40 - single/celibate for two years - no confidence - what now?

[Rubirosa]

Or you can skip also this self improvement bullsheet and go abroad where women are still normal.

C'mon dude, self improvement should always be an objective whether a chick's involved or not.......and a guy shouldn't uproot his life just to move to a place based on its quality of females......(unless he wants to go on a year long bender of screwing scores of babes....haha)

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Or you can skip also this self improvement bullsheet and go abroad where women are still normal.

He is right ... if you want to have fun in this life - your new home should be eastern Europe or Thailand/Philipines/Indonesia.You look like a man not like a ***** , not bad at all, not young but in good shape, you should hit gym even more.You would do very good in places like Ukraine Indonesia Philipines Poland Thailand Russia Belarus.Get great body, learn languages, dress nicely, make some $ and world is yours.

I would do some courses and become English teacher, travel around the world and sleep with beautiful chicks.Head up.If you improve yourself even more you can have amazing 40ties !

Life has just started. I suggest you travel to these locations , it will greatly boost you confidence and most probably you will not want to come back.You are a prize for many many women in these countries.
Yes you earn less as English teacher or get online job land but trust me - it is much more fun than sitting in UK in nice home but alone.Start with Ukraine/Poland if you are into white girls or Philipines/Thailand if you want asian girls , these places will greatly improve your confidence.Women are still women there, and they are much more kind.Start to learn languages - like Polish Russian Thai it will open 10000 ... possibilities to you.

Your 'failure' is just illusion. Listen to my advice and then you can come back later and thank me for making your life awesome :rockon:

White,British man is a catch for these girls.If you want to stay in UK hit Polish and other eastern girls who immigrated to UK and will get nice gf.

 

[Moy_1974]

Got a night out on the town Saturday night. First night out in MONTHS.
Any tips on how to carry myself? I'm nervous already, my aim is just to survive the night around women without panicking!

 

[Moy_1974]

How should I react if I get any unprovoked s****y comments from women about my looks/height tonight? This is my first night out with the boys in almost a year and I'm terrified!!!

 

[LiveFreeX]

C'mon dude, self improvement should always be an objective whether a chick's involved or not.......and a guy shouldn't uproot his life just to move to a place based on its quality of females......(unless he wants to go on a year long bender of screwing scores of babes....haha)

How much self improvement does one really need? I think first, improving location can do wonders for your mind/body/soul. Hit the gym AFTER you are getting women and because you want to, not because of some b1tch's impossibly high standards for a man. I choose to hit the magic card shop with my friends and improve my hobbies... fvck women, they are a dime a dozen and in all honesty once you get married, what they want, their drama, **** tests and bullsh1t doesn't matter AT ALL. If my wife wants to keep me around she knows better than to pull ANY of that sh1t on me. I could walk out tomorrow and be with a new, younger, hotter girl if I wanted to, that's the beauty and freedom that LOCATION improvement grants.

PM me, I can hook you up with a woman before the week is over. I hate to burst your bubble guys but I have had women throughout my 20's and I've never hit the gym outside of a brief stint in law enforcement. I suppose if I had stuck to my career I could have been a sergeant by now and probably had a b1tchy land-whale as my wife or boss like most of my friends. Instead I traded lots of work related stress, a high risk career and being around bulldikes and blue pills to travel the world and bang hot YOUNG women... Do I regret it? NAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

www.globaltesol.com (it takes 1 WEEK to get certified)
www.daveseslcafe.com

I make decent money, my wife is 9 years younger than me, still good looking and treats me like gold. And I can take as much time as I want off between jobs/semesters. I spend my office hours playing magic cards and video games with my co-workers. My ex boss was 49 and bagging girls 30 years younger than he was, still is.

How should I react if I get any unprovoked s****y comments from women about my looks/height tonight? This is my first night out with the boys in almost a year and I'm terrified!!!

Be like: B1tch please, my girlfriend is hotter, richer and younger than you and is begging me to marry her. (and mean it)


Teach English, you will NEVER EVER look back.

