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True, my situation is pretty difficult. I’m juggling work and school right now, so I’m dealing with a big shortage of free time for anything. Since you mentioned living situation, mine makes it more difficult too because as I’ve said before, my dad is now retired and retirement has turned him...

Yeah that’s exactly why it isn’t currently an option and also why I don’t even bother with trying to quit porn right now. Why bother when the lack of those other aspects you named will result in women writing me off? I’m not currently working out at all, but like I said before I have lost...

When it comes to this particular compulsion, there really isn’t because it is sexual in nature and real sex isn’t even an option. If we were talking about a different compulsion like drug or alcohol use and a girl said she’ll only get with you if you’ll quit, then there’s more rationale to quit...

When you add it all up, it takes more than an hour because I would have to commute to the gym and back home, in addition to changing clothes twice and it costs money for a membership. There was also many times when I did still have a membership where the machines I wanted to use were taken so I...

For where I’m currently at in my life, the seasonal jobs are a better fit for me. I am in school for 2 classes towards a certification right now in addition to doing the seasonal jobs. If I was to take a job that was full-time right now, there’s no way I could also attend school. The seasonal...

Personally I think it is. Like I said, I work a series of seasonal jobs throughout the year and I also live at home with my parents and have no social circle. I’ve also never been out there in the first place, I have never dated. And inexperience is a very big turn off to women. Most of them...

I agree, they do seem to lower their standards a bit on looks for cuffing season. Mid tier job seems about right too, a white collar career making six figures is appealing all year round and a guy working at McDonald’s is too low tier for cuffing season. My job status of working a series of...

Damn I’m even beneath the betas since I don’t have a decent job and no social circle at all, that’s brutal. What you say is true though, it seems like a lot of cuffing season pairings are short lived. That would be beneficial to me though because of the fact that I’m inexperienced at 31 and want...

Missed cuffing season again, sucks man. There’s just no way any woman would date me in my current life situation. Even cuffing season wouldn’t help me overcome it.

It definitely isn’t recommended. There are better ways to go about doing that, which will not put you at risk of getting injured, killed, or arrested. It isn’t worth the risk just to get laid.

Women was the reason why for me getting into it too. But where we differ is that I truly believed that getting a woman would never happen for me, so I turned to that to try and numb all of the loneliness and depression. Where did that get me? Still have never gotten a woman at 31 and getting...

Women usually come easily to them because they have the danger and excitement that women like, in addition to women assuming they'll get high for free by being with him

Yeah I don't think lying is the best way to go about handling this situation of being older and inexperienced. Actions can speak louder than words, so she'll be able to figure out that you're inexperienced if you make obvious mistakes and can't pick up on non verbal cues or seem unsure of what...

When I came of age, I got into bad things and started to rebel. I started drinking and smoking weed, a little bit of vandalism, and was even selling weed on a very small scale to people I deemed trustworthy. But I think this made the fact that I wouldn’t interact with women even weirder to my...

Yeah good points there. With OLD and social media, women have so much more of an advantage to gain both dating and sexual experience. Even the most experienced guy on this forum probably has less experience than the average woman these days. What’s ridiculous too is that women still want men to...

That’s exactly what I’m doing now, and I’m probably devoting a higher percentage of energy than that. I’m working and in school for a certification right now.

I’m just saying that if women find out you’ve never dated or been in a relationship, and not had much sex by your 30’s, they’re gonna find that very alarming and off putting.

So the biggest dilemma inexperienced men like me are facing is how do we get out of this situation. It seems like most women ask questions related to this by bringing up past relationships or questions about your exes. In that scenario, I would probably try and say that I don’t want to talk...

I would probably say a relationship of a year or longer.

Yeah I didn’t do any of that in my 20’s and now I’m 31 and it does suck. 35 probably is the point of no return like you said, so hopefully this can all be fixed before then. I got extremely depressed when I turned 30 last year because my life is what it currently is when I reached that...