40 years old Virgin & Bald. Is it over for me?

[ImprovingJuan]

dude op you look totally decent, lol. what does the rest of you look like?

im outta shape ,5'9 211 pounds. depression got to me, i think low t levels also made me fat.ut

but im seriously thinking of going back to the gym, i just need to be motivated.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

No mate, you don't need to be motivated to go to the gym. Going to the gym makes you motivated after 1 week of going. Exercise your way out of depression, it works.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Attraction doesn't work the same way for women as it does men. Show a man a picture or two of a woman, and he can tell you with, I'd guess, 80-90% accuracy if he will be attracted to that woman in person. For women, it's the inverse. It's a lot closer to 20% looks; the rest is attitude, intelligence, and demeanor. Your attitude about your looks is what's killing you, much more so than your actual looks. If you have a complex about something, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

[marmel75]

how was he a beta? what could he do? hit her? women use the excuse of the fragile / the weaker sex to get away with everything they want.

never heard the saying: Don't hit a woman, not even with a flower? He is considered a beta for not reacting and being ugly, and if he reacted he would be considered a coward for treating bad a woman.

I'll just say that no woman would dare ever talk that way to me. I've never had a woman do that to me in my life. Women only will try what they think they can get away with.

 

[FCB]

how was he a beta? what could he do? hit her? women use the excuse of the fragile / the weaker sex to get away with everything they want.

never heard the saying: Don't hit a woman, not even with a flower? He is considered a beta for not reacting and being ugly, and if he reacted he would be considered a coward for treating bad a woman.

Look man I'm gonna hit you with the straight honesty. You're a little biatch. I'm not saying this to belittle you, but to motivate you to change your view of yourself at your core. You've most likely posted this thread to get validation that you aren't a terrible looking guy or to get pity for how you've been treated, I can understand that may build you up a little bit but you need to get angry/competitive/belief in yourself. Stop living by the rules of what society or everyone else around you thinks, I'm not bad to women, I'd never hit a women but if a women insults or crosses the line I'd rip on her the same I would if a man did it. Don't take **** from anyone, don't accept defeat because you are bald and don't use low-T as an excuse for why you are out of shape. Depression is a disease, once it gets you it can spiral and I understand that its not as easy as just snapping your fingers, but you need to take steps to better your situation, no one else will do it for you and no one else can make you feel better about yourself if you don't internalize those feelings.

So, first step is stop making threads on internet forums asking for others opinions about your looks (in reality you want comfort), when you give your self confidence and happiness in the hands of others (especially strangers) you are going to be depressed/miserable. So take the power back, build your self confidence, go to the gym, work on your goals in life and internalize that you aren't going to admit defeat, you are going to live an awesome life, be happy and have sex. You are going to do that by working at your goals every ****ing day, when someone disrespects you, you aren't going to shrink you are going to grow with anger to prove what you are made of and that you have a ****load to offer. I have no idea what you have to offer, but you need to foster and work on those areas, and if you do then you won't give a hit what a few people think. Take back YOUR power, don't be a *****, you win at life by not quitting, not giving up and going out and competing with yourself every day. Get angry, controlled aggression can be very valueable in accomplishing your goals, above all else don't be a *****.

 

[evan12]

Man you are not only normal , you are handsome , you are bf material , I think your problem is that you feel you are not worthy so people pick on that . read books about self esteem .

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Here watch this video

 

[Glumix]

im outta shape ,5'9 211 pounds. depression got to me, i think low t levels also made me fat.ut

but im seriously thinking of going back to the gym, i just need to be motivated.

I started to read your thread and I was like : "He's probably ugly as sh-it." and then I clicked your pics and was like WTF?! Is he kidding?

You look good, man!

Just stop thinking, and stop asking. And especially stop asking for advices to women.

The problem is in your head.

Focus on yourself. Be a little bit selfish for a few months or a year. Take a break from women.
Hit the gym, go for a run every morning. Read the DJBible.

 

[Serenity]

Whatever the fvcks wrong with you it isn't your looks, it's how you think you look. Everyone else here sees a potentially very attractive man, you apparently don't see what we see. If you claim yourself to be ugly you are simply wrong, you don't have that excuse to hide behind. Plenty of women find bald(ing) men hot as fvck, go find those women and give them the satisfaction of your baldness.

It's not over for you, except if that's your attitude and you've given up. I would bet my balls you can find and fvck a woman, if you just put some directed effort into it.

If you worry about the sh!t you can (in rare cases) get from women, then know that the sh!t I give for persistent loser attitude is far worse.

 

[JohnChops]

1) get off 4chan
2) stop finding examples of your current "self" on YouTube to justify how women treat men "like you"
3) stop being a whiny little *****, seriously, you reek of desperation.
4) anyone can get laid, regardless of looks
5) do something with your life

 

[Who Dares Win]

I agree with most of the guys here, you surely are not in a good position, agree on that.

Being bald, overweight, out of shape and in your 40s surely is not the best setting to pick up women or change your body rapidly.

