27 and still no real career prospects. What to do?

[BergischerLöwe]

When you said you "have money", did you mean less than £500 ?

In the meantime, you won't use condoms... and you could get laid on apps but won't ... seems like a lot you won't do. Maybe instead of asking for advice, you should list out everything you "won't do" and figure out what you can do.

I never said I didn't use condoms. I do use them, I just don't want to have to rely on condoms alone. I guess I should clarify as well that I've had diminished returns on apps, they worked better for me in like 2017-18 than they do now. The quality and quantity of matches has declined since then. I'd be able to afford a vasectomy but it would cost more for me than if i had health insurance I believe

 

[Stephen89]

Hey, you could go into web, software developer work

Pick two programming languages such as java and JavaScript, learn it

Then study some databases, version control, tdd, Oop

You can then create your own projects, submit this on GitHub and then apply for development roles

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Hey, you could go into web, software developer work

Pick two programming languages such as java and JavaScript, learn it

Then study some databases, version control, tdd, Oop

You can then create your own projects, submit this on GitHub and then apply for development roles

I'm not sure if that'd be the right path for me. Because I have ADHD it's crucial that I pick a field that I'm at least somewhat interested in, otherwise I'll have no motivation to work at all. From what I've heard IT stuff seems pretty mundane and I'm not even sure what I'd use a programming language for. Plus isn't there a lot of math involved in software development? I was always horrible at math and I barely passed my math courses in high school and college. I don't want to sound like I'm a choosing beggar or making excuses but I'm really not sure it's the way to forward. I took an IT class in college and I was so bored the whole time

 

[Stephen89]

I'm not sure if that'd be the right path for me. Because I have ADHD it's crucial that I pick a field that I'm at least somewhat interested in, otherwise I'll have no motivation to work at all. From what I've heard IT stuff seems pretty mundane and I'm not even sure what I'd use a programming language for. Plus isn't there a lot of math involved in software development? I was always horrible at math and I barely passed my math courses in high school and college. I don't want to sound like I'm a choosing beggar or making excuses but I'm really not sure it's the way to forward. I took an IT class in college and I was so bored the whole time

You could try web design and development

 

[IKO69]

You've received some solid advice here. Not much more to really add. At 27 years old you're still a relatively young man. There are many who go to university, take up trades etc later in life, out of necessity or because they weren't happy with whatever career they had up until that point. You're not lost is what im saying, but you have to make the decision tbat things will be different and decide upon something. Take some days/weeks to really think things out and then fully commit 100%. I wish you the best and hope things turn around.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP practice mindfulness and meditation. Over time, you can immediately sense when your mind starts to wander and you can shut down the tangents asap and refocus on what you're doing. I imagine if you can reduce your ADHD this can open some doors.

That being said, Germans are some anal-retentive peeps so using your major isn't probably the best option lol.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You could try web design and development

I second this, you could be the design guy working with coders

 

[eli77]

I don't broadcast the fact that I have money, in fact I never tell that to women I meet since I don't want gold diggers. I could get laid if I wanted to from apps, but I don't because the women I meet on there are mid and I'm sick of being stuck having to hook up with women that I'm not very excited about.

The few hot women I've hooked up with left me for other guys very soon after. My ex girlfriend was decent in looks but she came from kind of a poor background and used to be a stripper. The fact that she used to be one actually really sketched me out. A big problem with women in my life is I've never had the experience of meeting a woman I'm really excited about and attracted to and actually getting to have have a longer relationship with her. This really frustrates me and is one of the reason why I don't really date anymore. The past few years I've gone on exactly one date a year and it's never led to sex. That and I'm so afraid of getting a women pregnant that I've decided not to have sex until after I get a vasectomy.

It's a misconception that rock n rollers get laid a lot. It might have been true in the 60s/70s but most muscians I know don't have any more than average luck with women. It's not 1968 anymore, man. Then again I feel like even if I were famous I would have a hard time meeting women.

The fact I have ADHD really held me back academically as far as choice of college, and what major. My grades in high school were pretty bad, not because I was a poor student but because my condition made it very hard for me to turn in the work on time. I'm articulate and intelligent, my IQ is around 130 or so (tested when I was like 13), but my grades held me back. When I went to college my choices were limited because of my poor grades. I would have done better at a smaller, private school perhaps but I went to a larger state school since that was who would take me. I wanted to study music production initially, but there was a qualifying GPA to get in and my first two semesters really sunk my GPA so there wasn't any way I could get in. I ended up picking German as a major because I knew at least I could handle the course load and would be able to actually stick it thru to the end. I've always known German so it was easy for me.

ADHD ive been there I can relate even try to join the service at one point which I hope you look into keep in mind ivy league and mba is very overrated nowadays.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You've received some solid advice here. Not much more to really add. At 27 years old you're still a relatively young man. There are many who go to university, take up trades etc later in life, out of necessity or because they weren't happy with whatever career they had up until that point. You're not lost is what im saying, but you have to make the decision tbat things will be different and decide upon something. Take some days/weeks to really think things out and then fully commit 100%. I wish you the best and hope things turn around.

