I think there was another guy
Then why do you hope that she comes back if you broke up with her and you feel as if there is another guy?
That is what I dont understand. Break ups should be final. Divorces should be final. Why? There is a REASON it didnt work. 99% of the time the reason is NOT correctable. So why do people "hope" the other person comes back after a break up or divorce?
So they can eventually "work it out" and get back to the same break up or divorce point again? Because the problem didnt go away. Its still there just waiting to rear its ugly head.
No....no.....I will tell you why people "hope" they come back. Its the same reason YOU hope she comes back:
The break up is used as a form of punishment instead of closure. You feel as though you will
punish her and then she will come back and submit. Sorry, but it doesnt work that way.
Women will never love you unless they respect you. Once they do not respect you, they will not love you. It is really that simple.
When a woman starts doing things that are disrespectful you can correct that quickly in its early stages when the disrespectful actions are small and innocent. How do you do that? Silence and Distance. When the woman does something that seems disrespectful early on, shyte test or not, you simply walk away and do not reach out. Silence and Distance. She isnt stupid, she knows why you walked away. So she can change her behavior and straighten the hell up or keep walking for all I care. If she apologetically comes crawling back, and I am still luke warm interested, she has to make it up to me. I will also make it abundantly clear that I dont treat people like that and people that I allow in my life wont treat me like that either.
If she does it again, poof.....I am gone. She is not my child to continually punish. I have better things to do and there are too many available women out there in this big old world.
That is another example of your scarcity mindset vs my abundance mindset. You need to work on yourself bro. This little relationship with her is over and its best that you acknowledge that now instead of later.
You can either keep going forward without her, self respect and dignity in hand, or ever allow her to come back and take those too before she bounces for good.