3 guys threatned me. Scary Incident on Campus

[Kenny Powers]

Ahhh the jealous bf, have been there man. When I was young and an AFC I visited my friend at college and we went to a frat party. Few drinks later I'm hittin on this girl who says she has a bf. I get her # despite her initial resistance, kept saying she had a bf, (guess I wasn't a total AFC). I text her later during the party saying we should hangout sometime. Somehow he finds out and comes after me screaming to get out of his house and delete her #, I just peaced and told him i didn't know she had a bf hahaha. He was a pvssy frat brother and if you fight one of them you fight all of them, not worth it

Another time was super plastered and talking to this girl at a party when out of nowhere this kid comes up and tells me to get the **** away from her or he is going to kick my ass. I was so drunk and confused by the situation that i just said whatever man and walked away.

In retrospect I completely regret not standing up for myself in the 2nd situation, especially since I definitely could have taken him. Ironically I actually saw him later that night and called him out on it and he apologized sayin he was drunk and just tryin to look after his girl. Overall though I am really disappointed with the way I handled the situation initially (granted I was super drunk and very confused).

My advice/opinion when it comes to any potentially physically confrontation:

-Be smart and try to avoid a fight if possible. A broken nose, jaw or tooth is painful, expensive to fix and just not worth
-But don't back down. Take a breath and calm yourself. If you seem nervous or weak the other guy will become more alpha and more willing to fight. Also you want to be relaxed enough to take control of the situation.
-Most of the time just standing up for yourself and then walking away with a smirk is enough
-Always remember if he hits you and you don't hit back its assault which means the other guy will go to jail Reminding a guy trying to fight u about this is a good way to end it, especially if there are witnesses around or u know someone who knows him and can identify him.

You're probably gonna get in a fight at some point in your life, its a right of passage, just be smart and make sure its not with someone a lot bigger than you.

 

[FairShake]

OP, don't listen to the tough guys typing fiercely how they would stand up to three guys and come away scathed but pride intact. They sound like they haven't been in a fight since adulthood let alone seen one.

Nowadays things have a way of jumping off where it is not just as asswhipping you get but a thorough ratpacking until you are stomped, stabbed, or shot into the grave. If three people are threatening you, say sorry, walk away, then run. They can hurt you for keeps even if they aren't really trying.

And yes, it's usually about a girl...

 

[disgustipated]

OP, don't listen to the tough guys typing fiercely how they would stand up to three guys and come away scathed but pride intact. They sound like they haven't been in a fight since adulthood let alone seen one.

Nowadays things have a way of jumping off where it is not just as asswhipping you get but a thorough ratpacking until you are stomped, stabbed, or shot into the grave. If three people are threatening you, say sorry, walk away, then run. They can hurt you for keeps even if they aren't really trying.

And yes, it's usually about a girl...

Going by your own reasoning, you could have just gave the guy bad advice too. If these guys really wanted to hurt him and you advise him to say sorry and WALK away...you just got him all the things you listed in your post.

Point blank, you're not whooping 3 dudes at once. If you see 3 dudes approaching in an aggresive manner you should be proactive. Change sides of the street/hall/whatever...their response to this action is a huge tipoff(also if the group is constantly looking to you and talking to themselves trying to be non chalant). If they cross the hall/street/whatever you better keep physical space between you and them. Don't let a group of dudes post you up, you gonna get worked or the possibility is there. This don't make you a *****. What makes you a ***** is sitting there, not being aware of your surroundings, and getting a "talking" to and a verbal dressing down from 3 dudes you ALLOWED to put you in a corner and ****ting your pants.

If for some reason you notice the aggression too late to cross the hall/street/whatever you need to physically break through the pack and get your distance any way possible...do not wait to be acted upon, be proactive and get your distance and hope they just want to talk.

Been jumped plenty of times growing up, this is **** you learn the hard way.

You can always go back and get the dudes one on one and put in work. If that's your thing.

 

[Falcon25]

OP, don't listen to the tough guys typing fiercely how they would stand up to three guys and come away scathed but pride intact. They sound like they haven't been in a fight since adulthood let alone seen one.

