A compliment or did a MALE just hit on me?

[AAAgent]

Why, are you hitting on me?



Yeah, you don't have to be good-looking to get hit on by gay guys...but then again, a chick doesn't have to be good-looking to get hit on by straight guys. And no, they don't matter.

You're cheesesteak must have had some seasoning from the gay community.

You give sh1tty responses to my answers and once again misinterpret what I have said again.

It is out of the norm for gay guys to hit on straight guys. They only hit on straight guys out of the norm for instance when there's 3 gay guys standing together and they see 1 single guy by himself. I have never seen a gay guy alone hit on a single guy alone. Why because they're scared. Safety in numbers as well.

And if you truly believe getting hit on gay guys all the time is normal and you're doing something right then you're wrong. If you have the wrong type of people approaching you, you're presenting yourself in a way that they feel its comfortable to approach you.

You're sarcastic comments have no content, aren't funny and are pointless. You make no points. Once again read this sh1t well, or you're probably going to be "One Shot Away" from getting your steak sizzeled once again. Which you're apparently used to.

Nothing is impossible, so neither is being hit on by a gay guy. But they simply wont, on an normal/ordinary/consistent basis.

 

[5string]

You have a total misconception of gay guys. They don't hit on guys because they're "giving the wrong vibe" or dressed a certain way. They hit on guys because they're attracted to them. Gay guys are still guys. They hit on guys for the same reason guys hit on chicks. They go by looks, and they want to f.uck...all the time. If you haven't been hit on by a gay guy in 54 years of living, then you're probably not a very good-looking guy.

Really? Here is a picture of me http://cid-5a899e93b5979fed.photos.live.com/self.aspx/5string/lope2.JPG?sa=444938867 Let's see one of you. I doubt you'll look as good at my age, let alone now. And as far as my "misconception of gays" is concerned, I could care less one way or another. Their business is their own. All I said is that I have never been hit on by a guy. So, if I'm a decent looking guy, why would that be?

 

[Kailex]

I'll give my honest opinion about this, it's intrigued me and reminded me of a similar, although more DRASTIC situation presented by a poster on this forum months before.

I know people are generalizing that "gay men" aren't this nor that.
I know people are saying that if gay men are hitting on you, you are sending the wrong vibe.

But the fact of the matter is that this was ONE case in which the OP was told by another guy that he "liked his style". For all we know, this is an outlier and an exception.

I've had days where I wear nothing but a shirt, shorts, and sandals and I get told by a woman that I look oh-so-good. It's an exception, it doesn't happen often.

Now if the OP had stated: This happens to me routinely.
Then the case would be different and you'd have to really analyze what the OP is doing to send off this vibe. But there's no way that everything you do will put off EVERY single guy that might want to say something to you. It was ONE guy at ONE moment and he didn't even say anything like: I like the way your a$$ is looking today.

All he said was that he liked your style.

I think too much is being read into this ONE situation, unless the OP is holding out on information of other instances in which this has happened.

Now, had he posted something like this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172380

Then he'd have more than enough reason to worry.

It's ONE isolated case. Hell, I remember even seeing a UFC fight where one guy kissed another guy right before the fight and the kissee knocked the kisser the hell out. Does that mean that the guy that got kissed was giving off a nice guy vibe and wasn't Alpha enough?

Although we can influence the actions and comments of others, there will always be people willing to take actions into their own hands and make comments regardless of how we act or talk or dress.

Now what's scary is the OP's insecurity based off of this one interaction. Why are you so worried about it? It was a compliment. It happened once, get over it. Are you going to start walking with your ass to the wall whenever you see this guy?

 

[AAAgent]

hahaha i remember that post. Ya i was just pointing out in general that if this was a once a blue moon occasion, sh1t happens but to the other posters in the forum that brag about getting compliments all the time from gay guys and someone about cheesesteaks, they're obviously on the same path as the OP from the thread you linked.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

Attractive men don't have to have serious game, look at male-strippers and exotic dancers, they get hit on the most, looks matter.

No logic to this statement at all. Looks play a role in getting into the exotic dancing business, therefore physically attractive guys have to work less in the dating game. Does this really make sense to you? Don't back down now. Be honest.

It is out of the norm for gay guys to hit on straight guys. They only hit on straight guys out of the norm for instance when there's 3 gay guys standing together and they see 1 single guy by himself. I have never seen a gay guy alone hit on a single guy alone.

