Solomon
Master Don Juan
Hello Gentlemen,
First, I know this is a long post, but I believe some folks need to read and internalize this(heck even myself cause I have tendency to forget)what I'm about to type is nothing new to most of you. It may even sound rehashed or like the "same old, same old." However, I found that this mindset has worked for me ever since I applied it in my life since I started posting on this forum. I learned from the OG's on this forum(all of them are long gone now)I know the post is titled as a "Tip" but it should be a "Mindset:". Sometimes even a person who may have this mindset all their lives will forget it due to hard times, depression, or just life in general kicking their butt. Whenever I deviate from it, I tend to fail not just with women but also in other areas of life. This mindset is also something that has been reaffirmed to me recently several times by one of my mentors who is a millionaire who runs his own successful logistics company etc. This mindset truly catapulted my game results when I first started posting on this forum back in 2008 and to this day still works!
I see too many guys focused on looks, money, and status(LMS), or other things that discourage them from even trying with women because they aren't in a position to improve these things overnight. Look, I understand dating sucks in 2025 (I say 2025 because someone may read this in the future), and I have called this out many times myself seeing how things have decayed especially in the last 20 years. I'm not saying LMS doesn't matter that would be disingenuous of me to say. I believe as a man you should always strive to be the best version of yourself. You want the best woman, right? So it shouldn't be a shocker that women want the best man they can get. However, LMS is not the be-all and end-all, especially when it comes to women. This may not be popular to say but women aren't all a monolith when it comes to what they deem attractive. Yes, most women value those 3 things, but there are a lot of women who care more about how you make them feel even if you're not the best-looking guy or the richest guy, or the guy with the most "clout" or the "Tallet guy". Some of you may have seen me post about the RSD(Real Social Dynamics) gamer that I used to go out with. The guy was 5'4, 140 pounds soaking wet. Broke college kid who always wore the same white button-up shirt, when we went out and had to take the bus to go to the club If I didn't pick him up with my car. However, he had a 50% pull rate (meaning he would pull half the time a girl back to his or her place when we went out). These were not ugly girls either heck, I even saw him pull a 5'11 Venuzalen beauty once. Something that most on this board would say is impossible unless he was rich! Mind you at the time when we were going out I was in the best shape of my life and I was taller than him (I'm 6 foot) yet he was blowing me out of the water infield!
What made this guy so successful? When he talked to a woman he made women feel like they were the only woman in the world. He had the gift of gab and charm! I would see him charm and make countless women blush. One huge problem is a lot of men in 2024 have the personality of robots, don't know how to flirt, charm, or have the social intelligence to have witty banter with women today or as the younguns say "Being a Vibe" but that's another topic for another post.
However before you are worried about women in my opinion what matters more is how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself, and your overall well-being i.e. happiness, mental state etc. If you are trying to meet women and you feel loathing, resentment, and bitterness about them or you have negative mindsets about them ("All women are Thots") Then it will seep through in your interactions with them whether consciously or subconsciously. Women have this keen 6th sense to pick up on a man's vibe. even if a woman isn't able to tell right away eventually she will pick up on it because there is only so long your actions can hide the negativity and women will notice. Some guys do not even have a chance in the first 15 seconds cause your body language is schite and gives you away!
The main issue a lot of guys deal with is a negative mindset and focusing on things they don't want, even some of the so-called vets here. Why are you worried about an OnlyFans thot? Why are you worried about women you're not attracted to? Do you think women are worried about men they aren't attracted to? Hell no they ain't, they ain't even thinking about them! Yet you have men on various YouTube channels, on Reddit, heck even this forum worried about women every day that supposedly they don't want. This makes me believe You either want the OnlyFans or IG thot and are in denial about it (a form of projection), or you may sincerely just be giving your two cents.
I’ll tell you what I learned from my millionaire mentor: Rich people aren't focused on the things they don't want! Let me say that again: rich people aren’t focused on the things they don’t want. I truly believe what you focus on, your mind will consciously and/or subconsciously try to attract. If you are focused on all the negatives about women, then you will seek those types of women in one way or another even if you're not trying to. Because you're operating from a lower vibrational frequency.
Our minds are far more powerful than we think. When I go down negative rabbit holes, I reframe a situation I learned from the OG poster Snowplowman aka Distantlight who I learned this from back in the day. For example,
This may sound corny, right? But it does work. Too many guys are putting women on a pedestal and worrying about stuff that hasn't happened yet or stuff that won’t matter. There are women that I thought, wouldn't be attracted to me, and they were. There are women I thought in the past wouldn't hook up with me, and they did. Do you think that when Michael Jordan took that last shot against Utah in '98, thinking to himself, "What if I miss?" heck no. Jordan was thinking, "I'm gonna hit this shot and then smoke a Cuban cigar!"
Before you can change anything about your financial situation, your physique, or even your status, you have to change your mindset first. A lot of men are already doomed with a woman before they engage. Because you are going in with a negative mindset. Does this mean you will always win? of course not you're not going to get every woman, and that's okay. Focus on the ones you want, and build yourself and your life to be attractive, not just for the women but for yourself. Have an engaging, fun, flirty personality. What works for me may not work for you, but an abundance mentality starts with your mindset first and foremost. This is something that all the greats will tell you in any field!
