“I need to take some time”

[ShyBandit]

Here’s a new one for me. Went out on 1 date. It went well I think. We went to dinner and back to my place after for a little bit. Kisses and hugs, nothing more, but good sexy energy. She had been in a car accident 3 weeks ago and her eye was a little wonky, nothing major. We make plans for a second date. 2 days before the 2nd date she texts me this:
“This girls had a tough go again. Infection is a problem, but beyond that doc says I’m going to need a surgery because turns out I detached a muscle So I’m down for the count for…a bit…prob 4-6 weeks all in. I think you’re great, but I’m putting myself on ice for a little bit to just focus on healing so I can get thru to fully better ‍ Okay if I text you next month and see where you are and if you wanna hang again? I’d like that if you would too.”

What is actually happening here ? I’m trying to craft the perfect response , need a little help. If she’s gone, she’s gone that’s fine. But my response may be the last word, I want it to be well thought out and placed.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Probably exactly what she said.

The fact that she made it known she would like to see you again makes it unlikely she is BSing. She has no need to say that in this situation. If she just didn't want to see you, she would have sent the first part minus the asking if it's OK for her to text you when she is better part.

If you are interested in seeing her again just respond something like

"I'm sorry to hear you are having such a rough go of things lately. Hope you have a speedy recovery!

Sure thing, get back to me when you are doing better and we can figure it out."

Then it's on her to get back to you. My money is that she will.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Girl is probably telling the truth. She must take care of herself before she can bring in someone else into her life.

 

[CornbreadFed]

She’s not your girl. Date other girls and if she pops back up reconnect.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She’s not your girl. Date other girls and if she pops back up reconnect.

This also...don't be waiting around for her to text you.

Work on building pipelines of women and if she comes back add her to the pipeline.

 

[Chow Mein]

Simply put her on the back burner and send random, interesting pics/texts on what you’re doing with your life. Keep that fire warm, give her some reasons to want to hang out with you again.

 

[The Duke]

Every bit of the advice above is spot on perfect.

Just tweak your mindset a little, don't take girls so serious. No need to worry about the "perfect response".

 

[Solomon]

I would give her the benefit of the doubt as others have mentioned she didn't have to go into detail also I'm assuming she is older and some older women do have class when it comes to dating. Most likely she is telling the truth

I would keep her on the backburner and get back out there. NO need to sit and twiddle your thumbs for a month or two for another date especially with Vday coming up where you may a few women who are desperate for a mans company heh

 

[sevbucmash]

Are you 56?

 

[BadBoy89]

“This girls had a tough go again. Infection is a problem, but beyond that doc says I’m going to need a surgery because turns out I detached a muscle So I’m down for the count for…a bit…prob 4-6 weeks all in. I think you’re great, but I’m putting myself on ice for a little bit to just focus on healing so I can get thru to fully better ‍ Okay if I text you next month and see where you are and if you wanna hang again? I’d like that if you would too.”

"It's OK. Hope the surgery goes well."

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"It's OK. Hope the surgery goes well."

The response if you aren't interested in seeing her again.

 

[pipeman84]

Considering OP is 56, my educated guess is that the woman in question is +45yrs old. 1. Why is she calling herself 'girl' in the text message?
2. Why date at all when you've gone through a car accident and have health issues that keep you out of the game for 4-6 weeks?

 

[BadBoy89]

The response if you aren't interested in seeing her again.

The response is if you are interested in seeing her again.