Ah, so since you didn't see Jews get slaughtered in World War II that must never have happened either, right? Awesome logic. Anyway, just a little education for you: it is not out of the norm for gay guys to hit on straight guys. That's not just personal experience either. That's just common knowledge from you know, actually getting out of my state once in awhile.

And if you truly believe getting hit on gay guys all the time is normal and you're doing something right then you're wrong. If you have the wrong type of people approaching you, you're presenting yourself in a way that they feel its comfortable to approach you.

Yeah uh...nobody said you're doing something "right" if gay guys approach you. That's just what happens when you fit their type of guy that their into. You think chicks are doing something wrong when they get hit on by losers all the time? No? Then abandon this line of debate.

You're sarcastic comments have no content, aren't funny and are pointless.

The so-called lack of content is known as "truth", aren't meant to be funny, and the only point is to set the record straight. Unlike you apparently, I believe that is worth doing.

Really? Here is a picture of me http://cid-5a899e93b5979fed.photos.l...G?sa=444938867 Let's see one of you.

I'll give you two of me, just because I'm in a generous mood.

Face and body. Now I can't judge another guy's looks very well, so maybe you are twice as good-looking as me as you claim. However, if I was a betting man I'd probably have to put my money on significantly more men (and women) finding me more attractive than you. That's if I was a betting man, of course.

All I said is that I have never been hit on by a guy. So, if I'm a decent looking guy, why would that be?

Several possible reasons, here:

1) You're not as "decent looking" as you quite obviously believe yourself to be.
2) You live in a fairly conservative area where homosexuality is still taboo.
3) The way you carry yourself doesn't set off anybody's gaydar.
4) You have been hit on, but just don't realize it.
5) You live in a fairly small town where there's just very many people period, let alone gays.

 

[FairShake]

I grew up in the city so I suspect I have actually met and talked with homosexuals more than some of the bumpkins in this thread.

There are many masculine homosexuals. Besides closeted men who go to gay bars, there is the leather community, homothugs, bears, and gymbunnies. All of whom are pretty masculine. In fact, that's the draw for them.

Also the gay guys I've known generally don't care as much about personality when it comes to their sexual partners. They leave that for friends. They just care about looks. If you have never been hit on or flirted with by a gay guy you either scream ugly, redneck, or ugly redneck. Anyone decent looking will be at least scrutinized by gay dudes. Hell, I'm pretty average looking at best and even I've been talked to.

Get this juvenile "You're not masculine" sh!t out of your head. It reeks of not knowing.

 

[bish0p]

Face and body. Now I can't judge another guy's looks very well, so maybe you are twice as good-looking as me as you claim. However, if I was a betting man I'd probably have to put my money on significantly more men (and women) finding me more attractive than you. That's if I was a betting man, of course.

Duuuuuuddddee, I had that same watch.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

I grew up in the city so I suspect I have actually met and talked with homosexuals more than some of the bumpkins in this thread.

There are many masculine homosexuals. Besides closeted men who go to gay bars, there is the leather community, homothugs, bears, and gymbunnies. All of whom are pretty masculine. In fact, that's the draw for them.

Also the gay guys I've known generally don't care as much about personality when it comes to their sexual partners. They leave that for friends. They just care about looks. If you have never been hit on or flirted with by a gay guy you either scream ugly, redneck, or ugly redneck. Anyone decent looking will be at least scrutinized by gay dudes. Hell, I'm pretty average looking at best and even I've been talked to.

Get this juvenile "You're not masculine" sh!t out of your head. It reeks of not knowing.

Sheesh, how refreshing to have someone who knows what they're talking about on the thread. It was getting old listening to the same ignorant garbage over and over.

Duuuuuuddddee, I had that same watch.

Haha, yeah it's a tight-ass watch, man. I get compliments on it a lot. The only flaw is that it doesn't know what month it is, so the day counter always rolls around to 31 days.

 

[AAAgent]

Ah, so since you didn't see Jews get slaughtered in World War II that must never have happened either, right? Awesome logic. Anyway, just a little education for you: it is not out of the norm for gay guys to hit on straight guys. That's not just personal experience either. That's just common knowledge from you know, actually getting out of my state once in awhile.

Whoa, where did this come from? If that is your so called truth meant *not* to be funny well im laughing right now. This is another one of your pointless lack of content posts.

seems like every thread you go to you like to start some sort of debate. I enjoy a good *intellectual* debate which this obviously isn't.

