A Shocking Revelation About My Health: And I Will Answer Your Questions Here

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by SexPDX
Giovanni, I commend you for making yourself available to answer questions on this topic. I am sure many people will benefit from this.

What this prompts me to wonder is how I would react if a girl I was interested in admitted to me that she had herpes before we had sex.

Well, it definitely would take at least some modicum of commitment or what have you to agree to have sex with a girl who you know to have herpes. There is certainly the risk that you could contract it also, even if you reduce the risk by taking some precautions. Catching herpes certainly isn't the end of the world, but I sure wouldn't recommend doing it knowingly and needlessly.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Well, it definitely would take at least some modicum of commitment or what have you to agree to have sex with a girl who you know to have herpes. There is certainly the risk that you could contract it also, even if you reduce the risk by taking some precautions. Catching herpes certainly isn't the end of the world, but I sure wouldn't recommend doing it knowingly and needlessly.

very nicely said !

 

[Oxide]

I think one of the ways you could ease the shock effect of telling a girl before sex is by saying something along these lines "I have herpes, I got it genetically from my parents" ... or would a girl look right through that?

I will get tested, but you guys know the feeling of going to get tested KNOWING you have something bad...

I've always said im looking for more than just sex.. well here is a good one that came right along..

 

[jakethasnake]

Just another thought:


Most guys, when in the privacy of their own room or apartment (if you live by yourself), do all sorts of **** with their genitals while puttering about the house. Let's be honest here.


You might absent-mindedly give your balls a good scratch while watching Monday Night Football, and then flip the channel with your remote. The virus will now be waiting for you or someone else when it is next touched. The same could go for keyboards, mouses, doorknobs, taps/faucets, etc.


You might jack off to porn and touch your shaft or balls, then suddenly have to answer the door when you are (rudely) interrupted. You haven't c-um yet so you won't make a slimy mess, but what if you leave shedded virus on your mouse as you close the internet browser, open the door by the doorknob, etc.?



The risk is always there. What a disconcerting thought.



And by the way, I had a girl give me a bareback bl0wjob when I was on vacation in Europe. We met in a bar, and though we hung out for 2 days straight after that night, we only had sexual contact (the BJ, no intercourse) that one time. She had later confided to me that she had once worked a while as a callgirl in the past, which was a crazy fvcking shock to me. It's likely that she has had hundreds of lovers.


Anyway I noticed a few weeks after I came home (before she told me thru e-mail about her former job - we had a correspondance for a few months) that I had a little bump on the underside of my shaft. It wasn't an open sore, but a 'bump', like a really 'unripe' zit when it first forms on your face. And it was about that size too. It was neither red nor painful to the touch, as zits on the face tend to be. Just a bump, as if a BB bullet was inserted under my skin (the bump was smaller than a BB bullet, though). I was paranoid about it for a while, but eventually it went away and never came back. My shaft has since been smoother than Jennifer Love Hewitt's face.


So I wanted to ask you: is it possible that this is some weird case of Herpes simplex-2 that kinda came but never did? Or is it a genital wart? What is it? I have had NO outbreaks of anything since then.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
Most guys, when in the privacy of their own room or apartment (if you live by yourself), do all sorts of **** with their genitals while puttering about the house. Let's be honest here.

You might absent-mindedly give your balls a good scratch while watching Monday Night Football, and then flip the channel with your remote. The virus will now be waiting for you or someone else when it is next touched. The same could go for keyboards, mouses, doorknobs, taps/faucets, etc.

You might jack off to porn and touch your shaft or balls, then suddenly have to answer the door when you are (rudely) interrupted. You haven't c-um yet so you won't make a slimy mess, but what if you leave shedded virus on your mouse as you close the internet browser, open the door by the doorknob, etc.?

The herpes virus is not resilient enough to be spread that way (the same way you can't really spread HIV that way either).