Cheers
Solo
First, I know this is a long post, but I believe some folks need to read and internalize this(heck even myself cause I have tendency to forget)what I'm about to type is nothing new to most of you. It may even sound rehashed or like the "same old, same old." However, I found that this mindset has worked for me ever since I applied it in my life since I started posting on this forum. I learned from the OG's on this forum(all of them are long gone now)I know the post is titled as a "Tip" but it should be a "Mindset:". Sometimes even a person who may have this mindset all their lives will forget it due to hard times, depression, or just life in general kicking their butt. Whenever I deviate from it, I tend to fail not just with women but also in other areas of life. This mindset is also something that has been reaffirmed to me recently several times by one of my mentors who is a millionaire who runs his own successful logistics company etc. This mindset truly catapulted my game results when I first started posting on this forum back in 2008 and to this day still works!
I see too many guys focused on looks, money, and status(LMS), or other things that discourage them from even trying with women because they aren't in a position to improve these things overnight. Look, I understand dating sucks in 2025 (I say 2025 because someone may read this in the future), and I have called this out many times myself seeing how things have decayed especially in the last 20 years. I'm not saying LMS doesn't matter that would be disingenuous of me to say. I believe as a man you should always strive to be the best version of yourself. You want the best woman, right? So it shouldn't be a shocker that women want the best man they can get. However, LMS is not the be-all and end-all, especially when it comes to women. This may not be popular to say but women aren't all a monolith when it comes to what they deem attractive. Yes, most women value those 3 things, but there are a lot of women who care more about how you make them feel even if you're not the best-looking guy or the richest guy, or the guy with the most "clout" or the "Tallet guy". Some of you may have seen me post about the RSD(Real Social Dynamics) gamer that I used to go out with. The guy was 5'4, 140 pounds soaking wet. Broke college kid who always wore the same white button-up shirt, when we went out and had to take the bus to go to the club If I didn't pick him up with my car. However, he had a 50% pull rate (meaning he would pull half the time a girl back to his or her place when we went out). These were not ugly girls either heck, I even saw him pull a 5'11 Venuzalen beauty once. Something that most on this board would say is impossible unless he was rich! Mind you at the time when we were going out I was in the best shape of my life and I was taller than him (I'm 6 foot) yet he was blowing me out of the water infield!
What made this guy so successful? When he talked to a woman he made women feel like they were the only woman in the world. He had the gift of gab and charm! I would see him charm and make countless women blush. One huge problem is a lot of men in 2024 have the personality of robots, don't know how to flirt, charm, or have the social intelligence to have witty banter with women today or as the younguns say "Being a Vibe" but that's another topic for another post.
However before you are worried about women in my opinion what matters more is how you think about yourself, how you feel about yourself, and your overall well-being i.e. happiness, mental state etc. If you are trying to meet women and you feel loathing, resentment, and bitterness about them or you have negative mindsets about them ("All women are Thots") Then it will seep through in your interactions with them whether consciously or subconsciously. Women have this keen 6th sense to pick up on a man's vibe. even if a woman isn't able to tell right away eventually she will pick up on it because there is only so long your actions can hide the negativity and women will notice. Some guys do not even have a chance in the first 15 seconds cause your body language is schite and gives you away!
The main issue a lot of guys deal with is a negative mindset and focusing on things they don't want, even some of the so-called vets here. Why are you worried about an OnlyFans thot? Why are you worried about women you're not attracted to? Do you think women are worried about men they aren't attracted to? Hell no they ain't, they ain't even thinking about them! Yet you have men on various YouTube channels, on Reddit, heck even this forum worried about women every day that supposedly they don't want. This makes me believe You either want the OnlyFans or IG thot and are in denial about it (a form of projection), or you may sincerely just be giving your two cents.
I’ll tell you what I learned from my millionaire mentor: Rich people aren't focused on the things they don't want! Let me say that again: rich people aren’t focused on the things they don’t want. I truly believe what you focus on, your mind will consciously and/or subconsciously try to attract. If you are focused on all the negatives about women, then you will seek those types of women in one way or another even if you're not trying to. Because you're operating from a lower vibrational frequency.
Our minds are far more powerful than we think. When I go down negative rabbit holes, I reframe a situation I learned from the OG poster Snowplowman aka Distantlight who I learned this from back in the day. For example,
"She won't like me because I'm not rich enough."
Think:
"She's lucky to be around a fun dude like me!"
Or,
"She won't like me because I'm not Chad."
Think:
"She ain't never met a dude like me. I'm going to take her on an adventure and blow her mind!"
Think:
"She's lucky to be around a fun dude like me!"
Or,
"She won't like me because I'm not Chad."
Think:
"She ain't never met a dude like me. I'm going to take her on an adventure and blow her mind!"
This may sound corny, right? But it does work. Too many guys are putting women on a pedestal and worrying about stuff that hasn't happened yet or stuff that won’t matter. There are women that I thought, wouldn't be attracted to me, and they were. There are women I thought in the past wouldn't hook up with me, and they did. Do you think that when Michael Jordan took that last shot against Utah in '98, thinking to himself, "What if I miss?" heck no. Jordan was thinking, "I'm gonna hit this shot and then smoke a Cuban cigar!"
Before you can change anything about your financial situation, your physique, or even your status, you have to change your mindset first. A lot of men are already doomed with a woman before they engage. Because you are going in with a negative mindset. Does this mean you will always win? of course not you're not going to get every woman, and that's okay. Focus on the ones you want, and build yourself and your life to be attractive, not just for the women but for yourself. Have an engaging, fun, flirty personality. What works for me may not work for you, but an abundance mentality starts with your mindset first and foremost. This is something that all the greats will tell you in any field!
Cheers
Solo