Nowadays things have a way of jumping off where it is not just as asswhipping you get but a thorough ratpacking until you are stomped, stabbed, or shot into the grave. If three people are threatening you, say sorry, walk away, then run. They can hurt you for keeps even if they aren't really trying.

And yes, it's usually about a girl...

Good post. Don't try to fight three people. Especially when you don't know what they are carrying. Bunch of internet tough guys here. Don't listen to them.

 

[backbreaker]

lot of toughguys in this forum.

backbreaker your story reminds me of my highschool years. got jacked by about half a football team for pulling dj stuff. best night of my life. my dad asked me what was up with my ****ed up face and I told him I liked a girl and went for it. gave me a high five.

I think most of us have had confrontation about how suave we are. live and learn bro. If your gut says you should have fought, then you should have fought. but if your gut says you did the right thing by talking them down, you did it right. the best thing is that you are able to analyze your own experience and grow.

yeah my dad is freaking old school. if my dad ever found out I got punked down like that, he would beat me worse than they would, and that's no joke. he didn't play about that type of ****. with that said, he'd have whipped my ass just as bad if i went around trying to start fights. I wasn't a big kid, even when I grew I was 5'8 135. But dad didn't raise punks. more than math, and English and all that, my dad drove home how to be a man and what comes with being a man. taking care of the house, knowing when to defend yourself, knowing when to STFU, just common sense stuff.


I mean I'm not trying to turn this into a tough guy thread, i'm not what you would classify as a tough guy at all, far from it. but you don't have to be a "tough guy" to not be treated like a *****, and men don't go around not defending themselves because of what a guy might or might not have on him. And you know what, hell sometimes **** jumps off. I have spoken about my dad's prawless with women. He was at a club one night, i was maybe 13 years old, old enough where I could stay at home by myself, which I did that night, at his house watching TV/movies/playing sega. Anyway, he goes to the club, and he comes home tipsy bragging to me he was macking this guy's girl and punked the dude down and told him to deal with it basically, basically made a fool of him. Anyway, somehow, i forgot how, the guy found out where my dad lived, bought 4am in the morning "pow pow pow" " come out mother****er!!"., my dad tells me to get in teh closet, goes and grabs his gun (told you my dad is ****ing old school), and he goes outside and they are yelling, everyone comes outside.. thank god the police station was like 3 blocks away and the police showed up before anything serious could happen, but **** was about to jump off. But you know what, my dad doesn't live in freaking fear of **** jumping off. That's what chumps do. he was laughing about it when the police left. I guess that's just the era he's from. that **** shook me up, i mean he made sure I was okay and all but he wasn't all that phased about it. And that's the tame story lol, I have a 100% sotry that happened at a family BBQ that was so ****ed up you wouldn't believe me if I told you so i'm not going to waste your time. I guess I just come from a different family or what not, dad would have beat my black ass had i told him i was scared that some dudes might have a knie or some ****.


I mean, use common sense. I'm not anywhere near as brazen as my dad is, my dad takes it there lol. But, don't put yourself in stupid situations, defend yourself when you have to defend youself. If you aren't going to defend yousrelf how you go defend a woman when the time comes? What are you going to do when dudes are hitting on your girl and she clearly says stop and they wont' stop? You not going to defend her becuase you afraid of what the guys are or are not packing? watch how quickly she dumps you. There is a difference between being a tough guy and being a man that defends himself and the people he is supposed to defend.

We are here, to teach and learn how to get women. The best thing you can do to get a woman, is to be a man, and all that entails. From having a career, to being the leader of the household, to defending yourself and her when the time calls for it. That's what men do. To this day, if my mom got her house broken into, or she got into some altercation with a man, without even thinking about it, she's going to call me or she's going to call my dad, and you better pray she calls me, becuase my dad isn't dying. That's the type of man you have to be, you should strive to be, the guy that a woman calls, that you aren't even ****ing, because you respect him that ****ing much that he is a man and he is going to fix **** when it's broke. That's my dad. if you are worried, about what a guy is or is not packing, you are not a man.

There is no amount of game, neg hits, or anything that replaces you being a man.

 

[FairShake]

if you are worried, about what a guy is or is not packing, you are not a man.

