Espi said:
First off--and this is my OPINION--women Care clueless about what men go through to attract women.
I'm not sure if you actually ARE a woman...you never know...there are a lot of fake profiles on this site--but I'll play along and just assume that you are a woman.
Truth is, most men ARE nervous around gorgeous women...but it's how they choose to HANDLE the nervousness that makes all the difference.
Some guys IGNORE the hotties and settle for the emotional safety of the lesser attractive types, fatties, or uglies.
Other guys mask their nervousness through pseudo-confidence or even ****iness..."She's just another person." Or "I don't pedestalize women." I don't adhere to that mindset. I am FASCINATED by gorgeous women. I RESPECT the hotties and treat them as such.
The difference is, I choose to channel that nervousness into positive energy.
As you can see from my join date, and if you've read my other posts, I've been doing this for a LONG time...I've been on enough dates and have been with enough women to KNOW how to keep maintain my poise.
Again--ANYTHING worth going after in this life SHOULD involve nervousness...should involve risk...should involve discomfort...you say you have a boyfriend....if the thought of him never leaving you doesn't make you nervous, then you're probably not aiming high enough.
Woah, chill out, Lil Chump. :crackup:
Did I attack you? Nope, I simply offered my stance on this topic.
Of course I don't want to lose him...but if he leaves? That was HIS choice! He didn't want to stay with me or blew his promise. I can even question his feelings! That's
HIS PROBLEM. I will never ruin my life over anyone who makes a reckless and selfish choice, whether it's him, my family or my best friends.
Any
other reason, I am scared for. Such as "
What if he dies?! What if he doesn't take care of his sight properly?? What if he gets sick? " These are the ONLY reasons you should be
deathly scared of -
TERRIFIED OF.
I have a story it might provide some understanding as to what I'm talking about.
Back in grade 10, I knew this one guy who was a loner. His
only friend was me. I didn't mind, we were young and I didn't want to date in high school, i was busy with my studies.
Anyways, he was also depressed. I was there for him whenever i could be, like a friend. One day, he killed himself - he committed suicide on the front lawn of our school. Everyone was sad for weeks.
Guess what? I wasn't.
Sure, I missed him. But at the ceremony, when everyone made a speech, I said "I will never mope around like everyone is. Why? Because he made a SELFISH CHOICE. I could've BEEN there for him. I could've helped him even MORE. But no. He left MY LIFE by
killing himself. He didn't think about the ones who loved him. His family? His friends? Me His brother? His long distance girlfriend? How could he do that?! And I'm still sorry it happened. "
Everyone was shocked at my answer. But they knew i was right.
I was young then; but i guess i kind of have the same philosophy now. Point is, you can't stop anyone. Ever.