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  1. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Same activity for 1st and 2nd date?

    Wow - you are really, REALLY over-thinking all of this. But hey, in my early 20s I did the same thing. Here's the thing, guy: in the beginning, repetition is NOT your friend. So, taking her to the same place in the same manner trying to have the same kind of date with her that you had for the...
  2. Harry Wilmington SLW

    I'm not saying NO, but I would like to chat a bit more

    Thanks for the clarity! I'm an digital dating expert myself, and have found that, for the most part, your assessment of messaging women and getting dates is correct most of the time. With that said, I typically try to feel out the convo and her answers to see if it's a woman I should ask out...
  3. Harry Wilmington SLW

    I'm not saying NO, but I would like to chat a bit more

    I'd be curious to know what the conversation was prior to the "meet-up" request. Just so I can give a better answer to your question...
  4. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Best advice for a High School Senior?

    Hey there! The biggest piece of advice I could give you (aside from clicking on the link in my avatar, lol) is this: don't treat asking women out like it's a marriage proposal. What do I mean? Us guys apply so much pressure and worry to something as simple as asking a girl out: "How do I...
  5. Harry Wilmington SLW

    After All the videos and thoughts put into approaching

    I'm a dating coach myself, and I love Corey Wayne's material. As for this particular advice: women love mystery and intrigue. Just the fact that she's getting both by going out with you - a stranger - is usually enough for most women to agree to a date, if only to unwrap the mystery of this...
  6. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Complicated girl occasion here..

    Here's a thought: have you ever considered that you're asking yourself the wrong question? You're asking yourself "how do I know if she likes me," right? The problem, though, is that you haven't set up any framing for her to even ponder the question herself. Here's what I mean: A girl bases...
  7. Harry Wilmington SLW

    WTF! dating sites theyll chat all day then go ghost when you ask to date

    What LogicallyLefty said is spot on. I met my now-fiance via online dating, and some of my other girlfriends/hookups before her. We need more details, though - specifically: - How many messages are you sending before asking them out? - What kinds of things are you saying in these messages to...
  8. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Dating troubles

    You have a "connection" because you had sex. Sex creates dopamine, which is designed by nature to bond you to a female when you have sex with her. Unfortunately, this also results in the brain justifying actions she's doing that proceed to threaten this bond from continuing. For example: her...
  9. Harry Wilmington SLW

    What to say? Girl asked if I think she's slutty

    My response: "Hmmm, seems like a random question... are you saying you feel slutty?" Yes, the old "respond to a question with a question" trick. Don't fall for giving her an actual answer - you don't win. On the off-chance she's given you details about the x-number of guys she's been with...
  10. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Pretty sure that I am about to get dumped. URGENT

    There's nothing to figure out here. When she said she couldn't leave early on Thursday but didn't give you a reason why OR a counter-offer for a different day, it meant it was OVER. A woman with high-interest finds excuses to see you; a woman with low-interest gives excuses to delay seeing you...
  11. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Persisting vs Dismissing

    Being persistent only works if she WANTS you to catch her. Some guys think women will "challenge" them by rejecting dates, or acting flakey, etc. to make the pursuit seem more worth it. In reality, that's just guys' egos trying to justify a woman appearing "hot and cold," when in reality, more...
  12. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Strangest Situation I've Encountered

    Geez, my brain got exhausted reading about this scenario! My bad - it's just... I'm 35. At this age, I don't even try to analyze why a girl I want to get with is acting a certain way to where we don't hook up. I'm a "bottom line" kinda guy, so here it is: She has NO agenda. She's not trying to...
  13. Harry Wilmington SLW

    FR: First date from Match

    Only a 6?? Soooo where exactly is the "win" here? Lol
  14. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Blocking an ex and her friends...childish or not?

    Yeah, I'm all for blocking exes and their friends. Most of those friendships were based on you being with her, and they're more likely to be on her side in the break up. Also, you have to reverse it and think about how you would feel if a girl broke up with you and still wanted contact with your...
  15. Harry Wilmington SLW

    How long to wait before getting back into the game?

    When guys say they need "healing time," a part of that is due to the ego being bruised and not wanting to go through the embarrassment caused by a previous break-up. But think about it: you've spent the last 3 years still focusing on how this break up affected you, and she's moved on. Are you...
  16. Harry Wilmington SLW

    Some chick

    Yeah, you came off as not very confident. But beyond that... even if the invite to church was a "joke," it's not one that reads well across text. Like, you were thinking you'd say that and she'd respond, and then you could reply back "ha ha, j/k." right? But in reality, every text you send early...
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