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And what exactly is this particular "game" she's playing?

You don't agree to the date. Nicely turn her down and suggest another time when it can be just the two of you. Period. End of story. Sort of like, "Hey, thanks, but I'd rather do something just me and you. How's next Sunday? Let's go see it then." The reason you don't want someone else there...

You dodged a fatal bullet. People can't really love someone within two weeks. They just don't know that person. She may have "fallen in love" which, at such an early stage, is more about her being infatuated and mistaking those feelings for that of real love. To live together, or even commit...

The thing is, you're not in a relationship with her where she can expect there'll be a celebration of Valentine's day, so save yourself the mind reading act. You're revering her a bit much, it seems in your posts, or is it that you're giving yourself away a bit much? Let her ask you out if she...

Valentine's Day is for your committed girl friend, fiance or wife.

First thing I thought of was: "How can I? You're blocking my view." But this idea of the OP's that these questions are destined to follow... it's so dramatic. I can't wait for the next torrid, heart-pounding post.

>>The goal for me, moving forward, is to make women a CONSEQUENCE and BYPRODUCT of my life, with little time actually spent focusing on them>> Not that I think this book is the end all, yet you may enjoy reading "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida, if you haven't already.

What is happening, squirrels, is that these folks are rushing into relationships with people they don't know. They also have probably ignored flags, either because "but she's hot" trumps their common sense or because they naively put their faith in false beliefs ("What she did in the past...

My thoughts too. It's always troubling when a woman needs to mention other men she's seeing because you do have to wonder what the motivation is for that. Maybe you're a plate? So pull back and make her chase after you. While she's away, if you've gone silent, maybe she'll wonder if you're...

That's what we'd call a "mixed signal" which actually isn't mixed at all, it means low interest. Or that they have other options they're somewhat more interested in. Period. They being divorced really has nothing to do with it. And as time goes on, you'll likely find more and more new harvests...

Boy, you make it sound like she's some Machiavellian siren under whose wiles you must exert yourself to not surrender to her power. >> I say how does grabbing food mean I was saying to get dinner >> It involves food and eating. When it involves food and eating, whether it's just quickly...

>> she BSed me about just getting out of a relationship & needing to slow it down >> Which is womenspeak for "Hey, buddy, you're moving on me way too fast, and to be honest, I'm not that into you." When a woman says "Slow it down" that's usally menas the end is near. If she was way into you...

You're having this discussion with the Asian woman you want to bang? I'd like to point out that this is not the stuff you talk about with women you want to bed. >> here are three explanations for this. >> There's this: that sites like match force the user to set a specific age range and that's...

Steve, you're a photographer. So, instead of looking at negatives, see what develops.

Here's the thing I could never understand, I just maybe don't get it. Whenever I see that memory technique of mnemonics (associating something else with the stuff you want to remember), I always wonder: if you're gonna remember all this other stuff (allegedly because it's easier to remember)...

Pardon me, but which way is it to the Mature Man's Forum?

Remember what Dale Carnegie wrote a long time ago that still holds very true today? He observed that the sweetest sound in the world to a person is the sound of their own name. I used to have the impression that, if I forgot a name and asked for it again, that points would be scored because of...

Ditto Jitterbug. The usual reason an ex keeps in touch (if she's dumped you) is strictly for her own benefit, never for yours. So the minute you show her that you're not under her spell she has no further use for you in her world. Generally speaking, she's not going to raise much of a finger...

Undoubtedly. That's one reason no contact is very useful when healing. Every encounter otherwise could be a step back in the process and delay the healing process. Maybe it's best to always have two girls instead of one, as I've never seen anyone post anything about having to get over two-itis ;)

darkstarrr, you've got some quotes attributed to me in your post #12 that I did not make. This isn't entirely accurate. It's 100% her fault for deciding to cheat and doing it. What blame there lies on the guy, is that he contributed to the environment in which her decision was made. That's his...