A Shocking Revelation About My Health: And I Will Answer Your Questions Here

[Giovanni Casanova]

These are some very good questions Cesare.

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
I'm sorry to hear about this but glad that you're handling it ok.

Well, since I've had it for three years I've had some time to adjust.

1. Did the chick tell you beforehand that she had it or did she lie about it?

Well, that's a tricky question. She got it while we were together (i.e., she cheated on me and I didn't realize it and still had sex with her). So theoretically she didn't know she had it at the time that she gave it to me.

Were you using a condom when it happened?

Yep. But I got it at the base of the penis and on the right side of my pelvis where condoms do not go.

2. Did you dump her when you found out? How did that all play out?

I dumped her when I found out she cheated on me. It wasn't until after the breakup that I found out she gave me herpes.

3. Do you tell new chicks about this before banging them or do you tell them only when talk of no longer using a condom comes up?

I tell them beforehand. A condom is certainly no guarantee (in fact, a condom probably wouldn't help at all in my case). I explain what it is and how it's transmitted and yeah, I'm sure that scares some girls away. Not much I can do about it. But also realize that about 1 girl out of every 4 already has herpes, and if they want to have sex with you they might already be stressing about how THEY will tell YOU. So telling some girls that you have herpes is a relief to them. The girl I'm with now already had genital herpes.

4. Do you take meds for this during outbreaks or do you take them to prevent outbreaks or do you just let nature take it's course?

Right now, I don't take any drugs... for treatment or suppression. Nature's course is actually very infrequent for me (in three years I've only had maybe a half-dozen outbreaks lasting an average of four days or so). The rest of the time I'm completely fine. I might at some point start taking something for treatment when I DO have outbreaks, but it's no big deal right now. Besides, once I start taking these drugs, the FDA will probably find out that they cause anal bleeding, paralysis, deafness, siezures, strokes and heart attacks.

5. How did you respond when you found out about this and was it tough for you to get over the news and what did you do to get over it?

When I first found out I was pretty stunned. I don't sleep around with a lot of girls and I was pretty good about using protection. My way of coping with things is to just obsessive-compulsively research every aspect of it as much as possible. And herpes has such a bad stigma... up until I got it I always thought of dirty, sl*tty people as the kinds who got herpes. Not me, some guy who had only been with a small handful of long-term supposedly-monogamous girls. But soon I realized that a TON of people have this, and that it wasn't life-threatening, and people could live normally with it, and it really wasn't that bad. Basically if you can survive cold-sores, you can survive genital herpes.

 

[Unbridled_1]

This may sound stupid, but I have thought of a way to have a sort of vaccine for genital herpes. I have read that if people get HSV-2 above the waist, they are likely to only get a breakout initially, and then never again. In fact, it said 20-30X less likely to have subsequent outbreaks if you got HSV-2 orally, instead of HSV-1 orally. And since HSV-2 works so inefficiently above the waste it is unlkely to shed much after the first few months (so unlikely to have asymptomatic shedding).

So, if somebody purposely got HSV-2 in say their mouth, they would have antibodies after a few months and and it would be difficult if not impossible to get HSV-2 below the waist, where it works efficiently and can recur and also sheds asymptomatically. Just a thought, I'm not gonna be the guinea pig though.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

I have gotten a few PMs from people who think that they might also have herpes and wanted to know the symptoms... I won't name names of course, but I just thought I would post the answer here for the benefit of everyone.

Like a lot of other illnesses, herpes can be a little different for everyone. I will speak from experience and from what medical sources say.

SYMPTOMS:

• You might start to feel a little bit of a tingle or a dull ache in your groin at the outset of an outbreak. I have gotten this and it is especially noticable at other times you might feel tingling in your groin, such as when you're on a fast-moving elevator.
• During your initial outbreak, you'll probably develop some symptoms that will make you think you have the flu. That can include a fever, nausea, fatigue, body aches, chills, etc.
• You'll develop sores in your genital region. You might mistake these sores for ingrown hairs, but if you examine them you will know that they are not. I described these sores earlier, but they are small, red, often moist, and painful if pressure is applied to them.
• A examination by your doctor can also help you determine if you have genital herpes.