 

[jakethasnake]

And info/advice for me considering that little 'bump' that used to be on my wang? I'm REALLY paranoid about sleeping with random girls after that encounter (the last time I've laid actually, which was about 6 months ago, only makeouts since then), and understandably so. Women cannot be trusted to be honest.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
And info/advice for me considering that little 'bump' that used to be on my wang? I'm REALLY paranoid about sleeping with random girls after that encounter (the last time I've laid actually, which was about 6 months ago, only makeouts since then), and understandably so. Women cannot be trusted to be honest.

My advice would be to see a doctor about it. From your description, it sounds more like a genital wart than genital herpes. But it might not be either one. Get yourself to a doctor to find out.

 

[prosemont]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
And info/advice for me considering that little 'bump' that used to be on my wang? I'm REALLY paranoid about sleeping with random girls after that encounter (the last time I've laid actually, which was about 6 months ago, only makeouts since then), and understandably so. Women cannot be trusted to be honest.

Jake, from what you describe, it doesn't sound like herpes or genital warts but rather a fatty deposit that is sometimes caused by some rough handling (or sucking, hahaha). These usually go away in a short period of time uneventfully. I had something similar to what you describe ... it was a painless bump under the skin -- no sores, etc., and the doctor said it was what I described above; it went away in about a week.

There's no way to know definitively unless it recurs and you have a doctor examine/swab it.

You might also want to get a herpes blood test for types 1 and 2 so that you know at least what you currently have (although the blood test won't tell you where you have either).

 

[Oxide]

Finally today i've set my mind of getting tested. I even came half an hour before the clinic open to be the first one in. This clinic was free, which is great, becuase i got tested for basically everything out there, and that would cost a pretty penny.


Now, the nurse listened to what i said "bumps, havent gone away for 4 weeks.." and replied that she thinks it is genital warts..and that she will bring liquid nitrogen. (i was like, huh? let's freeze stuff!)

She came back, my pants came down. She looked at my stuff and said that she doesnt think its warts..looks more like pimples.. she asked another nurse's opinion and then finally figured it out...

I have something called "Moluscum"..which is not an STD, but one of the ways you can get it is through body contact. You can also get it from towels and all that shared stuff. The nurse sprayed me with liquid nitrogen, which HURTS like a b1tch!!! Usually these things go away on their own within 6 months, or sooner if u spray em with n2o

I also got tested for all of the other stuff and came out negative, it's like i got another chance at life really..



To all the people contributing to this thread, especially Gio and Penkitten, thank you very much. I've learned more about herpes in last 2 weeks than in all 20 years of my life. The possibilty of having an STD made me really look different on the whole dating and sex scenes. Honestly, i am at the point where i never want this feeling to come back, so i am going to be VERY picky about women im with, probably making them submit a test to me (if they like me they will)
Thank you again for all the input guys, you really made a difference.

 

[duke007]

This is scary.

If a girl with oral herpes gives you a bl0wjob, can you contract genital herpes?

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Oxide
Finally today i've set my mind of getting tested. I even came half an hour before the clinic open to be the first one in. This clinic was free, which is great, becuase i got tested for basically everything out there, and that would cost a pretty penny.


Now, the nurse listened to what i said "bumps, havent gone away for 4 weeks.." and replied that she thinks it is genital warts..and that she will bring liquid nitrogen. (i was like, huh? let's freeze stuff!)

She came back, my pants came down. She looked at my stuff and said that she doesnt think its warts..looks more like pimples.. she asked another nurse's opinion and then finally figured it out...

I have something called "Moluscum"..which is not an STD, but one of the ways you can get it is through body contact. You can also get it from towels and all that shared stuff. The nurse sprayed me with liquid nitrogen, which HURTS like a b1tch!!! Usually these things go away on their own within 6 months, or sooner if u spray em with n2o

I also got tested for all of the other stuff and came out negative, it's like i got another chance at life really..