However you can fix it which is totally at your reach, first of all drop any sourch of negativity in your life either those channel where sadic women bash men only to become sensitive while talking about them.

Not sure how is your wallet however subscribing to a gym is a necessary step, dont bother to revolutionize your clothes before transforming your body, it will be the new you to fit the right clothes and it will be your new you to chose a style that fits to him, no military campaign has been done in a week neither will be your personal one.

Regarding the low testosterone, find the reason for that either is your diet and habits or a physical problem, have a talk with a doctor and consider TRT if a solution to bring back your test cant be found, this is important you can do shi1 without testosterone, its the first drive of a man 360 degrees.

Also you do have some strange vibe, your facial expression in your pictures show it, its not a matter of look but of attitude...hit the gym, build yourself into a new you and such expression will change so will your body language.

Also something I shouldnt tell you considering how guys with problems operate in the us, at your point your life sucks and is miserable so just do whatever it takes to change it, you basically have nothing to lose.

 

[ImprovingJuan]

2016 will be a year of much change i can tell you that. I will start tanning and working out so i dont look like a cancer patient. as i told some of you guys my only problem with working out / losing fat is because i become gaunt in the face and i look really bad, but maybe i need to set a realistic body fat % so i look both fit and with a healthy face.

I think i will forget about women totally for a year or more

anyway what kind of weird vibe are you talking about who dares win?

 

[Charmaine]

You don't look as bad looking as you said you were, and I don't think you look like a cancer patient either. Tanning is not so much of a priority as losing fat I would say. Many attractive celebrities are not tanned anyway.

Perhaps working on improving yourself internally, develop healthy eating habits and have regular exercise. These would all increase your self-confidence and help you feel better about yourself.

 

[beforeimgone]

There are an infinite number of people in the world (couple billion) and at least three thousand are guaranteed to love something about you even if you don't have much to love.

In order to increase the number of potential mates, you need to change your mindset asap. It's never too late for men though. I'd recommend reading up on how to self improve. There's No time like now!

 

[ubercat]

IJ
I m trying to stay off board. But this is so damned pitiful u ve prodded me out of my lair. I can't imagine carrying the v card at 40 but we re all on the same journey so here goes.

I'm older than you but the advantage I have is that I ve done it all before so I know it can be done. there's plenty of experienced guys here just trust us that it's all possible.

As the guys said exercise is paramount. within a few weeks it will start to tone your body - believe me fat and muscular is an immediately better look to chicks. And for God's sake don't go on any crash diet or you ll look like an empty plastic bag. the exercise also improve your mood.

You need to tell us about your finances and other constraints so we know what you've got to work with. But there r no excuses you can do plenty with body weight exercises, a pair of trainers and a $10 pair of dumbbells.

I personally am using exactly that. I do it in front of TV so no great act of Will Power required. I m purposely going slow but I lost 25 pounds in the last 3 months and people r noticing. Guts gone man boobs r nxt. And don't worry about getting gaunt in the face. now a days you can go to any salon and get safe and effective filler injections which will sort that out instantly.

I don't think you need to go monk for a year. 6 to 8 weeks of exercise to give you a bit more confidence in your own attractiveness. then start approaching chicks. approach enough of them and you'll find one who s in the mood to f***. hey and hallelujah you've lost your v card and it's been a good year.

There s plenty of threads here on basics. Line up your issues for us and we ll give u some options so u can form yr own plan. U ve come this far - get it all on the table

 

[grayclif]

Hit the gym to improve testosterone levels. I truly feel is you take yourself through a program like stronglifts 5 x 5 you will see awesome results. Stop drinking for a while (not sure at all if you do).

Join a men's group and or take a special interest class most churches have them. Learn to cook really well. If you have a hobby you are an expert at do a YouTube video or write a blog. Be the best you. Women are great but they are not the end all be all.

 

[christoff522]

true example of how women treat guys they dont find attractive. the guy only told her she was beautiful

No, the vast majority of women are not like that. These women were simply a couple of nutcases, probably drunk, or high. The way she said "burn in hell", says it all. Do you think if they were simply women being hassled by a group of dudes that they would have been ejected from the restaurant? Nope, those women were (to use a britishism) off their heads. Don't think that that is how women are, most women are nice to you even when they don't want to be. You could go up to a girl and start talking to her and she's not going to be all "get the f*** away from me" and tell you to burn in hell. She'll be polite, and if shes not interested say she has to run cos yadda yadda.

That was exceptional circumstances probably (in fact likely for how pathetic it is) fuelled by alcohol.

 

[sambwoy]

women see bald guys as not having good genes, i've been told that online and face to face. its like they see it as a disease or something

I guess its scientifically related to age and thus plays a part in attraction, just as heterosexual men are attracted to women that have fertility and feminine indicators. Just what I read.

Not an excuse to get such below-par behaviour. I've been through the online rigmarole before. Very often its unhelpful comments that serve to play on anxieties, particularly its female board users doing this. How so?