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That’s the issue I think. I don’t quite know what I want. I know i don’t want what i already did which was a 20 year committed marriage. I like the idea of dating 1+ as long as they are okay with it and also don’t demand monogamy at this point. I never want to live with someone (i say never but...

No, not casual sex. Two i am in LTRs with. Dates, weekends, help each other, etc. Two are more friends with benefits in that we don’t as many relationships things like trips and i wouldn’t take care of them after a surgery for example. The other two I would, and have.

i don’t think so. i don’t regret anything, even things i should. i am good at justifying things so that i don’t regret anything. maybe i am scared of being trapped in another LTR though where i lose my life somewhat. i think i’m being overly selfish now for that reason. which isn’t great either. :(

i guess i didn’t need opinions afterall. lol. Just reassurance. I feel better about it. I still feel like i have no clue what i’m doing but yeah that’s the journey i guess. :)

Wow thanks a lot! I think i have been excessively over analyzing this for a while now. Great remainder and exactly what I needed to hear! Really appreciate your time and words.

I can’t help it, it was funny what you said! I don’t care what you call me, I still like the input. I did like the kiss though. Really i wasn’t complaining in my OP. I am struggling to the point of thinking to see a professional to get their POV. I just would like some opinions here because...

Haha i know and that why i like to post here. i appreciate the directness and male POV. Definitely most men do cater to women. I don’t see all of them as FBuddies, two are definitely LTRs (i think). Maybe my comparison isn’t the same. What i am trying to say is, i am not saying woe is me. I am...

I can see there’s no real conversation here to be had. Making assumptions and comparing apples to oranges. Since i am pretty sure you two won’t look it up and don’t know what i mean: Fallacy of relative privation (also known as "appeal to worse problems" or "not as bad as") – dismissing an...

That’s a logical fallacy that i won’t address (there are kids starving in Africa so don’t complain about your malfunctioning iPhone). Look it up. As far as wanting to be single and saying “just do it” i think you missed the point of my post completely. No kids. Never had the desire, not my path.

I think it happens to everyone at times. If it’s a constant issue, then i would agree there is a deeper issue for the person and the partner should probably bail. But everyone has ups and downs, needs some space at times and has the right to it without it being a huge issue. That’s just the...

It is a lot. I have been cutting way back on two and I think 1+ is better for me. I doubt they are stressed or confused, just me. I am open and honest with them. I also like dating 2-4 because of the variety and it helps me not focus on any one too much.

I agree with this. We (some, a lot) are very susceptible to our hormones, internal non logical dialogue, emotions and outside influences like our friends and moms. Heck, sometimes we can get mad at you over s dream we had! Don’t take it personally, the hot and cold. Personally I am extremely...

Oh no, I do love at least one of the men I am seeing. And I am loyal in that I stick to whatever we have agreed upon. I have strong affection for the others. I just think that moving in or even having more time with any of them will make me miserable because i like being single so much. I can’t...

I always take a man with me when getting car repairs or buying a new car!

Good question. I did exactly that for 20 years, since i was 18. I was there for him and him for me and I don’t regret it at all. But I am divorced now (for 3 years) and I love being single. In high school I never wanted a relationship even though I was in one all four years. I just have *always*...

What are your thoughts on desiring to be, and staying, single? Is it unhealthy? I am struggling with this recently forcing myself to date. And also struggling with keeping these relationships at a certain level as i guess it’s human nature to want more and deeper relationships. But it’s not what...

The article said men want to be healed. I think i get what that means but what do you think? is it the same as men want someone soft to be with, to tell emotions to, a place they can relax? As far as making it easy for the guy, i thought they preferred if we have out own lives ans friends and...

You are rare to me then. i have almost exclusively encountered the persistent male. I do accept some blame though. i tend to laugh and smile a lot because i enjoy living. So i get approached with them saying something about my smile yada yada. And i also am probably too subtle at first because i...

i wish we had a girls corner to talk in here without annoying the guys. lol. this really is a good place for info.

For sure. I think it meant to try and relate to some of his hobbies, whatever they may be. I like gaming and geocaching for example which is male dominated. but one of my guys likes sports (which i hate, sorry!) but hes also way into sailing. so not only have i gone sailing with him (duh) but i...