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That's perfectly valid. This is why I'm continually posting to you, because I understand what you're going through and what you're up against. I also know how these things tend to pan out. And in my heart of hearts, I really wouldn't wish these circumstances on my own worst enemy. Well, on...

Not for nothing, but it's not about Josh. The only thing Josh is guilty of is having the same taste in women that Traveler does and in being a man of low ethics so as to go after a married woman (we suspect). Josh is only a pimple on the ass of this problem. If it wasn't Josh, it would be...

"MORE" time to flake? How much time DOES a woman need in order to flake anyhow? LOL Women usually know that they're going to flake as you're making the date with them. It sounds like you're confusing two concepts as being the same thing. According to your example, the way to ask a woman out is...

I've been privy to many a conservation where we discuss "mistakes". Let me share: A "mistake", by definition, is an "error in judgment". We make a wrong turn while driving, believing it to be the correct turn. That's a mistake. We add two numbers together incorrectly, believing we added...

Never make a date without nailing down the details. You leave yourself open to this and other things going wrong. When it's HER calling YOU for a date, DON'T reject it (unless she's asking you out at the last minute).

Yep. I see this often enough in these forums: girl calls, asks what are you doing later, the guy has plans but is willing to either amend them, include her or toss them out or babbles out whatever he's up to... this has to stop! The answer is, "I'm busy. But how's next Monday?" Don't accept...

She didn't just decide today. You just found out about it, is what happened. A woman with genuine high interest wouldn't be bothering with an ex at all. Voicing your "displeasure" will make a woman see just what it takes to get to you. Anytime forward going that she wants to bring you into...

That's right. It's not the other guy that's the cause of it, he's just a player in it. Angry thoughts of revenge stimulate the mind and feel good, but it's bad training for one's mind to condition itself to feel good that way. Angry thoughts will create angry emotions that need venting, and...

If she's having sexual relations outside of your marriage, then she may get infected with something and then transmit it to you. You did her hard because... did it turn you on that she was with another man? She seemed to act that way: "I don't mind. I was naughty!" At least she acknowledges her...

Sometimes there are things better left secret. You wouldn't really tell a woman that you bed wetted until you were 15, or discovered another use for vacuum cleaners, just for the sake of being open with her, would you? Because if you did, how would that possibly enhance her view of you? Any good...

This is where the boys and men separate. It takes a few seconds to think up a lie. That's the death knell of your relationship tolling. That's why she lied about this guy, but somehow it slipped in and now she has to tell you he's "just a friend". Did you know that she has secret male...

Yeah, yeah, I get that... Bottom line is that it's still a date. It's just the manner in which you set it up that you're describing. Let's be real. She said "yes". It's a date. BUT then you told her you'd confirm it... ...and that's the message she gets when you tell a woman you'll confirm...

There's a PURPOSE to having that coffee date. In real life, when we meet someone, we see them in person. We get to interact with them a bit and can see if we like the way they look, the way they act, the way they speak, the way they smile, etc. In short, we can see if there's chemistry or not...

Why do you have to confirm what's already been set up? If it's set, then it should be definite. You don't make "maybe" dates unless you want flaking to happen. When a girl asks you to confirm first, that's a flag she's going to flake.

A boyfriend in China can't take her out and have fun and it's just not practical, so he's out. Don't talk about him. NO. We don't press women and talk about those things. It shows neediness. Just have fun. Be fun to be with. Have patience. Be laid back. You go for a kiss on the lips, a few...

Don't even bother with an answer. A number of women are more into what they can get out of a guy. So, they want dinners. At nice places. They'll even tell you where they want you to take them in case you mention Applebee's. But you want a woman who wants to meet *you*. That woman doesn't care...

It's a juando-full day in the neighborhood.

Traveler, it's a sad thing when spouses lie to us and are doing something they cover up and keep secret from us because they KNOW that what they're doing is wrong. Yet they do it. It's not fair to us. They are trying to make us believe that things are not what they are. They know the truth of...

Evidently, they don't agree. That's your ego talking. That ego is going to thwart you in dealing with this, so you have to learn to side step yourself. The answer wasn't to call more quickly. The ones that didn't go anywhere when you waited some time to call them, weren't going anywhere...

Traveler, she's changed her story and has contradicted herself. It doesn't make sense. That usually means it's a lie, because lies don't keep facts consistent as their story evolves. For example: She originally told you that she was going with a group of some friends, straight from class...