Yes I know it's a bit early to sit down and review my year, but the next month and a half will be very busy for me. It's amazing how fast this year has flown by. I started off this year in deep financial trouble, struggling to survive and on NYE I made a promise to myself. I would pull myself up out of this hole of debt. I decided to give up women, smoking pot, going out with friends...pretty much everything to make it happen. So how did I do?
Well I borrowed $300 from my parents and started my website. Since then I've earned enough money to pay off all of my outstanding debts and once my last few invoices are paid, I will have all of my current debts paid off except for my car note, college loans and my only credit card (which I keep to show active credit). I've stayed home on the weekends and saved my money, I only go to work and back home, I buy my clothes as cheaply as possible. In July I lost nearly everything in an apartment fire. It set back my fiances big time. I got a roommate to help with the bills and used up my savings getting back on my feet. I was stupid not to have renters insurance.
As for women. I've dated about 4 women this year. I did nothing at all to get any of them. The few times I was out with friends or at a social event I would met someone, hit it off and date for a few weeks. Since I've been so busy I haven't been able to keep one and to be honest I've invested zero time in any of them. If they called, we would do something cheap (a couple of drinks or movies at my house), if they didn't call, I just didn't worry about it. They all lamented on my cheapness and lack of concern for them. I care. I have a goal and I refuse to let women sidetrack me.
As for my friends and going out. Until September, I pretty much stayed home unless it was a social event such as a wedding or business mixer. All of my old partying buddies have not done well in the past year. One is strung out, one is a recluse curmudgeon, my roommate is a pot smoking call of duty addict, the rest of my friends are spread out all over the country. Since I spend all my time working I haven't had much time for friends anyway.
All in all it's been a tough year. But it's been very satisfying. Growing my business has really boosted my confidence. Next year I want to go from earning part time money to earning full time money. My day job is in jeopardy with the current budget crisis in our company, so I want to be prepared next October (that's when they usually do cuts and layoffs).
As for my dating experience, I realize one thing. My game is natural. I really don't think about "game" when I'm talking to a girl. It's something that just happens. I'm naturally ****y, I can be funny at times, I'm great at general conversation, isolation and escalation. I'm not worried by much when it comes to women. They are just women. I also know my limitations. I know that what most guys personally rate as 6's and 7's (each guys rating varies) is my limit to what I can pull currently (with the occasional 8 throw in). Of the three units of attraction (wealth-status, looks, game) I only have one. I can improve my looks by losing weight and hitting the gym, but I am still in rehab for my knee and back injuries, so now I'm just dieting. I have been in terrible pain from my back but rehab is starting to help. I am growing in wealth slowly but surely. I can see myself in six figures in the next 3-4 years and growing even more after that. I have confidence in that. I won't be broke forever.
2011 Goals.
Finances/Career - 2010 was all about dealing with debt. Next year is about thriving financially. I have 2 other streams of income I am looking to explore and once my debts are paid off I will be funneling my current profits into the other two streams. Worse case scenario, I lose my job, but I have a couple of streams of income paying me nearly as much as I made before. Best case : I keep my day job, bank some coin and look to leave my job on my own terms.
Game - It's time to get back in the game. I'm going on a diet for the next couple of months, my goal is to lose 30-40lbs. Then to get a new wardrobe for the spring/summer. I'm never going to be some pretty boy or rockstar, but I'll make the best out of what I have.
I want 2 girls on my team in 2011. Anything more than two I know I can't deal with right now. I want someone in the age range of 25-35 who is at least a 7-8 on my personal scale. I plan on enjoying myself this summer and getting out and trying new things, so it will be great to have some girls to do it with. So welcome me back to the game in 2011 boys. It's on.
Well I borrowed $300 from my parents and started my website. Since then I've earned enough money to pay off all of my outstanding debts and once my last few invoices are paid, I will have all of my current debts paid off except for my car note, college loans and my only credit card (which I keep to show active credit). I've stayed home on the weekends and saved my money, I only go to work and back home, I buy my clothes as cheaply as possible. In July I lost nearly everything in an apartment fire. It set back my fiances big time. I got a roommate to help with the bills and used up my savings getting back on my feet. I was stupid not to have renters insurance.
As for women. I've dated about 4 women this year. I did nothing at all to get any of them. The few times I was out with friends or at a social event I would met someone, hit it off and date for a few weeks. Since I've been so busy I haven't been able to keep one and to be honest I've invested zero time in any of them. If they called, we would do something cheap (a couple of drinks or movies at my house), if they didn't call, I just didn't worry about it. They all lamented on my cheapness and lack of concern for them. I care. I have a goal and I refuse to let women sidetrack me.
As for my friends and going out. Until September, I pretty much stayed home unless it was a social event such as a wedding or business mixer. All of my old partying buddies have not done well in the past year. One is strung out, one is a recluse curmudgeon, my roommate is a pot smoking call of duty addict, the rest of my friends are spread out all over the country. Since I spend all my time working I haven't had much time for friends anyway.
All in all it's been a tough year. But it's been very satisfying. Growing my business has really boosted my confidence. Next year I want to go from earning part time money to earning full time money. My day job is in jeopardy with the current budget crisis in our company, so I want to be prepared next October (that's when they usually do cuts and layoffs).
As for my dating experience, I realize one thing. My game is natural. I really don't think about "game" when I'm talking to a girl. It's something that just happens. I'm naturally ****y, I can be funny at times, I'm great at general conversation, isolation and escalation. I'm not worried by much when it comes to women. They are just women. I also know my limitations. I know that what most guys personally rate as 6's and 7's (each guys rating varies) is my limit to what I can pull currently (with the occasional 8 throw in). Of the three units of attraction (wealth-status, looks, game) I only have one. I can improve my looks by losing weight and hitting the gym, but I am still in rehab for my knee and back injuries, so now I'm just dieting. I have been in terrible pain from my back but rehab is starting to help. I am growing in wealth slowly but surely. I can see myself in six figures in the next 3-4 years and growing even more after that. I have confidence in that. I won't be broke forever.
2011 Goals.
Finances/Career - 2010 was all about dealing with debt. Next year is about thriving financially. I have 2 other streams of income I am looking to explore and once my debts are paid off I will be funneling my current profits into the other two streams. Worse case scenario, I lose my job, but I have a couple of streams of income paying me nearly as much as I made before. Best case : I keep my day job, bank some coin and look to leave my job on my own terms.
Game - It's time to get back in the game. I'm going on a diet for the next couple of months, my goal is to lose 30-40lbs. Then to get a new wardrobe for the spring/summer. I'm never going to be some pretty boy or rockstar, but I'll make the best out of what I have.
I want 2 girls on my team in 2011. Anything more than two I know I can't deal with right now. I want someone in the age range of 25-35 who is at least a 7-8 on my personal scale. I plan on enjoying myself this summer and getting out and trying new things, so it will be great to have some girls to do it with. So welcome me back to the game in 2011 boys. It's on.
