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    Who was your girlfriend AFTER your BPD girlfriend?

    At the end of my 3 month bpd stint I found this site. This chick would constantly say she "feared abandonment" and it was through googling this phrase that I ended up here. A very steep learning curved followed as I realised my part in the whole mess. I took all the usual advice, blocked all...
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    THE CRAZY GIRL THREAD

    Lol, what a nutcase Desdinova. You might expect this sort of **** after an actual relationship but after 3 dates..wow. Some of that sounded familiar to me, especially the constant attempts to lay on the guilt and the "be a man and talk to me bull****". If I ever hear "be a man" or "man up" it's...
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    Options for Dating in Middle Age

    I'll add another one. (9) 30ish no kids, spent her 20's travelling, works as a waitress or some other menial job, has no assets but now wants to "settle down", biological clock is ticking and is looking for a man with resources who will marry her tomorrow. These are fun but too risky to LTR.
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    Relationship advice with single mother...

    Finding the sweet spot with discipline has been a challenge for me. Mostly I've left it up to her to sort her own out but her son (8) really knows how to push the limits and at times her discipline is ineffective. In my experience boys respond better to firm male discipline as they get older...
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    Relationship advice with single mother...

    It's funny OP I'm in a very similar position. Been dating a woman for about the same amount of time and lately I have been considering the benefits of having her move in on a temporary/trial basis. On the positive side: 1. She cooks cleans and generally takes care of the household whenever she...
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    Call Me A Fool, I Want Her Back

    We'll that was a very entertaining read! You've learnt a lot (hopefully) but as predicted did it the hard way. Good on you for posting an update, who knows it might actually help someone in the same position.
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    Keeping a plate casual when he wants more?

    Face palm. Infern0 why do you not feel worthy of a mentally healthy woman?
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    Is This Girl Manipulating Me?? Need Advice

    Dude, this little blowout is petty and stupid too. But to be honest you were being petty getting all butthurt because she didn't get straight back to you and answer your question about what she did that day. If the roles were reversed and some chick come back to me with this *****y little...
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    Women are BPD because they don't respect you

    It's not about them controlling themselves. It's just that they are feeling different emotions in the beginning, its the infatuation stage, you can truly do no wrong in their eyes. You are the perfect man and they WILL show you that's how they feel. The trouble is it's not viewed as a red...
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    Another BPD story

    Hey Inferno, It's a familiar story you tell. I found this forum and another (I'm sure you know which) almost exactly a year ago after waving goodbye to a waif. 3 months of too good to be true romance and the best sex ever! There were red flags that I noted long the way, little lies and things...
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    Becoming numb. Is it good?

    I'm in exactly the same boat after a bpd mind f*ck, but to be honest I'm enjoying being somewhat detached. Got a new girl who is shaping up pretty well but it's natural to be cynical of them all after a borderline. Judge by actions not words, it doesn't hurt to keep them at arms length for a...
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    Can I Have Some Advice On A Bpd Ex Gf Please !!!

    I'm with crazyboy mate. I dated a BPD for about 3 months, 36yo (I'm 38) she had 3 kids to two different fathers, all of the same type of behavior you describe above. You could very well end up being Daddy no. 2 with your kids ending up with a string of men in their lives. Remember you are not...
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    Understanding advice from different sources regarding breakup

    Trust yourself to sift through the advice and take away what works for you and your situation. Nobody knows your situation better than you. Yes there's good advice here but it's dependent on what you share and how its interpreted. Then the advice you receive will be based on the experience of...
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    Setting up your plates

    Thought I'd post an update. Well as expected the day game one balked when I made the move. Wanted to know where this was going, if we could be classed as seeing each other etc. I tried the "I'm not ready for a serous relationship line, blah blah" similar to what I found in this article...
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    Closure with BPD-ex

    ^^ Agreed, this was pretty much exactly how it happened for me jay. After reading heaps and deciding that BPD was the most plausible explanation I googled "her name + bpd" and it took me to a FB borderline support page she'd posted on. The last 1% of doubt I had was then gone. She never...
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    Closure with BPD-ex

    No CVF, they're not all like this, you were just unlucky and ended up with a bad one. I was lucky throughout my twenties, I only had a couple of RS's but all were with good women that have now settled down and made good wives. I let the last one go because she wanted kids and I wasn't keen at...
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    Closure with BPD-ex

    OP, I busted up with mine about the same time you did and against all advice I went looking for closure a couple of weeks back. Bad move, but it gave me closure in a way because she was practically emotionless and immediately started turning the tables with her crazy making crap about how it...
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    Report

    Very inspirational thread SS, you've done well.
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    Setting up your plates

    Gents, I'm looking for advice on setting up plates, you know keeping them around while they know there are others. A little back ground on me: I'm 38 former afc just starting to find my game. I was always a oneitis type dude until a had a stint with a BPD a couple of months back. I didn't do...
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    Borderline Personality Disorder Ex, need help.

    Hey DD27, I'm about 7wks NC after a 3 month stint with one. That's how I ended up here. My only advice is keep the NC and just keep going one foot after another. Don't try understanding how she may be feeling or what she might be thinking because it sure wont be anything like you might imagine...
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