 

[Oxide]

Say you know the girl who gave it to you..

would you confront her and ask her straight up why she didnt tell you?

how long does it take for the symtoms to appear?

How long does it take for them to go away?


How many girls have turned down sex with you after you told them you had herpes?


What could genital herpes be mistaken for? Razor bumps, acne?



I've seen pictures on internet and basically a pic of gential herpes is a **** covered in huge sores.. or a big group of them..


could herpes breakout be just a couple of bumps?

is first break out usually the biggest, or do they increase in size/area?





here is some very good info..
http://www.forces-of-nature.net/herpes/symptoms_of_genital_herpes.htm

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Unbridled_1
This may sound stupid, but I have thought of a way to have a sort of vaccine for genital herpes. I have read that if people get HSV-2 above the waist, they are likely to only get a breakout initially, and then never again. In fact, it said 20-30X less likely to have subsequent outbreaks if you got HSV-2 orally, instead of HSV-1 orally. And since HSV-2 works so inefficiently above the waste it is unlkely to shed much after the first few months (so unlikely to have asymptomatic shedding).

So, if somebody purposely got HSV-2 in say their mouth, they would have antibodies after a few months and and it would be difficult if not impossible to get HSV-2 below the waist, where it works efficiently and can recur and also sheds asymptomatically. Just a thought, I'm not gonna be the guinea pig though.

my research tells me that there is no such vaccine however a military friend says that the military came out with a vaccine which is a series of 3 shots that makes it impossible for them to get the virus just as the varcinnella shot makes it impossible for kids to get chicken pox these days and that this shot is for our military only and came out two years ago.




however my experience tells me that i got hsv2 genitally and then i got hsv2 orally.

 

[penkitten]

for anyone who has or thinks they have hsv1 or hsv2 or hpv
please consider finding a local online club.
other members are out there and are looking for exactly the same things that you are looking for, including support, friendship, outings and dating .

 

[Oxide]

So dont touch the bumps or try to pop them... fvck i thought it was acne or soemthing at first, tried popping it.. bad call..


Are you legally required to say you have herpes before sex? I understand it is a decent thing to do.. but if you are at a bar looking for a one night.. i see some complications...

Is there anything you can do to prevent outbreaks?

If you have unprotected sex with a person..are you guranteed to pass on the virus?

Are there multiple forms of genital herpes? (say one case more severe than other..so if you have a beggining stage and have sex with someone who is really bad.. your herpes outbreak will get worse?)

 

[DJDamage]

What other common diseases can you get:

A) from an oral without wearing a condom? (should you even wear one?, I keep hearing about dental dams http://scc.uchicago.edu/dentaldam.htm anyone ever used one? how did it feel?)

b) from vaginal intercourse while wearing a condom?

 

[Oxide]

interesting...

Say, could you get genital herpes from kissing? One kiss on the lips..not a huge tounge down her throat thing..? It seems VERY unlikely..but she was a stripper....

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Oxide
interesting...

Say, could you get genital herpes from kissing? One kiss on the lips..not a huge tounge down her throat thing..? It seems VERY unlikely..but she was a stripper....

If she has HSV-2 on her lips, then you could get HSV-2 on your lips if you kiss her on the lips. However, kissing a girl on the lips without doing anything else will not produce herpes on your genitals.

 

[Oxide]

nope.. everything looked good.

honestly gio, if i have it i got absolutely no idea where it came from.. the only girl i had unprotected sex with just told me yesterday she is clean..she just checked... and every other girl i wrapped it up with.. plus i havent had sex in at least 3 months..and the symptoms just appeared... I am quite lost, but i will go to a clinic to get it checked out.

 

[DJLegion]

Guys, please read this again. I posted a lot of information on the first page, you should all check it out.


This is just a quote:

Originally posted by DJLegion
1) There is a chance that genital herpes can become oral herpes. This statement comes from the site: "HSV type 1 most commonly infects the lips, causing sores known as fever blisters or cold sores, but it also can infect the genital area and produce sores. HSV type 2 is the usual cause of genital herpes, but it also can infect the mouth." Also, this statement, "A person with genital herpes also can infect a sexual partner during oral sex. The virus is spread only rarely, if at all, by touching objects such as a toilet seat or hot tub."


