A key warning sign you are about to be dumped in a few weeks or less

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This is something that a lot of guys might not recognize but it's happened to me 3 times in my life and all 3 times within a few weeks the relationship was over.

And that is when a woman tells you some version of "I woke up feeling very lonely today" or "I have been feeling very lonely lately".

And the reason she is feeling lonely is that in her mind she is already grieving the breakup as if it's already happened and she is processing it even though you are technically still together and she might even still be seeing you in person.

However even if she is, her behavior will likely be cold and distant and she might be acting checked out and uninterested in any type of physical contact or sex. In her mind it's over she just hasn't told you about it yet.

Do yourself a favor and break up with her first.
 

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Distancing - she's spending more time with her friends, less time with you.
Loss of desire - when she's with you she's criticising you, and you're not ****ing like you used to.

What you said about expressing loneliness is absolutely right. Women do grieve the end of a relationship while they are in it. They might even start expressing random things like "I miss my ex" or behaving badly - getting really drunk in front of you for example.
Yes they also will start randomly texting you things like "I miss you!" or "I miss us!!"

And you are sitting there like WTF are you talking about I just saw you yesterday...but in her mind she is already apart from you...
 

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Yep, she's building up the story in her head that you're not good for each other anymore and giving herself reasons to why. I got the "we don't talk anymore, we're not there for each other (sad face)" and i was like wtf is she talking about, a few weeks before "the talk".
It all comes from the fact that women break up emotionally long before they actually will muster up the courage to tell you. When you hear it officially it's already completely processed and done, just something that needs to be crossed off of her list. Which is also why it's pointless to start negotiating and arguing when you hear the "breakup talk".
Agreeing or turning the tables with "i'm so glad you said it because i haven't been feeling it either lately.. all the best!"
 

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Something else to look out for - she's gathering and marshalling her support networks in anticipation of the Dump. Unless she's monkey-branching, she will be relying on her friends and family to support her when she pulls the rug. Your girlfriend will be out taking a poll with friends and family (who of course will all encourage her to dump you - "You're a Strong, Independent Woman"). This happens over the final months/weeks when she's started deciding that the relationship has no future.
This is absolutely true.

Almost always they lay the groundwork far in advance. There are warning signs if you know what to look for. Still, at that point, you're far better off dumping her first to preserve your pride, ego, and dignity.

Have to be careful on the rebound contact though. Women who dump men often reach back out only to dump him again when the man shows interest.

You're *always* better off starting over with someone new.
 

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Biggest sign ia they start being a huge b!tch that and they say stuff like I wanna just hang out with friends
 

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Biggest sign ia they start being a huge b!tch that and they say stuff like I wanna just hang out with friends
Sometimes but not always...sometimes they just have "family stuff come up" which sounds believable...but in truth, its just that they don't want to be with you anymore.
 
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