To all the people contributing to this thread, especially Gio and Penkitten, thank you very much. I've learned more about herpes in last 2 weeks than in all 20 years of my life. The possibilty of having an STD made me really look different on the whole dating and sex scenes. Honestly, i am at the point where i never want this feeling to come back, so i am going to be VERY picky about women im with, probably making them submit a test to me (if they like me they will)
Thank you again for all the input guys, you really made a difference.

i am pretty sure that Moluscum is a yeast infection... no real big deal . they go away with meds and creams ...
at least now other guys can see that you can too catch a yeast infection and those fekkers hurt !!itch and burn!!



i am glad that we could give you some help and info and encouragement to think about your health when it comes to sex.
i hope that everyone that read this thread , even those that didnt reply , gained some knowledge also.

And for everyone who does have herpes, dont give up, because its really not that big of a deal if you have to live with it.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by duke007
This is scary.

If a girl with oral herpes gives you a bl0wjob, can you contract genital herpes?

yes sir, you could catch it.
but you might not.
its a chance.

chances are very high, if she is outbroken with a cold sore.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
And info/advice for me considering that little 'bump' that used to be on my wang? I'm REALLY paranoid about sleeping with random girls after that encounter (the last time I've laid actually, which was about 6 months ago, only makeouts since then), and understandably so. Women cannot be trusted to be honest.

jake, could this just be a ingrown hair follicle or a boil?

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by penkitten
jake, could this just be a ingrown hair follicle or a boil?

I'm Asian - I only have where it belongs. That means I don't have clusters of hair on my fvcking shoulders or on the head of my penis.



(What I'm saying is - no, I don't think it was an ingrown hair. )

 

[penkitten]

jake,
from what i understand

warts hpv are hard and white and do not go away . they just stay there usually on the head but anywhere.

herpes hsv come up hard with flu like symptoms then blister up like chicken pox and some pop and spread for a first outbreak, but they scab over like chicken pox in about 4 days or so and then they dry up and disappear.

an ingrown hair would be hard and might get a white head like a pimple until the hair is dug out. and usually bleeds a little when you pop it.

a boil will be hard and come up and stay for a week or so maybe two then slowly go away.


go to the dr and check out afraidtoask.com

 

[Lost]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
however, herpes infections are often outside of the range of a condom (i.e., in the pelvic region and upper thigh areas). During outbreaks herpes sores are often visible, but even then there is virus before and after the outbreak when you might not see any visible signs.

why dont they have condoms that cover those regions? it may sound funny but, hell, i think it could work. i mean what all parts can get infected? you said the pelvic and thighs. im sure they could make condoms longer, or even change the shape as to fit around more areas (testicles).

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Lost
why dont they have condoms that cover those regions? it may sound funny but, hell, i think it could work. i mean what all parts can get infected? you said the pelvic and thighs. im sure they could make condoms longer, or even change the shape as to fit around more areas (testicles).

come on now lost,
why did you think they really made saran wrap colored?
did you think it was for cher to wear in concerts?

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by Lost
why dont they have condoms that cover those regions? it may sound funny but, hell, i think it could work. i mean what all parts can get infected? you said the pelvic and thighs. im sure they could make condoms longer, or even change the shape as to fit around more areas (testicles).

Go ahead and create a condom that covers all the way to your thighs - best of luck finding a buyer. What you're recommending - pelvis to thighs - would be a pair of condom-shorts. From your waist to your thighs.. that's a pretty extreme method of birth control. Not to mention uncomfortable to get into...

 

[topher]

okay, i have a couple questions

#1 do herpes sores get whiteheads on them like ingrown hairs and pimples?

#2 if it is like someone said 90% of the US population has oral herpes should I next girls that have herpes or try to work around the disease?

#3 when does the virus shed, ONLY a little before during and after? also what amount of time is "a little"? or does it constantly shed 24/7 365?

#4 how are you supposed to protect yourself from this virus if it can be contracted when no outbreaks are occuring?

I'm figgin scared to kiss girls now after reading this. wow i can see it now....

i think we should swap std test results so we can kiss. hey on the brighter side of that you can move onto sex right away without worry.

thanks to the people brave enough to share their experiences.

 

[Finlay]

im sorry to hear about that, how did you feel when you found out?

also what are the symptoms?