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I have to disagree with this advice. First of all, you shouldn't hold back your emotions. They are there for a reason. Remember that. Once you start holding them back, because somebody told you to do it on a message board, you start a very unhealthy cycle. And repressed emotions turn in on you...

She ended it Monday, September 26. Since I'm feeling historical, here's the note I wrote about it that night: I got dumped by ------- tonight. We'd had the roughest week. Actually, I should say I had the roughest week. She gave me the hardest time. I was not up for all the crap I had to...

Persistent, I don't think sending the email was the right thing to do on her part. Five weeks ago she has her dad give me back the ring. But now it's supposed to be water under the bridge! Like she didn't just throw away years of commitment on both our parts. Go ahead Trim, take the trip and...

Nighthawk, Why do you think the letter is mindgames? Yes, I'm depressed. I was diagnosed with depression last week. I talked about it earlier in the thread. I have also been panicking again since recieving her email on Friday. It's pretty hard for me right now. I'm nervous and anxious all...

OK, I went out last night. I wanted to have a good time, but the girls I talked to just brought me down, some were just downright boring. Actually, the one girl I was starting to connect with just turned her back on me midway through our convo. Now I wished I'd stayed home. That's sad I know...

Joe said: That should be in a textbook Joe. I will illustrate just how true that is. I dated a girl years back who actually had the "Beyond B1tch" t-shirt. She lived in another state and I lived there for one summer while I was competing (I used to be an athlete). Well when summer ended, I...

Joe, good to see you are back. The signs were her sh1t-talking about other people. She was judgmental of others...even people who were nice to her. But that side of her has only really emerged in the last year or so, which corresponds well to the decline of our relationship. What attracted...

When my ex broke up with me, she said she had nothing to show from our relationship. She said I had given her no necklaces or earrings. (like I should have) She seems to have forgotten that I gave her a well-plowed glory hole!:rockon:

Hey Wheelin', Great to hear buddy! If I were you, I would have as much fun as possible with this new gal. It's going to be refreshing hanging out with a new, and happier, woman. Enjoy!

Oh my f*ckin' god! I got an email from the ex today. The first communication since things ended. Odd timing after that last post. My stomach has been in knots ever since. Here it is: Hi Trim, I wanted to let you know that tomorrow, Saturday, is the ****** competition in **. I had...

Thanks Persistent, that means a lot to me at this point in my life. Yes Blue, there were definitely issues of codependency going on between us. She didn't share how she felt about the relationship. She just broke up and that was it. The only thing I can really remember her doing to help us...

I had another visit with the therapist today since she was really concerned about me (shocker!). There is a lot of stuff I talked about that is way too personal to put on here. But there is something that I feel is my obligation to share with you all. I told her how I wanted to treat my ex...

Got in touch with the South African girl, she's gonna be out of town this weekend, so we set up a date for next Friday. Far in advance, hence the high flake factor. But we are supposed to meet at a pretty central place. If she doesn't show up, that will just be more motivation to get out of my...

Hey, I just got back from the therapist. She stated I'm depressed, so I was referred to a psychiatrist for an evaluation. Also, the therapist said I should come back again tomorrow. I won't go too into the details here, but the way the therapy works is by talking about your...

Icehot, Hey Ice, I'll be the first to admit that I'm pathetic at this point. I'm beat down, no other way to put it. I've even started having physical problems from all of this. Thanks for the advice and kick in the azz. By the way, are there any posts in the DJ bible on how to deal...

I'm concerned about this, too. I had to push myself to be detached in my last relationship. But it's strange because I didn't really feel like being that way all of the time. And yes, this may have cost me dearly. But I will tell you this, my ex spent a lot of time with a friend from her...

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Joe, I'm a big fan of "Uncle Wayne". I read all of his stuff in order starting with "Your Erroneous Zones". I have to say he's one of the best. I'm trying to master my world. That has been what I've been trying to accomplish for several years now. But setbacks like these, well nothing has...

Good idea Joe.... I spent years trying to stay who I was in my last relationship, a happy person. I did the things I liked doing and gave what I could to my mate. But didn't stick to the DJ principles as strictly as I should have. There were signs, but I overlooked them as "nobody is...

Rob, I don't know how you could go through having to see your ex over and over like that. Luckily, I live in Northern VA, and I'll probably never see her again. If I saw her, I'm sure my reaction would not be too positive. Joe, true. I am choosing to feel this pain. I'm fairly certain it is...