No offense but I think you were taught by the wrong dudes. You can't "fix **** when it's broke" if you're not around to swing the hammer.

A man survives and thrives along with his family. That may include some fighting but it will include alot more talking and walking away.

Edit: Maybe it's a symptom of where I'm from, but I've known too many guys dead over pure bullsh!t (women at least as often as drugs). And for every guy that's dead there are at least a half-dozen people who rely on him to some degree (kids, wives, parents) whose life is now worse off because he decided to fight the wrong person or people. And, to me, there is NOTHING more important in being a man than taking care of business for your family.

 

[Falcon25]

If you think like backbreaker, you will struggle to see 35. This is not a matter of getting punked. Unless you are carrying, you should try to avoid confrontation with three men who you know nothing about. They could have guns, knives, could be crazy, families, gangs, etc. If three people came up to you and suddenly started beating on you, by all means, fight back. But, in this situation, avoid it. The situations that Backbreaker is talking about are unavoidable and need action. This situation has nothing to do with that. You disrespected him, but, he was immature to confront you instead of his girl. He is insecure and jealous. He is taking this out on you. This has nothing to do with you getting mugged, disrespected, raped, beaten, wife or girlfriend being assaulted, etc. NOTHING. That's what backbreaker doesn't understand.


You have no reason to fight these people. Pride? There's a lot of young men who are in military cemeteries right now that you can visit which are engraved with "pride" on their tombstones. Walk away. Apologize, and say you had no idea she wasn't single. In the future, before you ask a girl out, always ask the following question first "ARE YOU SINGLE?". This elimanates many problems, especially the one where she puts you in a friend zone.

 

[powpow]

If you think like backbreaker, you will struggle to see 35. QUOTE]


that just means you gotta get your **** on in the moment brother!

 

[escaleraroyal]

I heard they were Japanese, next time just do this ****.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7g6jc_9OzhI

 

[Tazman]

If I'm in a situation where I'm being threatened by three guys, I'm going to try and diffuse it.

If these three guys are attacking me I have no choice but to fight my way out of it.

If they're attacking friends or family I'm going to jump in and try to help.

When I was young I would always atleast try to fight, even if I was outmatched because I had something to prove. Times have changed though, these aren't gradeschool fights that would end in respect and/or friendship. These guys might think they have nothing to lose and will go all out on you. Thats why road rage can and does end in death. There are some crazy people out there that will take things to extremes when they feel provoked.

 

[HolyG]

You should listen to your dad.

You're quite the annoying little sh!t aren't you? Every thread I see you created is retarded. Every post you make is either stupid, basically useless, or plain dumb. You're 17, you should STFU and stick to the High School Forum. If they want you there.

 

[backbreaker]

If I'm in a situation where I'm being threatened by three guys, I'm going to try and diffuse it.

If these three guys are attacking me I have no choice but to fight my way out of it.

If they're attacking friends or family I'm going to jump in and try to help.

When I was young I would always atleast try to fight, even if I was outmatched because I had something to prove. Times have changed though, these aren't gradeschool fights that would end in respect and/or friendship. These guys might think they have nothing to lose and will go all out on you. Thats why road rage can and does end in death. There are some crazy people out there that will take things to extremes when they feel provoked.

This. I don't see what the **** is so hard to understand about this concept. no one wants to fight, but there are times you have to.


I am not here to get in an e pissing match with anyone about anything, if you wish to go around worried about what someone might do than more power to you. I know how I was raised and I know what works for me. 3 guys corner you at school and start making threats, they are not there to sign a peace treaty.


I remember one day in high school, I was in 11th grade, I went to Mills but I never went to mills football games beucsae we were horrible, I went to wherver the women were, and that week the women were at central at. My dad used to let me drive his basically new 4runner on the weekends, so I went and got his jeep, went and changed clothes, was clean as hell. I was meeting my two best friends up there, they weren't with me. Anyway I go to central, I park like 3 blocks from the staidum, and I get out the car, and this fat *****, just starts yelling "that's him!! that's him!!", i'm like who me? long story short beucase i dont' have time, apparantly there is a dude that looks just like me, that was talking mad **** to her at school earlier and drove a similar looking car.

