Give Me a Young Man (as sung by The Uppity Blues Women)
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Well I was looking round and checking out my very best friends
Seems that they'd all taken up with the young young men...
Seems that when you reach around middle age
You don't want a final chapter, you want to write another page...
I need a young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
Well seems like men my age are all married, boring or tied
You got to find a young man if you want to feel desired...
Now some of my friends is worried 'bout what people may say,
I say age ain't nothin' but a number the good lord made it that way...
I need a young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
You know he can get it up and he can get on down
He'll help you do the dishes, take you out on the town...
He'll let you navigate cause he ain't worried 'bout seniority
You can tell him where to put it, keeping you happy is his priority
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
Well i'll forget about my arthritis, my backache, my lumbago
That young man makes me tango at the horizontal disco
I'm cleaning out my closet, I'm no longer sentimental
Forget about experience, I'd rather have potential
A young man to drive away my middle age blues
Well, I don't need no reefer, I don't need no cocaine
All I need is a young man to drive me insane...
I'm throwing away my dustmop, got a brand new vacuum cleaner...
I'm no longer taken for granted, my young man's sexy but sweeter...
A young, young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
An old woman don't yell
An old woman don't tell
An old woman don't swell
An she's grateful as hell
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
Solos
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An old woman don't yell
An old woman don't tell
An old woman don't swell
An she's grateful as hell
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man,
I need a young, young man, to drive away my middle-age blues
Age ain't nothin but a number
Age ain't nothin but a number
Age ain't nothin but a number
Age ain't nothin but a number
And like a rare wine, you don't get older, you just get better...
Give me a young young man...
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Generally speaking, younger men are not as bitter as older men (the same is true for older women often being bitter, I think, - hence the attraction beyond the sex for older men with younger women as well - but I speak from an older woman's perspective). .....................FYI - (Personally, I have never accepted a date with a man more than 4 years younger than me, but I have friends that see/have seen significantly younger guys. Anyway...)
Generally younger men are open to new experiences, physically active, and hopeful about their futures. Older men are often looking back to their pasts, playing off their former "glory days" and talk of what they USED to do/used to be - but are not actively pursing a passion
today.
The attraction to the younger man is an
attraction to his energy and his passion for life - and often I believe his lack of the perception of feeling he is "competing" with the woman in terms of outward success (perhaps because he is future focused?). The mature man who is solid in his own accomplishments in and of themselves - rather than in comparison to - the woman's accomplishments is not all that common - and that level of confidence when offered by a mature man will overide the young man's` easy-going nature regarding this. ---- Upon more reflection, I think I am saying that generally the younger man is less adversarial and less apt to want toset up a dynamic of competiton With the Woman - but is more interested in enjoying her/being enjoyed. The mature man that genuinely understands and appreciates how women are different from men are a real treasure.
The mature man that offers a solid sense of who he is, where he has been, and still
holds a vision and sense of purpose of growth and anticipation for his future is not all that common.
Additionally, the mature man that takes care of his body is rare as well.
The younger generation of men also
expects the mature woman to have sexual experience and is less apt to shame her for her sexuality (which often intimidates and can scare away an otherwise fabulous older man) - there is less chance of the Madonna/***** baggage that often occurs with 'older' guys. (Keep in mind that the M/W issue is as damaging as extreme Feminism is, IMO).
Vibrant, unapologetic, sexual male energy appeals to the mature woman. Mature men who are bold and confident with their sexual energy will trump the younger man's, because the truly
mature man will take the sexual leadership role and allow the woman to come out and
play, whereas with the younger man she is the one leading (her leading is then out of necessity and is a trade-off for the absence of judgementalism and his passion, so she rationalizes that 2 out of 3 isn't bad considering that many older men do not lead in the bedroom also.)
Conversely, if an older woman has not had a lot of sexual experience/partners, the younger man is less apt to be judgemental and shaming/critical of her lack of experience/skill as well, and is usually willing to learn/experiment along
with the woman.
Most young men love to philosophize. They queston life's meaning and don't pretend to have it all figured out. They will stay up late in to the night talking about God, spirituality, art, music, etc. Often it is what the woman has heard before, but it still trumps the older man who turns on sports and falls asleep in front of the t.v. rather than engaging with the woman. The mature man who continues to grow and investigate the depths of spirituality, meaning, purpose of life will provide a place for the mature woman to feel respect and comfort in her companionship with him in this way - but again, by their 40's - how many men are there that will choose this over their tv's and beers?
Does the "cougar" honestly believe the relationship with the young guy will last? - I doubt it for most of them. But she is aware that most romantic relationships don't last. (Although as an aside, I have taken issue with a friend's friend who has taken up with a younger guy. She does not want to have any more children and he wants a family. I think it is selfish and irresponsible of her to have married him knowing that he wants this and, assuming they are to stay married, that this profound hearts longing of his will never be met. But I digress... most Cougar type relationships do not end in marriage - as most Cougars are not
wanting marriage.)
All of this to say, if you are the kind of person who forgives rather than becomes embittered, continues to grow as an individual and not stagnate, takes care of your health/body, and maintains a passion for life, you attract people of all ages.
