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Did It!!! Did it! Day 65! Just back from holiday with great friends and feeling so much better than at any time since. Absolutely NC. I'm not fully healed, and had one setback before the holiday even just seeing her from a distance caused me to feel depressed for a whole day, but otherwise...

So true The above is absolutely true. Except I would put it like this: It's not "lying" in the same sense as guys, it's just women use communication to translate emotions rather than facts. That's why I realized I was screwed even when I could "disprove" most of the crap she came up with to...

Skalioppe - thanks for your awesome last post (61 Days). So inspiring, it really gives us early dayers (only third way through on second attempt) something to aim for. Sounds so clear and rational and balanced, I can't wait to get to that point. There's hope!

headFirst- Keep going, brother. Just take each day as it comes, but keep those days BUSY. If you're going back home, plan what you're going to do, who you're going to see. Make it a ram-packed schedule of awesome so there's just no time to dwell. See those people you never see, do those...

NC DAY 20: It's always up and down, but the amplitudes are considerably lower now. In fact, when keeping busy and doing stuff, NC is quite easy and I can almost feel like normal, or even quite good. As long as I don't see or hear anything about her, that is. Motivation was the hardest thing to...

Just thought I'd say something in defence of what have been called "lame cvnts" and so on. Reading the very first post in this thread again, the whole point of this thread is that NC is a "challenge". Not all of us will succeed first time (in fact, most fail from the looks of it), but this...

Unbelievable. Good on you for not getting sucked into the power games.

NC Day 9: So, day 9 of attempt 2. Was doing much better than I expected - being out of the country and working at a new place kept me busy, challenged and in different circles. Day off and coming back home was a bit of a crash. Not at all tempted to make contact (did not respond to last message...

Getting 'a rise' out of you basically proves to her that she is still in control and has the power, that's why she does it. You're doing the right thing - stay above it, hold your head high. When the dust settles no-one will be able to question your behaviour and in the long run she'll be the...

trulycrushed - ah man, totally feel where you're coming from. The more stories I read the more depressingly familiar the pattern. Mauser96 is right on the money; we need to all start valuing ourselves and refuse to be treated like ****s. It's all about getting back our sense of dignity and...

@r1971 FB status updates is not NC. You've got to remove/block FB and totally unfriend, nothing good can come of it, believe me. It's one thing communicating directly, but the mixed messages and calculations and analysis that social media output brings is totally another can of worms that won't...

Back to Day 1. Just sent a stream-of-consciousness email in reply, couldn't help it - just had to get a bunch of stuff out. Not proud of myself but at least I'm only back a day and anyway probably have to communicate again just to sort out this legal bs. Wish I'd waited 'til I was sober...

Day 2: Didn't mean to update today but it's my worst nightmare as her reply to my NC email arrived today. One: turns out there's some legal/financial stuff needs signing so apparently we have to meet. Trying to see if there's any way to avoid this (mutually trusted witnesses?) 'cos I know...

I hear you guys. Will probably delete the texts today. Worried about the number though - I don't want to call her (and haven't in two months), but I don't want to accidentally answer if she rings either. I also need to recognise her number if she texts me so I can just delete&ignore it WITHOUT...

DAY 1: Completed. Felt empowering sending that message finally taking back control, but sad rest of the day. Was so happy with my message, but frustrating you can't see her face/reaction. No reply (as requested, but couldn't help re-checking emails several times). Two months after a six-year...