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You can always wait for a girl to hit on you, but you might go through some dry spells.

It's just the male gender role, which is the more active one that makes things happens. Plus what @sharkfinale said.

No, it's not much different. Such subtleties are important to me, however. The "I am the prize" idea is basically there to stop guys from putting women on pedestals. I find it more of a "training wheels" exercise though. But then again, they say all PUA theory is basically training wheels.

I find this topic interesting, so I'm going to do some thinking out loud: "I am the great prize to be won". This idea originates with Pook, if I'm not mistaken? I've always had a bit of a problem with it. Usually guys pursue women and consider them the prize, which is admittedly a bad frame...

I find this amusing. Guys say they won't go to the steak restaurant unless it's someone who has already proven themselves worthy (if at all). And women say they won't go on house dates unless they're someone who has already proven themselves. No wonder there's a battle of the sexes, oh well...

What if she's vegetarian?

I think you have to carve out your own niche for yourself, you have to find your own successes that you can point to, and be secure in. There's also a thought exercise: Decide what kind of man you want to be, then be that guy.

Emotional support kitty? Here in the US, that's what they call animals so they are allowed to bring them into public places.

I disagree with the assertion that straight guys owning cats is weird. Cats are awesome creatures.

As Vince Vaughn said in Swingers: Kill the bunny.

I appreciate brevity. I read a lot of pickup material when I was younger. There was so much padding it would drive me nuts. They'd take five chapters to say what could be said in one sentence.

If you want to get some experience, you're going to have to push through your fears and insecurities. It's the only way to get the experience you want.

I think a lot of young women expect some attention from older guys, as long as it isn't overbearing. When they don't want it, it's creepy. But other times I think they are looking for some validation, maybe when they're feeling insecure at the moment. Not saying they want hit on, but maybe...

I don't know what kind of women you are getting, Assassin, but I know you have a unique look. I can understand why young girls would consider it creepy when an old guy hits on them. But I wonder if, since you look like you are kind of off the beaten path, if some might be more likely to excuse...

Interesting. I forgot to mention that a few years ago on this forum, helping out like that would get you called a "Captain Save-a-Ho" lol. I haven't heard that expression recently, not sure why.

Here's another example: Sometimes I'll offer to help get a girl something off the high shelf if they seem to be having trouble. I honestly think the thing I enjoy most about these interactions is that I'm not looking to get anything out of it.

As I've gotten older, I've gradually but completely lost interest in alcohol, bars, and nightclubs. So it isn't just a matter of having fewer male connections, although your point is valid. A lot of guys stick with that stuff, and great for them. But a lot of guys move past it, because they...

I'm definitely a fan of budgeting. I like to know where my money goes. I have a modest budget program that suits my needs, and I actually find it kind of fun. This way I know just how much money I can "blow" in a given month.

There are things she could do to improve them, but just as a baseline she's always going to look older. It's just a question of looksmaxxing. She's never going to get the attention she did when she was younger, but she can try to look the best she can. What else can one do?

Aging isn't for the weak of heart. Anyway, who wants to be invisible? If I were her, first thing I would do is dye my hair - women with gray hair are not as appealing as men with gray hair, because men love signs of youth and fertility.