 

[Moy_1974]

How much self improvement does one really need? I think first, improving location can do wonders for your mind/body/soul. Hit the gym AFTER you are getting women and because you want to, not because of some b1tch's impossibly high standards for a man. I choose to hit the magic card shop with my friends and improve my hobbies... fvck women, they are a dime a dozen and in all honesty once you get married, what they want, their drama, **** tests and bullsh1t doesn't matter AT ALL. If my wife wants to keep me around she knows better than to pull ANY of that sh1t on me. I could walk out tomorrow and be with a new, younger, hotter girl if I wanted to, that's the beauty and freedom that LOCATION improvement grants.

PM me, I can hook you up with a woman before the week is over. I hate to burst your bubble guys but I have had women throughout my 20's and I've never hit the gym outside of a brief stint in law enforcement. I suppose if I had stuck to my career I could have been a sergeant by now and probably had a b1tchy land-whale as my wife or boss like most of my friends. Instead I traded lots of work related stress, a high risk career and being around bulldikes and blue pills to travel the world and bang hot YOUNG women... Do I regret it? NAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

www.globaltesol.com (it takes 1 WEEK to get certified)
www.daveseslcafe.com

I make decent money, my wife is 9 years younger than me, still good looking and treats me like gold. And I can take as much time as I want off between jobs/semesters. I spend my office hours playing magic cards and video games with my co-workers. My ex boss was 49 and bagging girls 30 years younger than he was, still is.




Be like: B1tch please, my girlfriend is hotter, richer and younger than you and is begging me to marry her. (and mean it)


Teach English, you will NEVER EVER look back.

PMd you.

 

[guru1000]

Ok, here's the deal. You don't need to relocate, lol (btw, I think that's absurd advice). You are a decent-looking guy: not ugly and above average, but you appear in your 40s. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but if your sole demographics are hot, young women online, you want to look your best--and your youngest.

We are the same age, but I look 10 years younger. I bang 9s+ in their 20s on the regular--90% from online--and I'm older than you. I don't even entertain 8s or below, as I did in my 20s and 30s.

Here is what you need to do to bang hot woman online; this plan is specifically tailored for you, not a road map for every man:

• Grow your hair out and dye it; no greys. Is your hair thick? If not, use Toppik (fiber holds) as an enhancer after you finish styling your hair.
  
  
• Get 2-3 chemical peels or laser-resurfacing.
  
  
• Seek a board-certified dermatologist. As you age--especially if you have a low body-fat level (and you appear you do)--the fat deposits and bone structure in your face deflates. This is what creates shadowed temples, forehead, cheekbones, etc. Request 2-3 sessions of Sculptra. This is a product which creates temporal, natural collagen to plump up your face--a/k/a volume-- and lasts over two years. Look at Sylvester Stallone at almost 70; not only is he HGH/testosterone enhanced, but as well Scuptra-enhanced.
  
  
• Get style. Many good threads on this board on this subject. My personal preference is a Hugo Boss button shirt with sleeves rolled three times along with True-Religion Jeans, and non-square toe, stylish shoes. Lets not forget the must: a decent watch.
  
  
• Seek a professional photographer and take 100-200 photos with your most stylish clothes. Put your best 2-3 professional pics online.
  
  
• Stay lean, 10-12% body fat while muscular (assuming you are).
  
  
• Seek a dentist, and straighten and whiten your teeth.

Yes, it is a lot of work, but you have a choice: Bang young hotties online or don't. Or, of course, flee the country, lol.

Good luck.

 

[Moy_1974]

Ok, here's the deal. You don't need to relocate, lol (btw, I think that's absurd advice). You are a decent-looking guy: not ugly and above average, but you appear in your 40s. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but if your sole demographics are hot, young women online, you want to look your best--and your youngest.

We are the same age, but I look 10 years younger. I bang 9s+ in their 20s on the regular--90% from online--and I'm older than you. I don't even entertain 8s or below, as I did in my 20s and 30s.