Also aren't you the one ranting on about how looks don't do anything for you and its all game that attracts???

You sound like some gay rights activist. Gay this and gay that. Since you're so well traveled and meet gays everywhere you go, are you sure you're not some closet homo. More power to you if you are but you're preaching to the wrong crowd.

Like i keep repeating myself about there being outliers to getting hit on by gay men. If the general population was consistently getting hit on by gay men, it wouldn't be considered an outlier. Once again if it was normal for good looking guys to get hit on by gay men regularly it wouldn't be so weird/having ppl post about this surprising them.

Now i've seen you're picture, don't really see what your bragging about. If you really want to keep bragging about how all the gay guys hit on you in every state you go to that's fine. Keep them rolling your way, because I got no problem with that.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

No logic to this statement at all. Looks play a role in getting into the exotic dancing business, therefore physically attractive guys have to work less in the dating game. Does this really make sense to you? Don't back down now. Be honest

Yes, physically attractive guys. Have their foot in the door already. Girls would rather have that Calvin Klein model looks than the average-joe. Looks matter > Looks don't matter.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

Ah, so since you didn't see Jews get slaughtered in World War II that must never have happened either, right? Awesome logic.

Whoa, where did this come from?

It came from you saying this:

I have never seen a gay guy alone hit on a single guy alone.

Since you are making the conclusion that since you have never seen a gay guy hit on a single guy (while alone), then it must not happen. Obviously, you are mistaken so I needed to give you another example of such logic to fully illustrate the flaw in your thought process.

seems like every thread you go to you like to start some sort of debate. I enjoy a good *intellectual* debate which this obviously isn't.

I didn't start a debate, and there still isn't one. You said that gay guys don't hit on straight guys. They do. End of story. We're still only speaking in terms of facts, and facts cannot be debated...by definition.

Also aren't you the one ranting on about how looks don't do anything for you and its all game that attracts???

Game and confidence primarily, yeah. What's your point?

You sound like some gay rights activist. Gay this and gay that.

Bro. You're in a thread about gays. If I mention the word "gay" several times in a post, this should be no shocker.

Since you're so well traveled and meet gays everywhere you go, are you sure you're not some closet homo. More power to you if you are but you're preaching to the wrong crowd.

Yes, I'm sure that visiting most of the major cities in America at least once doesn't make me gay. Thanks for checking on that though.

Once again if it was normal for good looking guys to get hit on by gay men regularly it wouldn't be so weird/having ppl post about this surprising them.

You're talking about one dude posting about this issue, and you have no clue what he looks like. There are infinite threads on here about chicks cheating on guys though. That must be abnormal as well, since people wouldn't be posting about how this surprises them otherwise. Ain't that right, AAAgent?

Now i've seen you're picture, don't really see what your bragging about. If you really want to keep bragging about how all the gay guys hit on you in every state you go to that's fine. Keep them rolling your way, because I got no problem with that.

What is there to brag about? If I had GIRLS hitting on me constantly, then yeah maybe I could have some bragging rights. I'm simply explaining to you what attracts gay men to other guys. My picture was in response to a middle-aged balding man with gray hair and no muscle mass who thinks he's twice as good-looking as I am, and he requested a picture. It had nothing to do with illustrating anything to you. I'm sorry you don't find me attractive though...I guess if I ever come to the City of Brotherly Love you definitely won't be looking in MY direction for c.ock!

 

[Just a Shot Away]

Yes, physically attractive guys. Have their foot in the door already. Girls would rather have that Calvin Klein model looks than the average-joe. Looks matter > Looks don't matter.

Yeah, that's not really what I asked. But I think that's a yes. You believe that since good-looking guys have an easier time of breaking into the exotic dancing business, then girls must look for good looks in a mate. So basically, stripping = dating for you. Interesting. Then I guess since taking HUGE sloppy dumps matters in breaking into the coprophilia fetish porn industry, then girls also highly desire this quality in a mate.

Girls don't care one way or the other about "Calvin Klein model looks." Over the last 150,000 years or so of human evolution, females have evolved sexual selection criteria that is rooted in practical traits such as the ability to provide for the female and her young, protect the nest, and produce viable offspring. Facial symmetry has nothing to do with these qualities. Females are left to choose mates that are masculine, confident, aggressive, and display an overall aura of dominance.