I've thought about learning a trade like fixing guitars or amplifiers but I'm not sure really how to go about doing that or if it's even a good thing for me to try

 

[BergischerLöwe]

ADHD ive been there I can relate even try to join the service at one point which I hope you look into keep in mind ivy league and mba is very overrated nowadays.

I personally wouldn't join the military as I'm against the politicians that control it and the globalist causes it serves, and I also have asthma which disqualifies me from serving anyway. For a just leader like the Kaiser of Germany I would have gladly served in his army, but there's no way I would put my life on the line for the modern day idiots in charge of the two nations of which I'm a citizen and unfortunately there's no Kaiser in Germany anymore. Furthermore if I ever served in the US military I would forfeit my German citizenship automatically, and vice versa

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I second this, you could be the design guy working with coders

I don't even know what I'd use it for if I learned how to code. Got no idea how that stuff works, I've always been more of a humanities guy

 

[johnrambo]

@BergischerLöwe you said you have a knack for languages...learn Mandarin Chinese and Arabic plus a business degree.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I've been creating a clip channel on YouTube, once I get enough subs I'll launch an affiliate marketing campaign with it. This effort is a clip a day, takes maybe 5 minutes to make a 60 second clip, one of several irons I have in the fire, doesn't cost me anything to do either.

This life is about waves of momentum, rarely do we start a wave and ride it to its end, usually we end up catching a wave in its momentum, but you have to be putting the effort in to ride those waves and sometimes your gonna wash out, it happens, great example was crypto, we had a lot of people investing in crypto here, they made money for a time because they set themselves up to ride the wave.

Do not change your circumstances, change the way you think instead... Learning a new skill, or anything else isn't about function, it's about changing the way you think and once you do that, every choice you make past that point will change.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

@BergischerLöwe you said you have a knack for languages...learn Mandarin Chinese and Arabic plus a business degree.

Not really sure about going back to school tho

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

You even have a thread here why are you posting about women in another thread, like what do you think your some hidden ladies man that just needs to come out of his shell, no bro you need a job, period, you need a purpose.

Dont post about what you should be doing to pick up women, you already know, go work a job you freaking hate and maybe through your hatred you can approach a woman.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You even have a thread here why are you posting about women in another thread, like what do you think your some hidden ladies man that just needs to come out of his shell, no bro you need a job, period, you need a purpose.

Dont post about what you should be doing to pick up women, you already know, go work a job you freaking hate and maybe through your hatred you can approach a woman.

I wouldn’t be able to last at a job I hated. If I got a job I’d want one I could at least tolerate

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I think one thing I should do is get career counseling. Gonna look up what's available near me

 

[Manure Spherian]

Not really sure about going back to school tho

You have shown in this and your other thread you are unsure of a whole lot, and even have shown capable of very little. In the days of the interwebz you are so lacking in initiative that you don’t even use a search engine on your own and instead ask people for educational and informational resources.

You and your motivation. Please, I ask all
men of they’re so damn motivated to do all the necessary tasks of their jobs, even if they are living the lives of gorillionaire entrepreneurs. Much of many jobs, even well-paid ones, consists of doing boring or stupid things, sometimes with stupid people that no one is motivated to do, whether they have ADHD or not!

Just where did you get the notion that jobs require motivation to hold down? It is not motivation, but obligation and discipline. The same goes for fitness. I love the gym and exercise, yet I have attended the gym hundreds, maybe thousands of times while unmotivated. The same goes for wanting to play hooky from work yet I have great attendance.

Have you ever thought of just getting any freaking full-time job, showing up, doing as you’re told, and going home?

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You have shown in this and your other thread you are unsure of a whole lot, and even have shown capable of very little. In the days of the interwebz you are so lacking in initiative that you don’t even use a search engine on your own and instead ask people for educational and informational resources.

You and your motivation. Please, I ask all
men of they’re so damn motivated to do all the necessary tasks of their jobs, even if they are living the lives of gorillionaire entrepreneurs. Much of many jobs, even well-paid ones, consists of doing boring or stupid things, sometimes with stupid people that no one is motivated to do, whether they have ADHD or not!

Just where did you get the notion that jobs require motivation to hold down? It is not motivation, but obligation and discipline. The same goes for fitness. I love the gym and exercise, yet I have attended the gym hundreds, maybe thousands of times while unmotivated. The same goes for wanting to play hooky from work yet I have great attendance.

Have you ever thought of just getting any freaking full-time job, showing up, doing as you’re told, and going home?

I'm gonna get career counseling. I found an ADHD specific one near me

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I wouldn’t be able to last at a job I hated. If I got a job I’d want one I could at least tolerate

What a pathetic response honestly, like where is your masculinity in all this? Everyone on this forum knows doing what you hate to do often makes you better, you are way too comfortable to experience any sort of meaningful growth right now, I mean you can go to counselling and they can rationalize all this but it won't change anything until you decide to put the work in.

Step out of your comfort zone, go live like a bum for a year, feel what it's like to be scorned, that's where you'll find your motivation to become a masculine man.