By the time we were done it was like 4 o them around me. 2 girls 2 guys. it took about 15 minutes, but i finally convinced them I wasn't the dude, I had no ****ing idea what they were talking about. but had one of them physically hit me, it would have been on. There is a fine line between being stupid and defending yourself. It's the attitude "look.. i don't ant to fight you, but don't mistake me not wanting to fight, to being afraid to fight, because we CAN fight, but i dont' want to"

one of them had a stick or picked up a stick... i gave her a look like "i wish you motherfcking would i don't give a **** if there are 4 of you". They never touched me.. one looked like she was going to .. funny, the 2 dudes were the cautious ones the girls were the ones that were gung ho about it all.. i think the dudes kinda knew it wasn't me. But I'm not going to sit there and get abused by 4 people and not do something about it. I was quite sure I was about to get my ass whipped that night, still don't know how I talked myself out of that one. it really was not me either. Also, **** really would have jumped off. it 's not like I didn't hae friends, I didn't have any with me at that very moment. all my friends were in the freaking stadium. I would have went in there, got them and called up the rest of the basketball team and we would have rode on that ass ,no questions asked. At that point, I probably would have got arrested for assault or some ****, but at that point **** it. You just don't get jumped and not do something about it.


lol, that's how I know you weren't in little rock, that **** would not have flown in the least bit, becuase you don't gang up on people down here, because you are asking to get the same done to you. if that **** would have happened at my high school, there would have been a group of 4-6 on the 3 dudes that tried to corner someone asking what the **** is the problem and do we need to handle this **** outside. I remember one of my ex's brothers, got the living **** beat out of him at the fair he tried to do something similar, someone was talking to his ex and he and a friend went to try to confront the dude, about 2 hours later, there was a group of like 15 dudes just curb submping the dude. none of that **** would have happened had he just confronted the dude face to face like a man. That's antoher element about little rock, they still have gangs down there, pretty heavy. You don't do that type of **** to someone because you dont know who that dude runs with, who his sister dates, who his uncle is, whatever.

if you got a problem with someone, you need to address that **** man to man. When you address something like a man, there is not a gang banger I know, not a dude from the hood or whatever that would interject if it's a fair fight. that's just some **** you need to deal with and be a man. If a dude is confronting you you need to step up. But if it's an unfair fight, we are going to make it more than fair, if that makes sense. when you take a group of 2-3 to attack 1 person, the group of 2-3 at least where I am from, are going to get it raw when it's all said and done.

 

[joe45]

they are total pussies anyways. i remember one of guys peeking right into one of my classes right after break 2 days prior to the incident. he looked at me. i didnt think of anything back then. i never seen his face before.
he followed me and scoop out where my classes were held, and then waited and confronted me while i was alone. he bought 2 of his friends along

i highly doubt one of them would have confronted me one one one.
total cowards PERIOD

 

[joe45]

i hit on girls and later their bfs came along and at most they maybe looked at me and some even said hello and that was about it. i went away.
i only had this corning and threat happen to me once in my life. i sarged a lot of girls before. i do mainly daygame in malls, street, grocery stores, and recently at college.

 

[joe45]

i hit on girls and later their bfs came along and at most they maybe looked at me and some even said hello and that was about it. i went away.
i only had this corning and threat happen to me once in my life. i sarged a lot of girls before. i do mainly daygame in malls, street, grocery stores, and recently at college.

 

[Pierce]

Your the coward for backing down smh.

 

[Man_CA]

Sometimes you fight and sometimes you don't. It depends on the situation. In this case, 3 against 1, it is smart not to fight.

People tend to talk tough online, in real life they would act otherwise.

 

[n00bPimp]

Be a man and confront your problems like a man. not in a damn forum. You're 28 yrs old for God sakes. Those kids were proabably 10 yrs younger than you.

