Complicated girl occasion here..

[ce8923]

Well, let's take the story from the beginning. I've known a girl the same age as me since high school, we are friends and talk to each other. However, I've recently liked her and I think that she does too but it is not clear so I don't know how to act.
We are at the same university (what a luck huh) and we have some common classes so we do not lose interaction with each other. I have seen her staring at me many times and when I look at her she immediately moves her eyes away, she often comes near me without a reason or without starting a conversation. She often teases me or looks at me while with her friends. And yesterday when she saw me she started hugging one of my friends (probably to make me feel jealous but I don't know). Quite obvious till here isn't it?
Well, things are a lot more complicated. We had blocked each other on Facebook as a joke, we didn't fight or anything. I unblocked her but she kept me blocked for days, even if I asked her to unblock me each day. After some days she did unblock me, however rare are the occasions when she will send a message, I usually start the conversation. However, when we are at the university she might talk to me but, again, I am the one who starts the conversation most times, yet she responds without seeming to be bored. I do know that she chats with some other guys on Facebook, and SHE is the one who starts the conversation with them.
Finally, my problem is that I can't understand if she likes me back so I can ask her out or if she doesn't so I shouldn't.. Any help/ advice would be appreciated.

 

[TheGambino]

Who is going to help This Guy? I dont feel like iT rn

 

[ce8923]

She probably thinks you don't like girls.

Crap, so i I must do something about it

 

[ce8923]

You have to hit on her bra. Like sexually let her know she gives you a chubby. Follow me?

I do but how would I do avoiding the danger of being rejected 'brutally'?

 

[sosousage]

yeah she starts convo with them hoping som1 of them will fk her. shes thirsty

 

[marmel75]

Ask her to come over for a study session and then start studying biology and anatomy with her

 

[MrJack]

I do but how would I do avoiding the danger of being rejected 'brutally'?

Don't care about being rejected, it happens to all of us. That's your problem your fear of being rejected is a mental block for you.

Just flirt with her so she knows you mean business. If she responds well to that then invite to your place or out for a date or whatever and 'brutally' fvck the shyt out of her.

 

[DonDraper7]

Be direct with her, show her you want her. Invite her over to study like @marmel75 said, or invite her out whatever you want, just make sure she know's it won't be hanging out like buddies. If you get rejected, who gives a fvck? What have you lost? Nothing, you will be in the same position as you are now, but if she accepts then it's game on man.

 

[Harry Wilmington SLW]

Here's a thought: have you ever considered that you're asking yourself the wrong question?

You're asking yourself "how do I know if she likes me," right? The problem, though, is that you haven't set up any framing for her to even ponder the question herself.

Here's what I mean:

A girl bases her feelings about you on the interaction she has with you. If you meet her and instantly start doing things like flirting or asking for her number, she understands this framing of interaction is one that may lead to, at the very least, a date with you. This is why it's actually easier to get dates from women when you first meet them - they have no frame of reference for how they should view you.... EXCEPT for the one you're offering, which is to date her.

This is also why it's hard to ask a girl out the longer she knows you. The longer you go without asking her out, the longer she assumes her framing of you and her relationship is that of you being just a friend.

Because of this, her default setting of like for you is set to "friendship." It's not that she can't like you, it's that the framing YOU have help her set up for you doesn't make any strong feelings of romance come to the forefront right away.

So, the question you SHOULD be asking yourself, then, is "how can I re-set the framing so she starts considering me in a more romantic light?"

The answer, by the way, is NOT to tell her you like her. It doesn't work like the movies where you say to a girl "I love you" and her brain snaps and goes "y'know what? I think I love him too!"

What you do instead, is start doing things that are indicative of wanting her beyond friendship. This includes things like:

1. Not spending so much time with her
2. Not rushing to talk to her right away anytime you see her
3. Not texting/messaging her so frequently
4. Not getting her to say she likes you before asking her out
5. Oh yeah - and actually asking her out on a date

It's really that simple. You go up to her, have some small banter, then say something like "hey, so I found this new hotspot (club, restaurant, etc.) I've been wanting to try out, and was hoping I could make it a date night thing. I'm down to go (day 1) or (day 2), whichever works best for you." Then shut up and wait for her response.

If you get a "yes" or a "I can't make it those days, but how about this day" response, great! If you get anything other than that, she's not interested and you move on.