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Things you can't control: Some chick not texting you back. Things you can control: Your emotional response. If she gave a fvck about texting you back, she would've texted you. So no amount of anything on your end will make her care more. Boundaries that specific only work if someone is...

Lol. Older women have daughters bro ;) But real talk, this is exactly the kind of mindset--and I've been guilty of it too--that keeps you trapped: an absolute value judgment that protects your ego. If a woman reject you, and all older women lose all of their value, then that rejection...

Ideally, you can get a little eye contact, first. Ideally, she's by herself. But you basically just sit next to her & strike up convo. "Oh my god. Such a dork, doing homework on a beautiful day like today. Mind if I distract you for a second?" Either she opens or doesn't, in which case you...

Depends on what city you're in. I've pulled girls from cafes--just the mathematical probability of find them there is pretty slim most places. As far as taking girls there as a date, I've done that a handful of times a couple years ago. Never lead to anything substantial past that, though it...

Not quite sure what you're asking. I haven't been hitting the streets hard for a couple months now--too many other, more important things going on & got a little burnt out on girls earlier in the year. I've had a couple girls from the past come into town to revisit old times but haven't been...

For me it's a matter of principle rather than money--especially at this point. I like going out to nice dinners, doing cool stuff/going to events that cost money; and sometimes I like doing those things with girls. BUT I'm not doing any of those things with a girl I haven't been fvcking for a...

AFAIK most of the 'pros' abandoned SS long ago--just cameo appearances here & there. But don't be so hard on yourself bro. Getting back in the game after a break (and even more so, I imagine, after a divorce) is harder than starting out in the first place--since you have a memory of how you...

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I think self-esteem has A LOT to do with seduction--or at least the emotional dynamics (i.e. 'chemistry') that determines whether a seduction takes place. For instance, people with high self-esteem don't choose to associate with low self-esteem people for prolonged lengths of time--eventually...

+1 People here are always asking, So I found out about success, getting women, sexual dynamics, but what's the endgame? Spin plates forever? Cash out my chips with the best woman I can find? The endgame--and it's not really an endgame but more the start of another one--is learning to...

What do girls wants? Access & fun. What do bouncers control? Access & fun. So they have super high contextual value. They can & do get laid. BUT the logistics suck. Most girls do not want to have to stick around until 3:30/4, after the party is over, the vibe has downshifted, and you have...

Probably played your hand a little early lol. Covert > Overt. That was your ego needing to feel like it 'won.' Making girls feel badly about themselves or revealing the dubious nature of your intentions is almost never effective--one, instead of engaging in introspection or changing her...

Important distinction I failed to make: Be delusional about the outcome but realistic about the process. Without correct action, delusion is incredibly dangerous.

Possibly. But it's broader than that. If statistically you have a far higher likelihood of failing, starving, dying, etc., then the rational response would be not to try. BUT if you have a, say, 5% chance of succeeding, then the belief that you will succeed enables you the best (and possibly...

If delusion allows you act more effectively, then it is advantageous. If it allows you to navigate your world more effectively, then it is advantageous. I don't think feminists are as sad as you would have them be--most of them seem to be pretty insulated from the worst of their consequences...

You're also handing over your power, your agency, and placing women in a leadership position--from the start, you are letting her determine the frame of the interaction. Personally, waiting for someone else's permission to begin living my life is a direct affront to my core values...

I don't really worry about percentages. If I'm being honest & authentic to myself by talking to the girls I want to talk to and giving them a chance to meet me, then I've done my part & they're free to react however they want. But I'd guess these days it'd be (approximately): 1-2 hard...

As soon as you 'judge' this feeling, you are caving to social conditioning vs. embracing your nature. Well, you say, my nature wasn't this way in the past. Of course. Your hormonal profile was reacting to a different set of constraints. If you have limited sexual opportunities it's adaptive...

Your feelings are your responsibility. Sex & relationships flood your brain with dopamine & oxytocin--so it's tempting to attribute that feeling to an external source--but even those are internally generated responses that can and will be generated from other stimuli under similar...

Along the line of what I came to post. The question in the OP is one I've definitely grappled with--but it's the wrong one--wrong in that your frame has nothing to do with her motivations. And her motivations are unknowable--and, let's face it, unless you need some type of validation from...