A Guy Asked My GF Out, but She won't Tell Me Who It is..

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So my GF told me that a guy asked her out twice and asked my opinion about that. She told the guy that she'll think about it (this answer kinda pissed me off, although I understand that it's not clear what the guy's intention was). When I asked her who it is, she wouldn't tell me, saying that she's not sure yet whether the guy were romantically interested in her, so she won't say anything "bad" about him yet.

What should I do, guys? Thanks :)
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
She's with you and she will think about going out with someone else ??? :box:

think a second and youll know the answer what to do .
well, she said that because she didn't dare to straight out reject him because she didn't know what his intention was, whether asked her as a friend or as a date.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
well, she said that because she didn't dare to straight out reject him because she didn't know what his intention was, whether asked her as a friend or as a date.
Whoa, whoa. Caught in the lies, caught in the lies.

He's always a friend, until they start ****ing. One day you will be notified that YOU are now the friend, and he is the boyfriend. When she is not certain if she wants to dump you for him, for that trial period, he is represented to you as a friend. She still needs to figure that out, if she wants him or you. And keeping his identity secret from you? Please! That makes it clear that she is already considering him, no question!
 

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ok, so what should i tell her what to say to him the time he asks her out again?
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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Tell her you're not bothered by him but that if she doesn't say NO to him she can have him!
 

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but if she wants to cheat, why did she ask my opinion in the first place?
 

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It's all about how you handle this sh*t test. Step up and give her a sh*t test right back. Dont take that stuff.
 

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Agree, just sh1t test her back start to hit on her friends...spin some plates!!!! Go out and look for other women man fvck this b1tch she just wants the attention of 2 guy's fighing over her and while you guy's fight over her some other guy will swoop in and steal her because she LOVES ATTENTION....I say you should just tell her
"I think I'll make the decision for you, Your a sweet girl but if you have a BF and you didnt just flat out reject a guy when he asked you out then your...well I'm not going to say it but all I'm going to say is that your untrustworthy and I (Keyword) am breaking up with you goodbye" Now you just leave and never look back why should you care about some untrustworthy peice of sh1t? Good luck and tell us what you do.
 

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she won't tell me who it is because she doesn't want me to be suspicious of him (she said that i know of him), when it's not clear yet whether he asked her as a casual friend or more than that.

is that reasonable, guys?
 

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ok, let's move aside the fact that she didn't reject him. because she's known to have history of not able to reject a guy, even if she want to. she doesn't have the guts. so she always say things like "i don't know", "i'll think about it". this been happening before I knew her.

the main thing is, why the fck doesn't she tell me his name. and what should i do about it?
 

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Fela Kuti said:
overall, what should i do?
Find a back-up chick and prepare for things to get ugly in
your present relationship. She has lost respect, and there is almost
no going back after that. That is irreversible with
women. You are entering a world of games, deceit, heartbrake,
and abuse.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
she won't tell me who it is because she doesn't want me to be suspicious of him (she said that i know of him), when it's not clear yet whether he asked her as a casual friend or more than that.

is that reasonable, guys?
Its clear she loves the attention.

Do you want her to respect you or do you want to fail her sh*t test which will make her lose attraction for you? Its your choice... don't be afraid of losing her. She has options so why don't you look for some more options?
 

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Fela Kuti said:
she won't tell me who it is because she doesn't want me to be suspicious of him (she said that i know of him), when it's not clear yet whether he asked her as a casual friend or more than that.

is that reasonable, guys?
Listen man .. She's testing you , maybe there is noone else but she just wanna see how far she can go .

So i would say to her something like this :
" Im ok about this . If u want to go out with him u can go . But we're done . "

(sorry if i wrote this wrong , english isnt my native language / hope u get the point )

Cmon bro , tell her the willines to dump her , tell her that ur life dont depend on her .

There are no friends .. going out 1 on 1 with girl tells u that they are not trying to be friends .. Trust me man , he dont need a girl to be his friend ..

And there are lot of girls out there . Tons of them .
So if that she wanna go out with someone else , just tell her to fvck off.

Peace bro .
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

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the thing is, from what i gathered from her, she didn't want to go with him. it's just that she didn't know what to say so she said "i'll think about it".
 

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Fela Kuti said:
the thing is, from what i gathered from her, she didn't want to go with him. it's just that she didn't know what to say so she said "i'll think about it".
If she has no intention of going out with him then what are you worried about??
 

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Fela Kuti said:
the thing is, from what i gathered from her, she didn't want to go with him. it's just that she didn't know what to say so she said "i'll think about it".
i dont know man , do whateva u think .. but dont be scared to loose her ..

trust me , i didnt care when they throw me similar sh!t tests ...

I dumped them and they always wanted to come back with me , and
this is because they know i have life , if they dont have me they its their loose .

Now i have them like reservs . in case i dont have pvssy i use them :D:) ..
 

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If she has no intention of going out with him then what are you worried about??
because she hides his identity, dude. and to a smaller extent, because she said "i'll think about it". yeah, even though she said that because she didn't have the nerve to reject straightly, it still makes me disappointed.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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