Darwin/Nobel Prizes/Scientific Method/facts > skip2mylou/TMZ/conjecture

 

[TheAsianLoverReturns]

Holy sh*t, there are a lot of closet homosexuals on this forum...

If a gay guy hits on you, you have some punk energy inside you.

I get the fruits checking out my physique at the gym. I never get gays hitting on me. They know better.

 

[AAAgent]

Just A Come Shot Away--- I'm sorry you don't find me attractive though...I guess if I ever come to the City of Brotherly Love you definitely won't be looking in MY direction for c.ock!

chill there homie, i mean homo. we don't need any of this here. I don't get how you try to act straight and keep defending gays then ask for some c0ck.

Then you go on defending how guys don't have to be attractive and that linked with your other posts about how girls go for emotions. I see how this all adds up.

If you're gay, that's cool man. Just go be gay with you're other gay friends. I guess you're just one of those guys that doesn't understand NO.

My first outlier statistic right here of a gay guy hitting on me.

You lost the battle girl and the war. now fvck off or some other a$$hole that is actually willing to let you in.

 

[yuppaz]

This discussion is now gay and pointless. Spunk energy and your a closet homo if a gay dude hits on you? Dude prob the reason why you are so scared of some gay guy hitting on you is that your afraid of what other people might think of you or your afraid of how you might react (like you aren't sure about yourself or you might love the cack or something). Bro - didn't you know if a gay guy checks you out that makes you one of them.... you love hairy @ss, congratulations!!!! yaaaaaaaayyyy

 

[Just a Shot Away]

If you're gay, that's cool man.

Dawg, just admit that you were wrong. When someone backs you into a corner in a debate and the only play you got left is "Oh yeah? Well uh...you're GAY!", you know you're done. Just bow out gracefully instead of reverting to the elementary school playground. Walk away, man. Just...walk away.

 

[AAAgent]

Dawg, just admit that you were wrong. When someone backs you into a corner in a debate and the only play you got left is "Oh yeah? Well uh...you're GAY!", you know you're done. Just bow out gracefully instead of reverting to the elementary school playground. Walk away, man. Just...walk away.

I'm pretty sure this came from your post....

Just A Come Shot Away--- I'm sorry you don't find me attractive though...I guess if I ever come to the City of Brotherly Love you definitely won't be looking in MY direction for c.ock!

You're right about me here since I don't roll that way but just you insinuating guys are looking for your c0ck is pretty much clear where you stand with this topic. I'm not just screaming you're GAY! out of nowhere. You came out with the comment yourself with that statement.

I will walk away from you, and i'd advise everyone else to as well if you're going to keep posting comments like the previous one. Bowing out gracefully may be just what you're looking for so i will refrain from that since i don't want to give you the impression of rolling that way.

The hole you've been digging for yourself is deep enough. You can stop with the shoveling of crap now.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

I'm pretty sure this came from your post....

Just A Shot Away--- I'm sorry you don't find me attractive though...I guess if I ever come to the City of Brotherly Love you definitely won't be looking in MY direction for c.ock!

You really don't know when you're being mocked, huh man? I made it pretty obvious.

You see, AAAgent...Philadelphia is also known as "The City of Brotherly Love." I saw the irony in a homophobe living in a place with such a nickname, and decided to poke fun at you volunteering the information that you don't find me sexually attractive in my pictures. So I then decided to capitalize "my" to illustrate that you will indeed be looking for c.ock on a day to day basis in this...city of brotherly love, but expressed my regret in you not seeking out the c.ock that is attached to my person. I hope this clarifies things for you. Poo-poo head.

 

[JAS760]

I'm pretty sure this came from your post....

Just A Come Shot Away--- I'm sorry you don't find me attractive though...I guess if I ever come to the City of Brotherly Love you definitely won't be looking in MY direction for c.ock!

You're right about me here since I don't roll that way but just you insinuating guys are looking for your c0ck is pretty much clear where you stand with this topic. I'm not just screaming you're GAY! out of nowhere. You came out with the comment yourself with that statement.

I will walk away from you, and i'd advise everyone else to as well if you're going to keep posting comments like the previous one. Bowing out gracefully may be just what you're looking for so i will refrain from that since i don't want to give you the impression of rolling that way.

The hole you've been digging for yourself is deep enough. You can stop with the shoveling of crap now.

you are an idiot.

 

[charlene]

well.If you don't stand for something, then you'll fall for everything.
:rockon: