i think this is contextual. living with a woman you are not married with can make you hate her FAST. women like to take control, and by living with them you are giving it to them.pdx1138 said:"40. Do not cohabitate with a woman until you are married. Period."
Most of the lines I agree except this....regardless of the age group. Though Marriage seems much better to do at 30 or later.
Every person I know in my age group that has a lasting marriage ALL lived together a number of years before sealing the deal.
The ones that didn't live together are mostly divorced. I definitely will not be married to someone until living with
them at least several years to get to know their habits...and only after dating and not living together at least 1-2 years.
I think this assumes that the guy is a wuss. I don't see how living with a woman gives her the control. If you are a man, you should lead. There's where the "period" belongs. Anything else is unacceptable. Like John Cena said, my girlfriend is basically a guest in my house.CrimsonPanther said:i think this is contextual. living with a woman you are not married with can make you hate her FAST. women like to take control, and by living with them you are giving it to them.
First off, if you want to be spinning plates, you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship.CrimsonPanther said:spinning plates will become mission impossible, chatting with female friends while she just sits there and watches is awkward, and when she tries to tell you stuff like "we should work on our relationship" or "we should make changes" and really meaning YOU should work on relationship and YOU should make changes, it sucks.
zekko said:I think this assumes that the guy is a wuss. I don't see how living with a woman gives her the control. If you are a man, you should lead. There's where the "period" belongs. Anything else is unacceptable. Like John Cena said, my girlfriend is basically a guest in my house.
First off, if you want to be spinning plates, you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship.
Secondly, if the woman is trying to change you, you're with the wrong woman.
Don_Dom said:Great list. Liked Chicago's, too.
I'm curious if you could elabrate on the obsession with pets being an indicator of crazy, though. I had a relationship with a woman who I decided was awaiting the arrival of the mother ship, but I never could decide if that had something to do with her career being in academia or her being an equestrian. And I'm not entirely sure what the actual reasons for those are, I've just noticed since then that women who are one or the other or both tend to be a tad nutty, at best. This one was completely nuts.
In fact, I would even go ahead and submit that one should date women who have PhDs and work in higher education with caution, depending on their area. Every single one I've met has been nuts yet simultaneously convinced they were the smartest most perfectly adjusted human being on the planet.
I've been putting this conundrum to my mates lately - catlady or horseygirl. Everyone, including myself, picks the catlady. To be clear I'm talking about the urban/suburban girls who stable a horse outside the city somewhere. I've heard other guys say that the country chicks who ride day to day for whatever reason are relatively normal creatures.Colossus said:Wise and true observations Dom Dom.
I think women who are obsessive with their pets (i.e., go over the top with affection, spoiling, and investment in them) have neurotic tendencies by nature and will transfer this to you at some point. Equestrians are the WORST!! I don't know what it is about horsey people but they are the most pretentious weirdos I have ever met.
My step mother is veterinary surgeon and she says the same thing about them. Odd bunch, best avoided.
DING-DING-DING-DING!!!!!!Knight's Cross said:Dom Dom,
2. PHD types that are pseudo brilliant. I dated one that was a psychologist. She was by far the nuttiest chick I have known. She had an alcoholic dad, and to "prove" to herself that she wasn't an alcoholic she would go no alcohol for a month each summer. Which proves absolutely nothing. But hey she's a shrink so I'm sure she was right in her mind. Granted, she was fun and flirty. It was like everything I had done she had to one up in discussion. Not directly mind you, but sort of a indirect attack on my achievments. I realized real fast she was not girlfriend material.
KC
Ha ha I've seen that episode. My friend and I watch that show. Glad to know I'm not the only one here. It's amazing how much things from Sosuave keep coming to me when I watch these shows and see the ridiculous things guys are doing. As I watch the show I have to point out some Sosuave advice to my friend. Never seen a guy spend so much time on the phone with so many girls talking to them about relationships, lol.zekko said:Ever watch "Total Divas", which is about the female WWE wrestlers? John Cena had Nikki Bella move in with her, but hit her up with a cohabitation agreement almost as soon as she walked in the door. His wife had divorced him the year before, and he was adamant he wasn't going to make that mistake again. I can relate to him there. Anyway, the agreement basically said that she was (legally) just a guest in his house, which she wasn't thrilled with. I don't know how it will turn out, but I suspect she will accept it, at least for now.
I've lived through most of this list as well. I hope at least one young man uses this list as a guide for the rest of his life.justadude said:This is a list that I will share with my friends. It is too bad that I had to live and learn the hard way through most of the list. I had to laugh about the women being obsessed with their pets, SPOT ON THE MONEY!
If you meet a woman who has the upper hand in both categories, she will never date you long-term. If she does, she's getting old and wants to start a family before it's too late.MaddXMan said:Great list, thanks. Wonder if you could elobroate on:
Dating “up” as a man is asking for heartbreak. Learn to honestly assess your sexual market value.
Does that mean dating up as in more money and resources - dating someone with more money than you, or in looks?