2) "Both HSV 1 and 2 can produce sores (also called lesions) in and around the vaginal area, on the penis, around the anal opening, and on the buttocks or thighs. Occasionally, sores also appear on other parts of the body where the virus has entered through broken skin."

 

[Oxide]

LETS GET BACK TO THE FUKKING TASK SHALL WE?

Ok, I've heard of Valtrex, any opinons on that ? www.valtrex.com

My sores hadnt gone away for a month now..they either get redder, or look like they are about to go away, but dont. Can more sores appear at the same time the other one's are going away? What is the best method of making them go away?



If im using a condom with a girl.. the only way she will get it is if her skin breaks at same point where sores were on my skin?! how does this work?


I thought about this some more.. now when im looking for a wife.. this means when i find a great girl who i vibe with..then i have to say "i got herpes" and have a chance of freaking her out after dating her.. weak.

How about this approach to tell a girl.. "hey, do you have herpes?
..no? Hah, cause i do!"

Shiiieeet.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Oxide
Ok, I've heard of Valtrex, any opinons on that ? www.valtrex.com

Among those I know with herpes, valtrex is the drug of choice. I personally don't use it at all. I know some people who use it only when they get outbreaks. You can also take it daily to help prevent outbreaks but I don't know anyone who does that.

My sores hadnt gone away for a month now..they either get redder, or look like they are about to go away, but dont. Can more sores appear at the same time the other one's are going away? What is the best method of making them go away?

Most herpes blisters will happen pretty much all at the same time during an outbreak, and they usually only last around a week or 10 days (that's been my experience anyhow). Have you gotten checked by a doctor to find out if it's really herpes? That's pretty unusual behavior if herpes really is the cause.

If im using a condom with a girl.. the only way she will get it is if her skin breaks at same point where sores were on my skin?! how does this work?

Okay, when you have herpes, you're infected in a certain area. Normally, the herpes virus will remain dormant (sleeping). But eventually it will get triggered again (by any number of possible things like stress, illness, etc.). When that happens, the virus will rise to the surface of your skin again and will begin to "shed". Eventually sores will become visible. Eventually the sores will go again and the virus will no longer be "shedding".

Any time the virus is shedding, from just before you see the sores to just after, you are contagious and can spread the virus by having direct skin contact between your infected area (where the sores are or would be) and someone else's skin. Their skin need not be broken. Your skin need not be broken. A condom will only be useful if you only get your herpes sores where the condom is (which usually isn't the case).

I thought about this some more.. now when im looking for a wife.. this means when i find a great girl who i vibe with..then i have to say "i got herpes" and have a chance of freaking her out after dating her.. weak.

There is certainly a risk of that. If she is really into you, she might do some research into it or even visit your doctor with you so you can get answers to questions about having a relationship with someone who has herpes. Most people have a warped view of what herpes is and what it means to have it. Education is the cure for that.

How about this approach to tell a girl.. "hey, do you have herpes?
..no? Hah, cause i do!"

If you're dealing with honest girls, for every 4 you ask, 1 should say yes.

 

[Centaurion]

i just have a question,

- how long did it take before you noticed something wasn't right with your equipment (did you get tested before you had any outbreaks) ?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Centaurion
i just have a question,

- how long did it take before you noticed something wasn't right with your equipment (did you get tested before you had any outbreaks) ?

Normally you'll get the flu-like symptoms within the first week or so after you contract herpes. Then the sores will appear too. Usually you notice the problem, go to do the doctor, and he diagnoses visually.

 

[Oxide]

erm.. i have no idea what else it could be, that would look like herpes and not be it?

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Oxide
erm.. i have no idea what else it could be, that would look like herpes and not be it?

oxide, havent you gone to the dr yet??

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Oxide
erm.. i have no idea what else it could be, that would look like herpes and not be it?

Press your genitals up against the monitor and we'll do a quick biopsy and let you know.

OR.....

Go to the doctor!

 

[SexPDX]

Giovanni, I commend you for making yourself available to answer questions on this topic. I am sure many people will benefit from this.

What this prompts me to wonder is how I would react if a girl I was interested in admitted to me that she had herpes before we had sex.

-PDX