24 and inexperienced...tougher to get started at an older age?

[matius]

First off, you have to change you in order to get what you want. Become your own friend in your mind and make progress. Start today. It's not easy but if you begin thinking positive and stay there through the difficult times you can change your life.

Having said that, I think that much of the blame can be placed on the attitude society has about sex. Sex has been made out to be something secretive, provocative, shameful, slutty, distasteful, embarrassing, humiliating, harmful, scary, tacky, strange, wrong, shocking, appalling, disgusting and sacred.

It is associated with scandel, porno, *****s and hookers. Also with sluts, aids, pregnancy, and pain.

That's not to be taking lightly. As much of your life was spent soaking in all of these messages from your parents, religion or television. They had an impact on you.

Of course, aids and pregnancy are very real...and something to think about. However, each of us is human. One of our functions is to have sex or multiply. Out of all of the emotions humans carry- I think love/passion/lust should be spoken of fondly without the evil connotations mentioned above. All this does is place negativity in the minds of men and women alike. And the subject gets as twisted and distorted as they are today.

 

[regulus]

Iunderstand exactly how you feel. I'm 22 and in the same situation. I refuse to pay for it though. I'd kill myself before that. Why should I have to do that when these chicks are throwing it at everyone else. I've yet to figure out what the problem is. It's not looks. They act like they're too good to speak so it can't be my attitude since they never get to hear anything come out of my mouth. SOme people say I'm intimidating, some say I'm nerdy. WHat's the cure for looking nerdy, become more macho. What's the cure for being intimidating, become domesticated. It's one big paradox.

 

[matius]

They act like they're too good to speak so it can't be my attitude since they never get to hear anything come out of my mouth.

I feel that frustration as well regulus.

 

[nw1512]

C'mon guys

I know 2 of my mates that were still virgins on there 17th birthday and the both decided it was time to visit a brothel you just tell them your a virgin and they'll look after you.

I remember a brothel owner telling me one night instead of doing what most AFC's do, try to pick up the clubs and bar then pay for sex, Pay for the sex first then go out and try and pick up you'll be more relaxed and in the mood to not give a f*ck

I'd like to that i've never paid for sex but i've waited in the lounge and f*cked around with the staff while my mate were banging away

 

[matius]

Riiiiiiiiiggggggttttttt...............

Sorry, I live on the East Coast.

I'm not that hard up for sex either.

 

[akindofblue]

Dude, you've got to stop caring. I'm 24, I'm a virgin, and I still get dates left and right. I've found that girls are extremely attracted to my virginity--like the unattainable that they can grasp yet can't ever have. And yes, it's for both religious and poetic reasons. If you want to have sex before you're married, then get over the mystical first-time stuff. I've done everything but, but I leave that one act between me and my wife. It is poetic, it's a mystical act that I'm going to see fulfilled, so it's not affecting my approaches in the least.

Just get over your nervousness over this. If anything, girls are going to be a bit intimidated and unworthy of you when they find out. There is a reason girls tend to underreport their sexual activity, and you can play off that guilt if you're willing to freely admit you're a virgin and in no way feel as if this makes you unworthy. Don't ever let a girl look down on you b/c you're inexperienced. Stand your ground, and she is going to be the one caving into her own guilt or at the very least coming to respect your confidence in yourself. Trust me on this one.

You don't have to be sexually experienced to come across as a man. You just have to know what you want and believe in yourself.

 

[smitty665]

Turn over a new leaf as soon as possible. It all boils down to confidence. Love and respect yourself, and know that you can do it. YOU are the most attractive person out there, believe that. F*ck it, let everyone around you know it too. Don't be overbearing, a matter of fact, when your around the girl, lead her to beleive your out of her league. Be humble and smile alot, and make sure you come across as really down to earth, confident, and funny. You can't go wrong.