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Assume you have a chick who is part of your rotation (you see her once a week, bang her and that's all), would you keep her or would you drop her?

I know that everyone goes on dates with different intentions. Some want to go out to find a partner for a long-term relationship, while others just want to have fun. To spin plates. IMO, in the latter case, as long as you keep in mind what you want, it’s possible to ignore red flags without...

2-3 weeks and you're already thinking she's the one? You need to check on a few things, man.

I know how you feel. I was in that position two years ago. The truth is that nothing anyone says here will help you feel better. Not because it doesn't make sense. But simply because you won't be able to see it right now. Stop blaming yourself. Relationships are two-way streets. Like your...

The concept of romantic love is a very ephemeral one. And often conditioned. That's why today I try to value the moments when I feel good. When I go out with a woman, I don't expect to be loved. Or that she will "love" me at some point. I just hope that I have a good time with her and that she...

I don't even like going up to the woman my friend is interested in at a bar or a party, imagine a chick he's already seeing.

Agree. Not the easiest thing to control. On the other hand, imo this state of apathy would help a person to achieve the state of aloofness that we sometimes describe as an "ideal" thing to have to attract women.

By consequence or by choice you say? Since I started applying Stoicism concepts in my life, I do not doubt that I have changed my dating approach. After all, it has a straight impact on my behavior. However, I think I attracted crazy and sl*t women the same. Since it was a one-night stand, I...

What type of woman do you think?

When women have a high interest in you, they will make it so obvious (and easy) for you that it will not look like you are chasing or approaching.

Legendary.

Looking back a few years later, I feel the same way. It cost me a few windows of opportunity. Patience. Lesson learned.

Yes. I agree that taking care of your image is important. When I started dressing “better”, and taking some personal care of myself, some things became easier.

17/18 year-old. About Stoicism? I read "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius and "The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and The Art of Living". Currently reading "Letters from a Stoic". Both. I can date and think at the same time.

After I ended my long-term relationship 2 years ago, in my search for answers and to avoid going through what I went through, I found my refuge in a few places (and sources of knowledge), including this forum. Despite being a difficult break-up, I am lucky to have lived this kind of sh!t early...

Interesting. I think the OP's main challenge is to keep the iron hot. I don't know how long they are dating, but I see it as an opportunity for to him consolidate his frame in the relationship. Long-distance relationship is tough sh*t.

So it's a temporary long-distance relationship? If so, it's important to bear in mind that girls are addicted to text. Try to balance this out and not give off a needy vibe. Show her (implicitly) that you are doing stuff and that you have a life without her.

I've never been one for hitting on women at night. Especially in bars/nightclubs. I think most of them, in that kind of environment, become delusional. “Don't touch me” kind of vibe. That's why I prefer to approach them at the end of the night, outside this kind of environment. Waiting for a...

Hypergamy. Female nature.