10 Red Flags I Look Out For

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1. She has no direction nor dreams in life, no matter how flexible or absurd. She doesn't have anything of my interest going on for herself. She doesn't dream big.
2. She doesn't challenge my presumptions and biases in and about life.
3. She doesn't listen to me, nor care about my important insight. She can't humble herself, and only cares about what she knows.
4. She has nothing to offer - be it intellectual, physical, emotional, social - anything that supports us both.
5. She doesn't devote time and effort for our futures.
6. She doesn't devote time and effort for her family nor for herself.
7. She doesn't encourage and initiate much more than I expect. She doesn't have any fun surprises, nor does she invite me to her own adventures. She doesn't find new ways to spice up our connection.
8. She continues to create impulsive decisions without any forethought nor caution. She chooses to be reckless without any reasoning. She has unresolved childhood issues that she hasn't continually addressed.
9. She doesn't find value in spirituality, nor in any other worthwhile field outside of what she knows.
10. She doesn't want to learn anymore. She only stays put, afraid to offend me nor correct me if I'm wrong. She'd rather remain within the confines of her own self-imposed limitations. She's too insecure to be a better version of herself.

I don't find any issues with education as long as she's willing to engage in fruitful conversations with me.

In my mind, there's also a list compatible with this one that dictates how a man should be, to arrive at these conclusions.
 

jhonny9546

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She continues to create impulsive decisions without any forethought nor caution
Hmm, this can be related to something else: If a woman is currently in a ltr with another man and is looking around, is this a bad sign? If a girl in a relationship is showing you signals and expressing availability, it could mean that she is testing your level of interest in her and observing how you respond, so she can feel more confident about ending her current relationship. It is well known that a healthy woman should first end her current relationship, take a break, and then put herself back on the market before pursuing another man. However, we know very well that women often do not follow this approach and instead engage in "monkey branching."
We need to figure out how to evaluate this as a red flag or not
 
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