Right DJ's need convincing that this would not be a good thing to do.
Went out drinking lastnight with a friend of mine whos a real player. Hes one of those guys who is a complete natural and all the women gravitate towards him. Hes slept with most women worth sleeping with in our town so I figure his perspective was worth getting. Anyway after telling him my recent dating experience he told me that he thinks Ive got 'stuff to work with' and I should send her a txt in a week or so basically saying 'I realise I fVcked up by being to weary and laid back and Im kicking myself for it'. After showing him a number of pictures of her (on her facebook page) he reckons shes 'punching above her weight' with me anyway and probably knows this, hence her throwing herself at me.
After 10 beers sending her a 'I fVcked up txt' sounded like a good idea, fortunately I deleted her number (its in the drawer on a piece of paper though) out my phone before I went out drinking as I knew Id end up sending her some drunken bVll**** at 2am.
However:
On the one hand I feel as If Ive got nothing to lose, we have no mutual friends (well we have one but its a distant friend I never see), we dont live in the same town, we dont move in the same social circles and all things considered she wouldnt be able to really damage my reputation or anything. My player friend thinks that by her saying things like 'I had a great time, it was a shame it didnt work out, we get on really well' in her blow off txt shows shes still got some level of interest and that If I got 3 relatively decent dates outta her she must have had quite a high level of attraction (despite me fvcking it up). Im not so sure as I suspect she was just being polite by saying all this in her blow off txt and was letting me down gently. But I figure explaining myself would probably make me feel better to some extent and if I can maybe get a lay outta it all the better (however unlikely it may be).
On the other hand its probably a pointless exercise as she will either not respond or send back a 'thats nice but I didnt feel a connection' txt. Plus its not really my style to do this sorta thing anyway and I cant be bothered being friends with her just for politeness sake and with her already mentioning Im her 'friend' I cant really be bothered liasing with some chick who just wants to be friends.
Well DJ's, should I txt her???
Edit: Literally as I was typing this post, this chick has text me. Basically saying the usual stuff she has been saying by txt over the past few weeks (e.g. about her day etc). I cant work out whether she just genuinely wants to be friends or if shes showing interest again. In my experience when Ive been blown off (or when Ive blown off a chick) I dont follow up with usual text routine regardless of us 'being friends' or not. Ive not responded. Not sure what to do.
Went out drinking lastnight with a friend of mine whos a real player. Hes one of those guys who is a complete natural and all the women gravitate towards him. Hes slept with most women worth sleeping with in our town so I figure his perspective was worth getting. Anyway after telling him my recent dating experience he told me that he thinks Ive got 'stuff to work with' and I should send her a txt in a week or so basically saying 'I realise I fVcked up by being to weary and laid back and Im kicking myself for it'. After showing him a number of pictures of her (on her facebook page) he reckons shes 'punching above her weight' with me anyway and probably knows this, hence her throwing herself at me.
After 10 beers sending her a 'I fVcked up txt' sounded like a good idea, fortunately I deleted her number (its in the drawer on a piece of paper though) out my phone before I went out drinking as I knew Id end up sending her some drunken bVll**** at 2am.
However:
On the one hand I feel as If Ive got nothing to lose, we have no mutual friends (well we have one but its a distant friend I never see), we dont live in the same town, we dont move in the same social circles and all things considered she wouldnt be able to really damage my reputation or anything. My player friend thinks that by her saying things like 'I had a great time, it was a shame it didnt work out, we get on really well' in her blow off txt shows shes still got some level of interest and that If I got 3 relatively decent dates outta her she must have had quite a high level of attraction (despite me fvcking it up). Im not so sure as I suspect she was just being polite by saying all this in her blow off txt and was letting me down gently. But I figure explaining myself would probably make me feel better to some extent and if I can maybe get a lay outta it all the better (however unlikely it may be).
On the other hand its probably a pointless exercise as she will either not respond or send back a 'thats nice but I didnt feel a connection' txt. Plus its not really my style to do this sorta thing anyway and I cant be bothered being friends with her just for politeness sake and with her already mentioning Im her 'friend' I cant really be bothered liasing with some chick who just wants to be friends.
Well DJ's, should I txt her???
Edit: Literally as I was typing this post, this chick has text me. Basically saying the usual stuff she has been saying by txt over the past few weeks (e.g. about her day etc). I cant work out whether she just genuinely wants to be friends or if shes showing interest again. In my experience when Ive been blown off (or when Ive blown off a chick) I dont follow up with usual text routine regardless of us 'being friends' or not. Ive not responded. Not sure what to do.