Venom01 said:
What do you two normally talk about?
- we talk about funny things that are currently happening or have happened in our past. We both have a sarcastic attitude so we play off on that. Yesterday we talked about funny things that happened on past jobs that she had. Which stemmed into many conversations and then ultimately going back to other funny job things. She talked about the times she worked at the doctors office and at a drug store and all the funny things she could remember from their.
- She asked about my day and I told her i went to a BBQ and i told her that we just played on the guitar and drums all day. Then we played homerun derby. She wanted to know more about home run derby..etc.
- We talked about nicknames that we've gotten growing up in the past.. she told me stories of how she got her, and how she writes letters to her sister using her nicknames.
-she tells me funny stories about her niece and nephew and things that they do.
Generally nothing serious all fun and games.
Fun and games,huh? Well this is all ok.but I sensed NO SEXUALITY here.
None.
These types of conversations could take place between two men or two women,and no one would think anything weird was going on.
Let me ask you this...
Would you feel uncomfortable saying anything sexual to her? Not vulgar,just something a boyfriend might say to his girlfriend. Something like this:
you:I like that shirt you're wearing. You know why?
her:Why?
you:Because it's thin and I can see through it. You need to wear it more often.
Would something like that feel weird or strange for you to say? Do you think she would be offended if you said something like that to her? Because if so,you're a heck of a lot closer to the friendzone than you realize.
Stuff like that shouldn't feel odd or weird to say to a girl who knows you have a sexual interest in her.
Venom0 said:
Whether it's on the phone or in person. I traditionally talk about what ever the conversation is on, and I bring in my friends here and there and tell stories from the weekend of what we did. I make sure i ask her how her day is, and she'll tell me a story about people who come in, and i'll tell her how my day was.. just sticking to whatever will make her laugh, and she'll tell me things of what made her laugh during the day.
While this is all fine and dandy,it needs to come AFTER ATTRACTION HAS BEEN ESTABLISHED. If you've been talking like this to her from the very beginning,you may ALREADY BE in the friendzone.
Let's hope not though.
Venom01 said:
of you two talks the most?
- I make sure its more her talking and then i'll shove in a story hear or there if i hear it getting dry. I would say its 50/50 though because she does ask questions. I find myself leading some of the questions and probing for more details.
So she leads and directs most of the conversations.
That's bad.
I say that because I'm certain she doesn't direct the convo onto the TWO OF YOU. It's like when a guy takes a girl out to a nice restaurant for a date,then afterwards,when her friends ask her about the date,she talks more about the restaurant and the food than she does about the guy she went with.
If she likes the guy,she'll talk about him,but if not,she'll talk more about where they went,or what they did.
Seems to me like she's talking about anything and everything
other than the two of you. Hopefully I'm mistaken.
It's not bad that she talks a lot...IF you direct the convo onto the two of you. If you sit back and just let her ramble on,who know where the conversation will end up.
Just stir the convo in a more romantic/sexual direction..and I don't mean in general,I mean about the two of you.
If she seems uncomfortable when you do this,then I'm sorry,your probably friendzoned.
I was talking to my best friend this morning - there's a going away party for one of our friends tonight, he's leaving for his masters. its kind of last minute thing, but i'm going to have to reschedule our plans"
