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@Pyros: If you do the same style of dates over and over it will get boring. It looks like most of your date ideas involve going out for food. Try action dates, such as bowling, hiking, jogging etc. Regards, Blackmesa

Day 23 I feel awesome, now I think the breakup was the best thing that happened to me, I am becoming a new person, the kind of person I've always wanted to be. I started dating another girl yesterday, I think by the end of the date I realized I completely got over the end of the LTR. SoSuave...

No more posts from OP. So he was a troll after all?

Blackmesa Day 18: I barely miss her now, I pass long of moments of my day without any thought of her occurring to me. The want to get back to her is dead in the water. I thought it would take me maybe the whole 60 days to get over it. But I think I will make it with 30 or less. Her mom called...

@Harry Wilmington: Hey Harry, thank you very much for the tips! You really cleared things up on those topics, very helpful information. I met her family early on because our families were already close, but I didn't meet her friends, and she just met mine once. But you're right on waiting a few...

Day 13! I feel I am near getting over her. Tried thinking of how to get some new plates to spin got her out of my head a bit. And after seeing the world of possibilities I have when I become the guy I want to be, it doesn't bothers me at all. She's just some tepid flower on the garden, there's...

@bigneil: I am realizing now that I've committed too much for a relationship on its earlier stages. Not having a second option is what laves most guys in a deplorable state after his relationship go wrong. When I was with this girl, I had a couple opportunities to add some plates and keep them...

It is your first time dude, our first fully trip in a woman's world makes us act, feel and think in a very immature way. Trust me, you will learn more and get better. That's a red flag for personality problems, careful there. She was thinking only of the later. Breaking up. She said marriage...

You're 100% right Cerwin! You won't believe how better I am since I wrote that. Every day that passes I feel better. I feel more confident and I feel I want/need/love her less and less. I am getting more confident that if she contacts me wanting to get back, I will take the right decision to...

@Maximus Rex: Thanks Maximus for all the links! It is awesome how there's a perfectly good explanation for why those behaviors do not elicit female approval. I really enjoyed the podcasts and I am listening to them regularly. I am happy to learn why I was wrong about that stuff. Thanks for...

You handled it very well DK! Your confidence in letting her go gave me motivation to deal with a similar situation. There's a lot of great advice on this thread! Good luck, stay strong, you're doing it right! Regards, Blackmesa

Started reading this thread... Grabbed popcorn and relaxed on my chair. Can't recall the last time I laughed so much. What everyone think OP should do in a nutshell: 1 - Approach her 2- "Hey... Bla bla bla... Let's go out?" 3 - ?????????? 4 - PROFIT! Well, can't wait for you to do it OP, I...

One of the most brilliant things ever written! I wish I had read this years ago!

Day 8 I was in a terrible emotional state yesterday, very anxious and sad, and everything remembered her. I read a lot on SoSuave, and it made me feel better. But I still feel like a part of me is missing. I know it is a hard truth to accept, but if she comes back after me, I shouldn't go...

@Harry Wilmington: Thank you for your feedback! You're right, although I adopted a much more alpha mindset with this girl than in my previous relationship (I was Mr Nice Guy before). I acknowledge it still had several flaws, and is important recognizing them because I can take proper action...

@RedScorpion: Thank you very much for your reply! I am relieved that you think it wasn't my fault. Indeed, I tried my best to fix the situation, and gave her a very concise explanation why she was wrong, and all she had was just this poem, nothing else. I am glad I made correct observations on...

Blackmesa - Day 6 Hello guys, I am in NC since 10 May when she dumped me. I've created a thread with more details of what happened: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2150559#post2150559 But the TL;DR is: LTR was great on first couple months and I maintained a fairly decent...

Hello guys, (TL;DR at end) This is my first post. I got to SoSuave after several mentions to it on Rollo Tomassi's book, The Rational Male. I am reading a lot of SoSuave lately and sites like therationalmale and heartiste. My ex-gf dumped me 5 days ago. I've been an AFC all my life and rather...