in the most direct way possible that I am not interested in being around a woman who feels guilty being around me. She told me she really liked me wanted to continue to pursue a relationship. We started spending a lot of time together, but things were really not the same after I gave her the ultimatum. Sex was still great, and we would still have a lot of fun together, but a lot of the time together just kind of felt strange and I knew what was coming. Whenever she would complain about someone putting guilt on her, I would tell her to get over it or break up, and one day we did. Sort of.
I told her I was tired of all of this guilt nonsense, and then she gave me a line of ******** I'm still trying to figure out all the way. My main problem in doing so is that this girl in particular is an extremely honest one, and does not take me for an idiot (one of the reasons I liked her). Some of it still sounds like ********, but there are parts I want to believe. She said something about how she was sorry that she felt guilty around me, and that she wanted me in her life even in a "just-friends" capacity. A bunch of stuff about how she needs to figure her life out and doesn't really want to be with anybody right now, but if she could make a choice on how her life was going she would want to be with me.
It all sounded like BS to me, and truth be told I was fine with that. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and if I can't have this one, no matter how much I liked her, there are others I can move on to.
Here is where it gets confusing. I told her I was fine with that, but if she changed her mind, I was open to the possibility of a relationship. She told me something about not knowing what she wanted, and so I played the just friends game a bit with her and made some booty calls to other girls on the side. But she still likes to do things like kiss on me, and touch me in ways that children would describe as naughty. Specifically, she sucks on my neck and grabs my package at random.
I was watching a movie with her just last night, and she asked if I would rub her back. I said sure, did it, and next thing I knew she was nibbling on my ear and playing with my waistline.
I've even heard stories about her shooting down all other callers since we "became un-official" (thats what she is calling it) which adds credibility to the "she doesn't want to be with anyone" sentiment she expressed.
But then, out of nowhere, she will all of the sudden turn cold, and do some "just friends" type stuff like giving me a goodnight kiss on the cheek with a friendly hug.
And then, she changes her tune all over again, asking me questions about if I've hooked up with anybody else, and sitting on my lap taking pride in the fact that she could "stir my loins." I'm fairly certain she would attempt to initiate sex, but she is on the rag right now, and knows I am against playing in blood.
She still expresses sentiments about wanting sex, and wanting to spend lots of time together. Things like asking if she can spend the night at my house.
Could somebody please tell me what is going on? Is she trying to get me into a friends-with-benefits situation? Is she trying to test me? (She was very concerned during the relationship that I only hooked up with her to make my brother, whom I despise, angry) Or is there a chance that she really does just want some space to get her head straight but is still into me?
Theres this girl who was actually dating my brother first, but they had a falling out and he left town for a while. Me and this girl hooked up, and at first it was awkward and we didn't really know what to do next. We understood that it would make a lot of friends angry, but opted to pursue things anyway.
Anyway, at first things were great, but some of my brothers friends would not stop harassing this girl about how low down it was to switch between brothers. (What they did not understand is that she and my brother had went separate ways before our thing was ever thought about) and eventually she told me it sort of made her feel guilty. I anticipated that this could be a problem, and I just flat out asked her if she wanted to deal with it or break things off. I explained to her in the most direct way possible that I am not interested in being around a woman who feels guilty being around me. She told me she really liked me wanted to continue to pursue a relationship. We started spending a lot of time together, but things were really not the same after I gave her the ultimatum. Sex was still great, and we would still have a lot of fun together, but a lot of the time together just kind of felt strange and I knew what was coming. Whenever she would complain about someone putting guilt on her, I would tell her to get over it or break up, and one day we did. Sort of.
I told her I was tired of all of this guilt nonsense, and then she gave me a line of ******** I'm still trying to figure out all the way. My main problem in doing so is that this girl in particular is an extremely honest one, and does not take me for an idiot (one of the reasons I liked her). Some of it still sounds like ********, but there are parts I want to believe. She said something about how she was sorry that she felt guilty around me, and that she wanted me in her life even in a "just-friends" capacity. A bunch of stuff about how she needs to figure her life out and doesn't really want to be with anybody right now, but if she could make a choice on how her life was going she would want to be with me.
It all sounded like BS to me, and truth be told I was fine with that. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and if I can't have this one, no matter how much I liked her, there are others I can move on to.
Here is where it gets confusing. I told her I was fine with that, but if she changed her mind, I was open to the possibility of a relationship. She told me something about not knowing what she wanted, and so I played the just friends game a bit with her and made some booty calls to other girls on the side. But she still likes to do things like kiss on me, and touch me in ways that children would describe as naughty. Specifically, she sucks on my neck and grabs my package at random.
I was watching a movie with her just last night, and she asked if I would rub her back. I said sure, did it, and next thing I knew she was nibbling on my ear and playing with my waistline.
I've even heard stories about her shooting down all other callers since we "became un-official" (thats what she is calling it) which adds credibility to the "she doesn't want to be with anyone" sentiment she expressed.
But then, out of nowhere, she will all of the sudden turn cold, and do some "just friends" type stuff like giving me a goodnight kiss on the cheek with a friendly hug.
And then, she changes her tune all over again, asking me questions about if I've hooked up with anybody else, and sitting on my lap taking pride in the fact that she could "stir my loins." I'm fairly certain she would attempt to initiate sex, but she is on the rag right now, and knows I am against playing in blood.
She still expresses sentiments about wanting sex, and wanting to spend lots of time together. Things like asking if she can spend the night at my house.
Could somebody please tell me what is going on? Is she trying to get me into a friends-with-benefits situation? Is she trying to test me? (She was very concerned during the relationship that I only hooked up with her to make my brother, whom I despise, angry) Or is there a chance that she really does just want some space to get her head straight but is still into me?
