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Hey, everyone. Posting here to share an experience of mine that I think illustrates that we can choose how we react to the outside world. Your reaction can either be negative or positive and which one is almost entirely up to you. I was driving to the grocery store last night when I felt my...

Okay, dude, this is so damn pathetic and a terrible plan. You're obviously not taking in any advice given on here nor are you willing to work on bettering yourself for the right reasons. Keep seeing your therapist.

Day ?? Honestly, I'm not even sure what day I am on. A day behind JrBak, but what day is he on? I don't really give a **** about my ex being in my life anymore, so I don't really feel the need to contact her anymore. I'm sticking around till day 60 to try to give back a bit to others here...

First, kudos to you for seeing a therapist. I think that shows you are really serious about becoming a better man. I agree that we can choose to react to our situations either negatively or positively. Some seem to be able to do this better than others but it's still a good realization. I'm...

I agree that some posters could be more concise with their writing. I don't, however, think it is right for you to admonish those who are posting on here frequently. This thread is, in my opinion, a place for personal growth and camaraderie. How are we supposed to generate rapport with each...

JrBak, yeah, buddy! Doing great. I think we are pretty similar. I've also never felt worry about attracting women but I do get worried about attracting the right one. I've done fine with women over the years. I don't have any problem creating attraction or pseudo-dating a girl. I am, however, a...

A vibrator isn't needy and is uncomplicated. It provides an easy to get orgasm with low investment. She can just watch some porn, go to town on herself, get-off, then pull up her pants, and go on with her day. She's not having sex with you or other guys because it just complicates things. You...

Shootin4Dreams, 100% do not contact her or respond. I read through your posts and it sounds like you had dependency on her. I think a lot of us on here started the no contact challenge as a way to get back with our ex. The whole absence makes the heart grow fonder thing. This might work, and...

What will happen if your ex is never apart of your life again? Finding the answer to that question is what honestly made acceptance click for me. There will be little to no consequences to my life if my ex never comes back. I might miss the way she made me feel, but I won't die; I won't starve...

Day 33 Doing fine. I had a date on Saturday that didn't go all that well, but that's okay. I read something on here somewhere that was like, "I have loved and been loved before. It will be so again.". Acceptance is here, and I'm okay with it.

Day 30 JrBak, good job on deleting the text and maintaining no contact. Not going to lie there have been moments that I've thought about texting my ex. You being on here and being only 1 day ahead of me actually does motivate me to keep going with no contact! I think to myself how I could break...

Day 28 JrBak, you made the right call. The 60 days is about you first, and not a tool to get your ex back. Plus her text isn't anything of substance. In my opinion, she is throwing out a breadcrumb to find out if you're still on her string. Not responding sends a strong message. You are...

You need to practice a lot and be willing to fail... a lot. I'm not naturally good at communicating with people but I think I've managed to get a pretty good handle at it. You also need to be able to honestly judge yourself in an unbiased way. Confide in a close friend that you wish to be...

Day 26 @JrBak, hang in there man. No shame in feeling down about everything. Perhaps you should take comfort in that you're at least able to think rationally to recognize that you shouldn't be hung up. I think things will swing back around for you. This weekend end up being good and bad. The...

Day 24 I know I shouldn't be updating, and I wasn't planning on for the weekend. I need this five minute post to vent because I'm feeling vulnerable. So first my ex likes my LinkedIn update. Now I wake up this morning to an alert that she tried to add me on snapchat. I declined. Seriously...

I should have been clearer. She liked a job update on my LinkedIn profile. I'm probably not going to remove her as a connection since LinkedIn is more professional-life social media oriented. She's blocked on Facebook and I've deleted her number. No other way for me to get in contact with her...

Day 22 I'm not a mean or spiteful person at heart, and I suspect you might be similar. Even though my ex has given me every reason to hate her, I still hope that she eventually finds whatever it is she is looking for and finds fulfillment in her life. I cannot, however, worry that she will make...

Day 21 @JrBak, was this a long distance relationship? Probably best to not dwell on it. Use this time to focus on you and living your life in a way that gives you fulfillment. I know that during this fragile time that my mind and emotions will betray me. They want to push me back into my...

Day 20 @JrBak No shame in feeling down last night. I still think about my ex most nights and mornings and I get pretty upset about it as well. I was talking to a buddy of mine a couple of days ago about how I feel so stupid for being upset about breaking up with my ex given that it was not a...

It is hard to comment when you speak in generalities, but whatever it is you're insecure about is probably not that big of a deal. Especially if the "fix" is non-invasive surgery. Although I only know bits of your story, your ex comes off as extremely insecure with fear of abandonment. She dug...