I will, I think it's a good idea to focus on my life. Thank you for your input!Warrior74 said:Firstly. Cut all contact. Don't meet her, don't call her, don't answer her calls/text. If you have to respond, respond with only this. "Look, we both know it's over and I think it's time to move on, there is nothing else left to say. I wish you all the best and good luck" and hang up the phone. But honestly I don't suggest even doing that...she will try to suck you back in with conversation. Her goal is not to get you back, but to come out on top mentally. To feel she is better than you and to belittle you. Trust me on this.
The hardest thing to do as a man is to just accept the situation. It's passive and we are men who tend to want to fix things and want a clean resolution. That anger you feel is really at yourself. If you look deeply enough you will see it's anger at your own weakness, not at her, not at women in general. Your projecting.
Go out with your friends this weekend, focus on having fun and wanting nothing from females. I know that is probably contrary to most advice you would get here (go **** 10 other girls, find some new poon). But you need some time to get back to yourself. If you meet someone, cool. If you see someone checking you out, go for it. But don't worry about it.
If your feeling down, make a list of all the things that are good in your life and take a moment to feel honest appreciation for them. You have your health, your family, your friends, your job, your life! So much to appreciate. Enjoy the things that make you you and have some fun this weekend! Good luck!
It has to do with the anger that was generated being with her. Going no contact, to me, seems like cutting off an infected limb that could be treated with antibiotics. It's lame that for this to happen I have to play on her terms. But I would rather defuse this anger then let it get buried.piranha45 said:You broke up with her, WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO HER???? You've been here since 2002 and have 1300 posts, you know damn well to go 100% No Contact.
There's no reason for you to be talking to her on the phone, in person, via email, via websites, or in any other way/shape/form.
NO, it is like cutting out a tumor that is slowly killing you.Create Reality said:It has to do with the anger that was generated being with her. Going no contact, to me, seems like cutting off an infected limb that could be treated with antibiotics.
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Well, at least you KNOW you're going the AFC route. I wonder how many people you've advised against going the AFC route in your 7 years, here. Ironic, isn't it?Create Reality said:It has to do with the anger that was generated being with her. Going no contact, to me, seems like cutting off an infected limb that could be treated with antibiotics. It's lame that for this to happen I have to play on her terms. But I would rather defuse this anger then let it get buried.
Warrior74 said:Firstly. Cut all contact. Don't meet her, don't call her, don't answer her calls/text. If you have to respond, respond with only this. "Look, we both know it's over and I think it's time to move on, there is nothing else left to say. I wish you all the best and good luck" and hang up the phone. But honestly I don't suggest even doing that...she will try to suck you back in with conversation. Her goal is not to get you back, but to come out on top mentally. To feel she is better than you and to belittle you. Trust me on this.
The hardest thing to do as a man is to just accept the situation. It's passive and we are men who tend to want to fix things and want a clean resolution. That anger you feel is really at yourself. If you look deeply enough you will see it's anger at your own weakness, not at her, not at women in general. Your projecting.
Go out with your friends this weekend, focus on having fun and wanting nothing from females. I know that is probably contrary to most advice you would get here (go **** 10 other girls, find some new poon). But you need some time to get back to yourself. If you meet someone, cool. If you see someone checking you out, go for it. But don't worry about it.
If your feeling down, make a list of all the things that are good in your life and take a moment to feel honest appreciation for them. You have your health, your family, your friends, your job, your life! So much to appreciate. Enjoy the things that make you you and have some fun this weekend! Good luck!