Here is what you need to do to bang hot woman online; this plan is specifically tailored for you, not a road map for every man:

• Grow your hair out and dye it; no greys. Is your hair thick? If not, use Toppik (fiber holds) as an enhancer after you finish styling your hair.
  
  
• Get 2-3 chemical peels or laser-resurfacing.
  
  
• Seek a board-certified dermatologist. As you age--especially if you have low body-fat levels (and you appear you do)--the fat deposits and bone structure in your face deflates. This is what creates shadowed temples, forehead, cheekbones, etc. Request 2-3 sessions of Sculptra. This is a product which creates temporal, natural collagen to plump up your face--a/k/a volume-- and lasts over two years. Look at Sylvester Stallone at almost 70; no only is he GH/testosterone enhanced, but as well Scuptra-enhanced.
  
  
• Get style. Many good threads on this board on this subject. My personal preference is a Hugo Boss button shirt with sleeves rolled three times along with True-Religion Jeans, and non-square stylish shoes[/URL. Lets not forget the must: a decent watch.
  
  
  [*]Seek a professional photographer and take 100-200 photos with your most stylish clothes. Put your best 2-3 professional pics online.
  
  
  [*] Stay lean, 10-12% body fat while muscular (assuming you are).
  

Yes, it is a lot of work, but you have a choice: Bang young hotties online or don't.

Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. On a bulk at the moment, so my body fat will increase to about 15%. To be expected, it gets blitzed down to 12% in the cutting phase.

My target demograph is actually women my own age, yet it is women between the ages of 40 and 50 who have been messaging me online to tell me how below average I am!

Move abroad

Plazzy surgery

Are they REALLY the only options available to me to date a 35-40 year old under 160lbs?

 

[guru1000]

You are not below average. Don't let these women "game" you and get inside your head. I'm brutal, but honest, and would tell you otherwise if I thought so. My advice is tailored for to bang young hot women online. If you seek women your own age below 160 lbs (very heavy btw), with looks in the 5 - 6.5 range, you are good as is. Just seek a professional photographer and put better photos up.

 

[LiveFreeX]

North American women are nuts, I can't believe anyone advocates marrying/banging/dating or even speaking to them. I treat them like Nuclear waste, avoid at all costs. Interacting with them can get you at best a quick lay at worst jail time or even financial ruin.

Hit the Gym
Buy Better Clothes
Seek a pro photographer
Learn more game
Hang out at nightclubs,bars and coffee shops
Use Texts
Rhyme off openers, neg hits and other canned nonsense to appease the American female into not calling the police.

Seems like a huge amount of money and time invested for a 5 minute spooge fest

or

Sit on the beach in Thailand with a drink in one hand and a broad in the other, no game req'd. Banging gets old after the first few lays and if she doesn't bring anything to the table besides her cooch you've just wasted days of your life getting attention from a brain-dead hole. Seems like most Americans have been brainwashed to believe that sex is the be all end all of life, its not. I've taken more stimulating dumps than some of the conversations I've had with American broads.

I've done NONE of the above and managed to pull a quality tail that I actually like having around well after the party is over.


I wear old clothes and hoodies, most of my socks have holes, my shoes do for sure, I don't care.
I have no car here, the bus is my caddy.
I'm putting on a little weight but broads here don't care, they think its healthy.
The only pictures that are taken of me are from young 18+ students who want to impress their friends.
I've never had to use any PUA bible tactics on my wife, not even once and we've been together 4 years already.
I goto FREE nightclubs to get FREE drinks.
And I never spent money on my wife, I never had a wedding, I never bought her a ring and she is perfectly happy without all that materialistic nonsense. I give her 20 bucks to buy clothes, she brings back $19. She doesn't dress provocatively, she is conservative and I'm training her to fight the feminist regime.
I'm the cheapest motherfvcker you'll ever meet and I'm telling you right now, you don't need to waste time or money on women.
I've NEVER dated a foreign woman older than 25 or uglier than a 7.
My wife is clingy as hell, has a high IL, texts me 6 or 7 times a day, cooks, cleans and was a virgin when I met her.

