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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    I appreciate it! That was my mentality to begin with, but always help to hear reinforcement.
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Haha. Don't worry @BackInTheGame78, I'm not hopeful about this at all. My mission comes first, and am going to keep assuming that this ship has sailed.
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Anddddd... she's back. I went strict no contact for two months. Minimized time on social media. Didn't watch or read or engage with any of her posts. It got to a point where I rarely thought about her anymore, and if/when I did, there'd be little emotional impact on that thought and could brush...
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    Do you guys shave?

    I get a Brazilian wax every five weeks or so.
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    Her sudden, abrupt change in communication. What happened?

    OP - I went through something similar recently (even have a thread about it on the first page). Smokeshow in her 40's. Consider this your initiation.
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Thank you for the great write-up. It's reassuring that I at least probably got an "A" on the report card, and that I didn't really fumble as badly as I was beating myself up over. Yeah, I could be better on the money and status part. Her high sexual needs and the shame and guilt aspect of it...
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Thank you! Yeah, been a few weeks now since I posted this thread, and am starting to realize that this is probably the major factor. Granted, there were things I could have done better: post-sex aftercare, cuddling after, disqualifying myself too soon about not wanting a relationship after she...
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    How do you maintain energy levels (+/- 40y old guys thread)

    Turned my life around since a major breakup earlier this year. Energy levels are up DRASTICALLY. A few months after the breakup, I would stay in bed most of the day. So I made the following changes: Lifting weights + Walking- Result: I look like my 20 year old athletic self again, except a tiny...
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Noted on the pressure. Yeah, kind of shot myself in the foot by talking to her for so many months prior to the meet up. We always had deep conversations, so I should have made a conscious choice to insert more humor and light-heartedness in there. Thank you!
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    So much gold in this response. Thank you! Definitely implementing these insights for the next one: invite her to my town, post-sex after care, less primal and more intimate. Although I think I'll try to go local this time around. :lol: I got something from our conversations, too. Which is why...
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Thank you for the encouraging words! This makes me feel a bit better. I know I have a lot to work on with tightening my game up. Yes, her leaving at that time really blindsided me. Didn't think she'd be that upset. I think that's what caused me to write a post about it and ask the experienced...
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Just a text exchange where she said she would be open to maintaining a friendship after processing my text message more (I asked for it in a text before that when I disqualified myself as looking for a relationship; which is dumb of me now that I think about it -- makes her feel more like a slut...
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Harsh write up, but I think this is what I needed to hear. What I bolded is gold, for me. I don't know how I lost awareness of that situation. Hard lesson learned, for sure, since I really liked this girl. I appreciate you taking the time to write this up!
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    I'm here to learn. Aside from cuddling, deep diving some more, and building more comfort, was there something else I could have done? I'm here to learn from you guys. :)
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    Lost girl after sex on 1st date. Buyer's Remorse, Auto Rejection, or Something Else?

    Very thoughtful response. Thank you for taking the time to break down and respond to different segments of my post. This makes it easier to move forward.
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