As any of you who are or were in high school know, things are very different in high school compared to the rest of the world. It’s so different, in fact, that it has its own section under the forum page of Sosuave. There are a few major differences I want to cover, because now that I’m a senior in high school, I have learned some interesting things in my four years of experience.
1. In high school, there is no such thing as the friendzone!
High school girls are crazy, one minute they “like” you, the next they don’t. They honestly have no idea what they want, and are easily swayed by other people’s opinions. So lets say that at some point you were attracted to a girl and became friends with her. You asked her out and she gave you the LJBF’s line, things between you two are far from over! She’ll tell her friends about it, and depending on your social proof, they might try to sway her opinion. Or, she might give you the LJBF’s speech at first, but then when she thinks about it she decided that it was a wrong move. Once again, these girls have absolutely no idea what they want, and it is just a learning experience for them just like it is for you.
2. There is no such thing as cold approaching
I just covered this in another thread a little while ago, but in my opinion there is no such thing as a cold approach in high school. A high school is a closed community, and depending on the size of your high school and your popularity, you can be pretty well known throughout it. For example, my high school is about 1,000 student all together, and I’m sure at some point in time I’ve probably seen just about everyone. Now I may not know everyone by name, but because I’ve seen them, they’ve probably seen me too. This makes starting up a conversation so much easier, because you can just use some line like, “hi, I’ve seen you around before haven’t I?” This will get her talking and thinking, and then your in.
3. Social proof is everything
This is something I wish I knew my freshman and sophmore years of high school. Social proof is the basis for your popularity in high school, and it is actually surprisingly easy to get. Just start talking to the people around you, in your class, in the halls, everywhere. Eventually you will just start making new friends with the people your talking too and then your gaining your social proof. The single easiest way to gain popularity and social proof is to go to parties. I seriously wish I knew this in my first two years of high school, because I seriously struggled to make new friends then. After a few drinks and a few funny memories together, people at parties become closer. It’s also easiest to get HB’s number or hook up with them in these environments, and the best part is everyone will know. You’ll start to gain a good reputation, people will start inviting you to more parties, and you will become the man!
4. Join a sports team or some clubs
This is one of the best things you can do in high school to get more friends and gain popularity. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter if you’ve ever played the sport before, at least at my high school. Never played football before but thinking about playing? Go for it! You will most likely ride the bench but at least you’ll be on the team and talking with your teammates. Personally I joined the swim team at my school because I liked to swim and swimmers get into really good shape. I made a lot of new friends doing this, and I also got to see the girls in skin-tight suits. J Now, three years later, I’m more confident than ever, I’m more muscular than a lot of my friends that work out, and I’m going to college for a nice reduced price.
Some do’s and don’ts:
Do:
· Talk to anyone and everyone
· Go to as many parties as possible, even if your not the greatest friends with the people there
· Look your best everyday (a lazy day here and there is ok)
· Flirt with every girl you find attractive
· Join a sports team/club that interests you
Don’t:
· Worry about being rejected
· Give up on a girl after you’ve been rejected
· Be that loud, obnoxious guy that nobody really likes
· Be that shy, quiet guy that never really talks
Sometimes I just wish I could go back to freshman year and start over knowing what I know now. Hopefully this post helps some people out.
1. In high school, there is no such thing as the friendzone!
High school girls are crazy, one minute they “like” you, the next they don’t. They honestly have no idea what they want, and are easily swayed by other people’s opinions. So lets say that at some point you were attracted to a girl and became friends with her. You asked her out and she gave you the LJBF’s line, things between you two are far from over! She’ll tell her friends about it, and depending on your social proof, they might try to sway her opinion. Or, she might give you the LJBF’s speech at first, but then when she thinks about it she decided that it was a wrong move. Once again, these girls have absolutely no idea what they want, and it is just a learning experience for them just like it is for you.
2. There is no such thing as cold approaching
I just covered this in another thread a little while ago, but in my opinion there is no such thing as a cold approach in high school. A high school is a closed community, and depending on the size of your high school and your popularity, you can be pretty well known throughout it. For example, my high school is about 1,000 student all together, and I’m sure at some point in time I’ve probably seen just about everyone. Now I may not know everyone by name, but because I’ve seen them, they’ve probably seen me too. This makes starting up a conversation so much easier, because you can just use some line like, “hi, I’ve seen you around before haven’t I?” This will get her talking and thinking, and then your in.
3. Social proof is everything
This is something I wish I knew my freshman and sophmore years of high school. Social proof is the basis for your popularity in high school, and it is actually surprisingly easy to get. Just start talking to the people around you, in your class, in the halls, everywhere. Eventually you will just start making new friends with the people your talking too and then your gaining your social proof. The single easiest way to gain popularity and social proof is to go to parties. I seriously wish I knew this in my first two years of high school, because I seriously struggled to make new friends then. After a few drinks and a few funny memories together, people at parties become closer. It’s also easiest to get HB’s number or hook up with them in these environments, and the best part is everyone will know. You’ll start to gain a good reputation, people will start inviting you to more parties, and you will become the man!
4. Join a sports team or some clubs
This is one of the best things you can do in high school to get more friends and gain popularity. Honestly, it doesn’t really matter if you’ve ever played the sport before, at least at my high school. Never played football before but thinking about playing? Go for it! You will most likely ride the bench but at least you’ll be on the team and talking with your teammates. Personally I joined the swim team at my school because I liked to swim and swimmers get into really good shape. I made a lot of new friends doing this, and I also got to see the girls in skin-tight suits. J Now, three years later, I’m more confident than ever, I’m more muscular than a lot of my friends that work out, and I’m going to college for a nice reduced price.
Some do’s and don’ts:
Do:
· Talk to anyone and everyone
· Go to as many parties as possible, even if your not the greatest friends with the people there
· Look your best everyday (a lazy day here and there is ok)
· Flirt with every girl you find attractive
· Join a sports team/club that interests you
Don’t:
· Worry about being rejected
· Give up on a girl after you’ve been rejected
· Be that loud, obnoxious guy that nobody really likes
· Be that shy, quiet guy that never really talks
Sometimes I just wish I could go back to freshman year and start over knowing what I know now. Hopefully this post helps some people out.
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