Bottom line: American broads suck and they aren't worth your time or energy. The problem was never YOU, the problem was always THEM.

 

[evan12]

Plazzy surgery

Are they REALLY the only options available to me to date a 35-40 year old under 160lbs?

Women in 30+ recovering their beauties to look in twenties , so they demand younger more handsome men , it is kind of cheating on nature , but every body want to play in all his cards . That is why I asked what is men options for facial improvement , because you need to play all your cards too .

 

[Moy_1974]

Women in 30+ recovering their beauties to look in twenties , so they demand younger more handsome men , it is kind of cheating on nature , but every body want to play in all his cards . That is why I asked what is men options for facial improvement , because you need to play all your cards too .

Bear in mind that I'm in the UK.

Tonight I went out. Long story short:

Went out
Looked around at women
Instantly realised that I was WAY inferior to their beauty
Envisioned a stream of hate pouring from them should I dare to go within ten feet of them
Had panic attack
Came home

Disgusted with myself

 

[MikeOck]

Bear in mind that I'm in the UK.

Tonight I went out. Long story short:

Went out
Looked around at women
Instantly realised that I was WAY inferior to their beauty
Envisioned a stream of hate pouring from them should I dare to go within ten feet of them
Had panic attack
Came home

Disgusted with myself

First of all, these guys have offered some good advice. Guru1000 had some really good suggestions for physical appearance that would help you pull hot, young women consistently. HOWEVER, a HUGE part of your specific problem is one of self-esteem: you simply have none. I'm not a doctor, but you might want to look into the possibility of clinical depression. I'd wager that you took your breakup from your fiance quite badly and let it convince you that you were worthless. Over the last two years you have subconsciously sought out circumstances to confirm your delusion.

Take steps to improve your self-esteem. No matter how you look you will have problems with women if you believe that they are better than you.

 

[Moy_1974]

I guess I'm gonna need that plastic surgery and some steroids before I can leave the house :/

 

[way2smart]

I guess I'm gonna need that plastic surgery and some steroids before I can leave the house :/

Have you testosterone levels checked. From what you have said, it seems like you have both depression, low self-esteem and lack of confidence, all of which are related to low testosterone. I don't see your looks or age as a problem at all.
If you find out your testosterone is low, maybe it's time to get on TRT.

 

[Moy_1974]

Have you testosterone levels checked. From what you have said, it seems like you have both depression, low self-esteem and lack of confidence, all of which are related to low testosterone. I don't see your looks or age as a problem at all.
If you find out your testosterone is low, maybe it's time to get on TRT.

How do I do that?

 

[Rubirosa]

The OP is only 40.........I highly doubt he's suffering from low T. Life is constantly a series of ups and downs. Sometimes the down parts, through a series of circumstances, are more intense than others.

 

[Rubirosa]

Bear in mind that I'm in the UK.

Tonight I went out. Long story short:

Went out
Looked around at women
Instantly realised that I was WAY inferior to their beauty
Envisioned a stream of hate pouring from them should I dare to go within ten feet of them
Had panic attack
Came home

Disgusted with myself

Dude, you're a Brit right? ...Would James Bond subscribe to these thoughts? You are defining a terrible putting the pzzy on the pedestal mentality. Go watch "Dr No" and grow a pair..........
This is a low confidence phase that will go away....
You'll be fine

 

[Moy_1974]

Dude, you're a Brit right? ...Would James Bond subscribe to these thoughts? You are defining a terrible putting the pzzy on the pedestal mentality. Go watch "Dr No" and grow a pair..........
This is a low confidence phase that will go away....
You'll be fine

No, because James Bond is a fictional character. Read my opening post in this thread for the full story.

 

[Moy_1974]

Going to see a cosmetic surgeon in town later (open on Sundays!) Going to ask some gymheads about where I can score some test/dianabol as well.