 

[Rubirosa]

I'm getting a little tired of reading that I'm a tough guy behind a keyboard. I'm 45. I've been in 5 street fights (oK, they were when I was in my 20's...One was against 2 guys in a nightclub parking lot). During a Karate belt testing in 2007, this monster from Norway punched me so hard in the chest , I hurt for 2 months. So, I 've seen a little reality regarding male aggression.
My take on the situation is that if anyone needs to resolve something against only one guy, and they take two other guys with them to do the job, then, they are by definition, a pu$$y. Dangerous, perhaps yes--if they are packing weapons. Dangerous in that 3 guys against one will almost always win the fight. But the idea that all three are badasses is probably unrealistic...they might look like badasses, but if the toughest guy in the group gets dropped first, chances are the other two might scatter like rabbits....In this situation ? Who the hell knows ? But my advice was heartfelt w/ sincere, realistic experience.

 

[backbreaker]

Sometimes you fight and sometimes you don't. It depends on the situation. In this case, 3 against 1, it is smart not to fight.

People tend to talk tough online, in real life they would act otherwise.

this seems to be the E rallying cry of nerds everywhere. some of us did not grow up cuddled to death or protected from the world, or grow up with an overexaggered since of reality.

AS much as I have talked about my dad, my dad has never spent a night in jail in his life. This is a man who goes to club rick jamesin mother****ers lol, talks **** to women's men, has a pistol and has been in plenty of fights. Hell he owns a janitorial business and makes pretty damn good money actually. He just isn't a punk. Make no mistake, i'm not saying he has never done some questionable things lol, I'm just saying, you guys, some of you at least, are too damn cuddeld and have an over exaggerated since of fear, and a misunderstanding of reality or how the real world works. Man has never been shot, has never been in jail, not to mention growing up in per capa probably the worse city or one of them in America at the time as far as gang violence, not a scrape.While I didn't grow up in the streets or antyhing, there was no way in hell you were going to make it through school and not fight, that's just not happening. It's the way of the world. Sometimes you disagree and sometimes punches are thrown, you deal with it. It's a part of life, the "real world" so to speak.

No everyone that gets in your face does not have a gun or a knife. This coming from someone who was jumped and beat with a crow bar 3 months ago and had his car stolen. **** happens sometimes, but don't mistake someone eyeing my car, for a guy trying to put on a show or puff out his chest to impress his girl or his friends.

IN comparison, I'd love to see this real world where no one ever throws a punch against anyone, everyone always walks away and is perfectly okay with being humiliated and disrespected all the time.

I have always been small, or on the smallish side, and i was tought at a very early age, becuase people will test you if they don't know otherwise, sometimes you just need to pop someone in the mouth to let them know just beucas eyou are small doesn't mean you will be pushed over. Between my looks, my brain, my athletic ability and oher ****, i got picked on, and I popped, and the picked on stopped. I got in a fist fight in the dead middle of basketball practice one day with a senior when I was a sophomore.. it was quite clear I was goin to take his spot and he didn't like it, and he kept fouling me pretty damn hard for like 2 weeks, then i went up for a layup one day and he just grabbed me and threw me to the ground, but according to you dumbasses, i'm supposed to just let that **** slide becuase he might have a gun in the locker lol, i got up and busted his nose, he got some licks in, no one really won but yo know what.. he didn't touch me again the rest of the season. A man, can only go to so many basketball practices knowing he is going ot get hacked to freaking death for no real reason other than he's better than the guy he's guarding, before he snaps. It had nothing to do with being cool or being hard, i just got ****ing tired of getting hacked, and he was getting worse. he .literary power drove me to the ground because the coach wasn't looking. The only reason I had not hit him sooner, is because I was in AP classes and I did not want to get suspended from school for beating his ass, however even when we did fight we handled it in house (sprints).

people **** with you, because they think/know they can **** with you. and hell sometimes they CAN **** with you lol. if you got a gun and i don't or you just have a gun in general you know you have an advantage that I don't. but this dude, just thought because he was 30 punds bigger than me and 2 inches taller, actually like 3 inches taller i was just going to shut up and take it. He oculd have seriously injured me and probably would have had i not done something. I remember the next year, the same thing happened but not with me, with our starting or going to be starting small forward, who was a sophomore, and a senior clipped him on a layup, had been hacking him all practice for like 2 months, out for the year.



Police officer that you told, probably went home and had a beer at a bar and laughed at you with his friends.


some of you dudes, keep talking about the "real world" and have no idea with the "real world" is.