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No my 7 year ex was anything but boring!!! She was stunning, exciting, had a passion for life , was stable, level headed, so much fun and full of joy. We were going to have a baby and everything. It only went tits up, because we were living in a different country to our home country's for...

I know man, you're right. It clearly runs pretty deep. Something in me that's kept me in this chaos, I guess first step is figuring that out. Had real healthy relationships prior to this mostly, longest being 7 years with a different ex that was the opposite of this. Stable and real...

Hard to explain... Been few a few break ups over the years. Usually it doesn't bother me. Just be sad for a week, move on be alright. This one is different. I'd be focusing on those things to avoid getting sucked back in. This woman is my kryptonite.

I guess it has become like a slot machine. Intermittent reinforcement. Amazing highs and lows lows. Chasing the highs, forgetting the lows. Slowly become addicted to chucking coins in not noticing you're bank balance dwindling. Logical part of me. Women have always come pretty easily to me...

Lol mabye I should change my name to Captsaveahoe

Had some trouble with my Ex in the summer. I broke up with her, basically issues with PMDD. Total head f uck at the end of each month, Got back together. She was working on it. Actually had an awesome time after, thought she solved it. Then she stopped taking the medication the doctors...

Thank you!

Pre Conflict control definitely sounds like something I could personally benefit from. Willingness to engage in conflict has always been a weakness of mine and an area I could improve in. Would you care to elaborate or point me towards to sources where I could learn more about this ? If...

That makes a lot of sense!!!! I suppose that's when you truly know you have developed the skill when you can do as you described above! Thank you so much for your insight! I don't know why but I'm so excited by all of this.

Also switching it off was very natural. Didn't even notice, it it just flowed. Conversations felt very different, like the other person was so excited to be engaging with me. As for listening with empathy in regards of negativity directed at me whilst doing so. I'll see what that's like...

Well that's interesting!!! Been practicing this all day with everyone I've interacted with. Early days, I'm probably only just listening at this point, But it's been nice. I've had genuine, warm, connected and energised conversations all day with all different types of people. Also found...

I'm sorry to hear about your C-PTSD, I've dated women with the disorder and know how difficult it can be to live with. You mentioned you teach clients with the disorder to separate feelings from critical thinking , which I assume that's what you practiced to overcome it yourself. Do you...

Haha you could also find yourself being in the centre of a man and a women . MMF

In what way do you feel empathy is dangerous?

I assume you're an exceptional listener if you're a therapist. Do you mind giving a little bit more insight to what I've said above? My post is purely based on assumptions.

To me it seems like a very non reactive way to communicate. He describes detaching from yourself (your agenda, feelings, own perspective, emotions) , and taking time to truly listen and feel what the other person is saying. Even if it's wackadoodle bull s hit :rofl: I suppose when it's...

Do you mind elaborating on what you said in regards of the flip side and entangled part?

I don't think I have high levels of empathy in general. Just watched this video, I found it interesting. What he is talking about , I never do. I rewatch it as he suggested and listened in the way he advised. If felt different, he's right. I could feel and felt connected when I...

1. High body count 2. Masculine 3. Doesn't take care of herself physically, bad hygiene, fat, bad skin, sloppy clothes e.t.c. 4.Drinks too much / Drugs 5. Needs constant validation on the internet 6. Dresses Proactively/ Sl utty 7. Lots of male Friends 8. Disloyal 9. Unstable / Personally...

I think female contraception also plays a significant part. The almost of women effected mentally / unstable due to this is not something to be ignored.