jackofasses
Don Juan
Ok, so.. Now that we're all talking health and fitness and all gym and stuff I was just wondering what all of your opinions are on mental health and well being and stuff.
It's commong knowledge that stress, anger, depression and the like all contribute to failing health whether it be more frequent colds and flu to something more severe like cardiovascular disease and even Cancer. Having known my mother to be a surpemely healthy woman over the past few years (except for depression from having been divorced and being away from her kids) I am pretty convinced that her death from cancer earlier this year was a direct link to her mental health and well being over the past few years (seeing as there is no history of any form of disease or illness in her family tree) whereas my fathers side is riddled with it (porbably because all his brothers/sisters and direct family in general suffered abuse.. physical, mental and sexual, as well as incestious relationships and the like which can't do much for your mental well being especially when you're a young child and the scarring can be rather permanent.) as well as riddled with depression, short tempers and stress (not to mention ALOT of failing relationships.)
So basically, I wanted to bring this up because sure, looking good and getting girls is one thing, but being around and staying alive to enjoy them is another. Yeah, people who are in better physical shape tend to live longer and avoid most chronic illnesses and even fatal diseases more often, but are not completely immune to them (such was the case with my mother, after years of being overweight and not doing anything about it she finally got to the gym and completely 180'd her life and was super fit before she moved to england only to fall back into her lonely routine and even more misery then finally being diadnose with cancer not even 2 years ago and finally expiring on the 23rd of march this year.)
Not being the most fit (which i can always fix if I ever stop being lazy) I would like to bring up the whole mental aspect of being fit. Like learning to focuse ones emotional energy into the positive stuff (like working out, or just going out and having fun, improving ones career, etc.) rather than being stuck in a never ending rutt.
As an example, I myself tend to be quite an emotional person, I don't know why, but I tend to go from one extreme to the other pretty quick (but most often i am SUPER fast to anger). Though I am learning to control it better in time, it still does get the better of me at times and has successfully ruined several relationships of mine (yet I still don't learn, I become a total different person and it's hard to snap me out of it.) I also suffer from some depression, mostly due to the failing of those relationships (because I know it's not the girls fault, it is 100% completely my own stupidity) and few other things (dead mom, dead cat, dropping self-esteem from all of the emotional crap, etc.) This actually worries me alot (yeah, which causes me stress and mental and emotional exaustion) because of the history of cancer in my family. I worry that my constant worrying, depression and anger are going to result in me dying at a younger age or having some of these chronic illnesses. I am actually quite terrified of it.
So can we maybe discuss some tips/trickson then mental health aspect? Maybe anger management tips/tricks (I am currently looking to enroll in a class in the hopes that it will help, though i've heard from many people that it doesn't) as well as maybe some stress management or even foods that can help maintain a healthier brain chemistry (yeah, chemicals in the brain do need balancing and are affected by what we eat.)
Just toss in your two cents please. I'm gettin pretty tired of being sick and tired. And no, just hitting the gym doesn't help. I've done it before for years and the underlying stress and stuff is still there.
It's commong knowledge that stress, anger, depression and the like all contribute to failing health whether it be more frequent colds and flu to something more severe like cardiovascular disease and even Cancer. Having known my mother to be a surpemely healthy woman over the past few years (except for depression from having been divorced and being away from her kids) I am pretty convinced that her death from cancer earlier this year was a direct link to her mental health and well being over the past few years (seeing as there is no history of any form of disease or illness in her family tree) whereas my fathers side is riddled with it (porbably because all his brothers/sisters and direct family in general suffered abuse.. physical, mental and sexual, as well as incestious relationships and the like which can't do much for your mental well being especially when you're a young child and the scarring can be rather permanent.) as well as riddled with depression, short tempers and stress (not to mention ALOT of failing relationships.)
So basically, I wanted to bring this up because sure, looking good and getting girls is one thing, but being around and staying alive to enjoy them is another. Yeah, people who are in better physical shape tend to live longer and avoid most chronic illnesses and even fatal diseases more often, but are not completely immune to them (such was the case with my mother, after years of being overweight and not doing anything about it she finally got to the gym and completely 180'd her life and was super fit before she moved to england only to fall back into her lonely routine and even more misery then finally being diadnose with cancer not even 2 years ago and finally expiring on the 23rd of march this year.)
Not being the most fit (which i can always fix if I ever stop being lazy) I would like to bring up the whole mental aspect of being fit. Like learning to focuse ones emotional energy into the positive stuff (like working out, or just going out and having fun, improving ones career, etc.) rather than being stuck in a never ending rutt.
As an example, I myself tend to be quite an emotional person, I don't know why, but I tend to go from one extreme to the other pretty quick (but most often i am SUPER fast to anger). Though I am learning to control it better in time, it still does get the better of me at times and has successfully ruined several relationships of mine (yet I still don't learn, I become a total different person and it's hard to snap me out of it.) I also suffer from some depression, mostly due to the failing of those relationships (because I know it's not the girls fault, it is 100% completely my own stupidity) and few other things (dead mom, dead cat, dropping self-esteem from all of the emotional crap, etc.) This actually worries me alot (yeah, which causes me stress and mental and emotional exaustion) because of the history of cancer in my family. I worry that my constant worrying, depression and anger are going to result in me dying at a younger age or having some of these chronic illnesses. I am actually quite terrified of it.
So can we maybe discuss some tips/trickson then mental health aspect? Maybe anger management tips/tricks (I am currently looking to enroll in a class in the hopes that it will help, though i've heard from many people that it doesn't) as well as maybe some stress management or even foods that can help maintain a healthier brain chemistry (yeah, chemicals in the brain do need balancing and are affected by what we eat.)
Just toss in your two cents please. I'm gettin pretty tired of being sick and tired. And no, just hitting the gym doesn't help. I've done it before for years and the underlying stress and stuff is still there.
