@niceguytoalphamale
I have read through the responses that you were given on here. I want to give you my take.
Some say she might be emotionally screwed up. Maybe she is. Some say she might be cheating. Maybe she is.
If it were
me in your shoes, none of that would be relevant without knowing for certain. So I want to break this down a little because there is only one thing that
you are in total control over. YOU.
You didnt come here to praise your gf for treating you so well. You came here because her actions are not lining up with how you want to be treated.
If you have read any of my in depth posts you will notice that I am very high on self worth, self esteem and holding frame.
Her actions of being hot and cold, leading you on and then shutting you off, etc. are all signs of
disrespect.
Your choice is simple:
1.) If you do ANYTHING to try and work it out: She has shown you who she is and it doesnt matter why she is acting this way. She is acting this way nonetheless. Its now a pattern with her. You even trying to talk to her about this is losing frame and she again has the upper hand. So if you do anything to try and make it work, you are telling her (and yourself) that her actions of blatant disrespect are
OK. Its acceptable to treat you this way. Up until now, you have allowed it so that is what you have told her. Thus she hasnt changed.
2.) Stand up for yourself: you are the only person that you can control. Walk away from her. Do not give her the ability to explain herself. Her actions have already spoken louder than her words ever will. Do not talk to her about it. Do not entertain her anymore. Why would you want to ever invest time and energy into such a person? There are a billion women on this planet. There is no time spent in my precious life entertaining such bullshyte from ONE of them.
Now with my game, ability to hustle up a few new plates, high self value and self esteem, I am #2 all the way. I would have been long gone already.
This is what I would do........and I have done before though not to THIS degree of disrespect.
Do not message her for 2 days. If she texts you, do not respond. If she calls, you do not answer. NO Contact.
After 2 days, send her this message:
"Sorry, I have been busy. We will never work out and I have started my search for other people that I am more compatible with. Best of luck and take care".
After that, DO NOT respond to her. Erase her off social media. Block her from your phone. Get your mojo back, get in the gym, get on your purpose and start dating other women. She will BEG to get together and talk. You will simply respond with "Sorry, no longer interested. Please move on"
In order to be a successful person in life you first half to be not only motivated to achieve what you want but you also have to have high self value. There is a reason that its called SELF value. The value is yours to determine. You will never date someone who looks good and treats you right if you are wasting your time being juggled back and forth with a bimbo like this.
Most posters will agree with me. Many on here have been through a similar situation to yours and now know to never entertain a woman that CHOOSES to string you along or act disrespectful.
Let me leave you with this:
Any man that is good with women and has abundance will drop a chick in a split second for being disrespectful. Only someone who fails to improve themselves and thinks this ONE woman is the best they will ever get (scarcity mindset) would stay with someone that acted as she is.
Any man or woman that acts disrespectful, intentionally strings someone else along, etc., knows it. Nobody has to tell them as to how they are acting. This is why I would always choose to NEVER sit a woman down and TALK about it.
Being disrespectful? Poof I am gone. Want to flirt with someone else while out with me? Poof I am gone. Want to call me out on something in front of other people? You wont even be able to finish your drink before Poof.....I'm gone.
Your actions will tell people how you expect to be treated, not your words.
Now tell this bytch "deuces" and move on.