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[anour]

OP you are a bit out of the times.

Nowadays most women are approached digitally, they are not really receptive to strangers on the street.

I also don't know your looks but there is always room for improvement there, get a stylish haircut, nice clothes that fit well, get more fit, etc.

You need to build your social status and digital footprint and start sending some DMs, if you missed the boat in university and high school to talk to girls organically through your mutual friend groups.

I feel dming girls has a lower success rate than direct approaching

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I’m not a pickup artist myself. I thought we might learn from each other some things. How do women approach you because women always would let a man do the approaching unless she is extremely horney and attracted to you. Care to elaborate and benefit everybody?

I don't care about chasing women, I have three women I can call whenever I need company. So I just do my own thing without paying attention to women and that drives them to approach me, or they wouldn't get to talk to me.

And they want to talk to me because they want to make sure that it's not because of them that I don't pay them attention.

And they want me because I'm interesting to them. They are surrounded by human puppy dogs catering to their every whim, but I don't respond to their flirty games or give them the validation they crave.

Women want what they cannot have. I don't give them what they want, but I may give them what they need.

 

[Learning Curve]

This by far has been the most insightful and detailed advice. Thank you. I have a question though how do you test if a woman wants to move slowly instead of direct? Do you escalate verbally or physically and back off if you see resistance or how exactly does it work? Thank you once again!

You have to test the waters.

All women want a direct guy no matter what.

For verbal communication start by trying minor s3xual text escalations to see how she responds. If you see any change in her behavior in terms of her feeling uncomfortable then you know that you need to back-off and again enable the chameleon methodology to remove that from your vocabulary with that woman for now.

Other women will allow you to have s3xual innuendos, texts and escalations and they will actually like it.

Text Example:

Her: Sends me a video of her being in shorts with a hot shirt
Me: I like that, you should wear it when you come to see me it's s3xy.
Her: Okkkkkkkk

"S3xy" its all i used. Minor but always works.

Since her response was just "ok" playfully in my experience this is neutral. It does not say much but in my experience when a woman just replies "Ok" it's mostly because she is not experienced sexually and i since i know this woman now she is not.

An experienced woman would probably reply with more s3xual innuendos and asked me what to wear when she comes, or what she likes.

For physical approach body language is very important.

Getting back to my example number 2.

On our first date she had her body turned away from me. Crossed hands and legs. Total defense mode.

I was not going to escalate for anything either s3xually or going for any touches yet. I was waiting for her body to turn towards me, her hands to be released and her legs to be open. It took around 2 hours of conversations and minor touches to move to that place.

It takes time and effort, but at the end of the day what matters is how a woman responds to your actions. You have to develop your senses and radar to a very high level to understand when anything is changing or developing.

This is also very important for LTR. Since most guys get complacent and don't see any sings of their woman backing-off or being less s3xually interested in them.

Hope this helps.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I was not going to escalate for anything either s3xually or going for any touches yet.

It took around 2 hours of conversations and minor touches to move to that place.

So how'd you get to "that place" with minor touches without touches?

 

[Learning Curve]

So how'd you get to "that place" with minor touches without touches?

Ask her:

"Let me look at your nails"

Most women will not say no. Or if she has any tattoos "Let me see that"

You can hold her hand, and gently swipe through her fingers s3xually.

When I said no touches, that was at the beginning of the date. Later on, you can start the minor escalation.

If that does not work, switch places. Going to a second place that you can both stand up instead of being on chairs and facing each other can lead to some amazing kino play.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I give shiatsu hand massages to women to feel their energy.

 

[anour]

You have to test the waters.

All women want a direct guy no matter what.

For verbal communication start by trying minor s3xual text escalations to see how she responds. If you see any change in her behavior in terms of her feeling uncomfortable then you know that you need to back-off and again enable the chameleon methodology to remove that from your vocabulary with that woman for now.

Other women will allow you to have s3xual innuendos, texts and escalations and they will actually like it.

Text Example:

Her: Sends me a video of her being in shorts with a hot shirt
Me: I like that, you should wear it when you come to see me it's s3xy.
Her: Okkkkkkkk

"S3xy" its all i used. Minor but always works.

Since her response was just "ok" playfully in my experience this is neutral. It does not say much but in my experience when a woman just replies "Ok" it's mostly because she is not experienced sexually and i since i know this woman now she is not.

An experienced woman would probably reply with more s3xual innuendos and asked me what to wear when she comes, or what she likes.

For physical approach body language is very important.

Getting back to my example number 2.

On our first date she had her body turned away from me. Crossed hands and legs. Total defense mode.

I was not going to escalate for anything either s3xually or going for any touches yet. I was waiting for her body to turn towards me, her hands to be released and her legs to be open. It took around 2 hours of conversations and minor touches to move to that place.

It takes time and effort, but at the end of the day what matters is how a woman responds to your actions. You have to develop your senses and radar to a very high level to understand when anything is changing or developing.

This is also very important for LTR. Since most guys get complacent and don't see any sings of their woman backing-off or being less s3xually interested in them.

Hope this helps.

Gold

 

[anour]

Ask her:

"Let me look at your nails"

Most women will not say no. Or if she has any tattoos "Let me see that"

You can hold her hand, and gently swipe through her fingers s3xually.

When I said no touches, that was at the beginning of the date. Later on, you can start the minor escalation.

If that does not work, switch places. Going to a second place that you can both stand up instead of being on chairs and facing each other can lead to some amazing kino play.

In texting, i texted this chick whether she is free on sunday. To which she replied in 3 separate texts “idk” “yes” “i do”, i replied “okay, what other day are you free on?, she ain’t replied after that left me on read. Was that her pulling away? How can you prevent such to occur?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

In texting, i texted this chick whether she is free on sunday. To which she replied in 3 separate texts “idk” “yes” “i do”, i replied “okay, what other day are you free on?, she ain’t replied after that left me on read. Was that her pulling away? How can you prevent such to occur?

She texted "I do", so she was free on Sunday. Why do you ask her to tell you another day? Don't you know how to lead?

 

[Learning Curve]

In texting, i texted this chick whether she is free on sunday. To which she replied in 3 separate texts “idk” “yes” “i do”, i replied “okay, what other day are you free on?, she ain’t replied after that left me on read. Was that her pulling away? How can you prevent such to occur?

Too much investing from your side. She is fading away.

"IDK" text means low interest. Not sure how the yes and i do came up later on.

If she left he message on read and did not reply do nothing.

Contact her again in a week, and follow up on that text with something playful. "Don't be shy"

Re open the discussion from there if she goes again with the IDK bs withdraw the offer.

Tell her: "No problem, take care." don't mention anything in the sorts of "let's do it some other time" or "looks like your schedule is full let's do it some other time" and most bs that is being used nowadays.

Withdraw the offer in a way of not showing interest in wanting to see her again.

This is what works. Scarcity creates value.

 

[anour]

She texted "I do", so she was free on Sunday. Why do you ask her to tell you another day? Don't you know how to lead?

I meant if she is working this sunday, my bad not free!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I meant if she is working this sunday, my bad not free!

When you're texting, you don't need to hurry. Nobody is rushing you. Make sure you sent clear messages. Don't ask too many questions, don't answer interview questions, don't ask several questions at the same time. Establish a place and time, let her agree.