Observations after being married

[Pandora]

As you probably know I recently married a foreign chick. Passport bro gang lol.I put up a profile pic of it on my messengers but I did not put it on any major social media. I kept it low key. Here are some observations.

1.) One of my long time female friends found out I was married. She was crying. Not out of happiness but out of " damn even this slut idiot is married". I need to hurry up.

2.) Another female friend just blocked me from everywhere. This girl was a former co worker. The most sexual girl you have ever met. She does " professional" work too. We first met and she did like me but I did not want to mix up with a crazy chick. I am very vulnerable to them. I am afriad of BPDs now. Also I didnt want to mix work and pleasure with her. Also I liked someone else.

After a while she rarely hung out with me. We would chill maybe once every 6 months for food. She sometimes would flake. She never showed any signs of liking me romantically after the intial week. So I am confused as to why she blocked me. Maybe she was harboring feelings. Crazy women are chaotic I swear.

I have a theory that every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband ( even if its only 1%). Once that is taken off the table many of them discard you out of sadness and bitterness.

3.) Women are more friendly when you wear a ring. They are more comfortable with you.

4.) Some family and friends dont congratulate you. A lot of people dont want to see you happy.

5.) Most people do congratulate you and are happy for you.

6.) Some women want to sleep with you more after you get married. They dont care.

Who knows how long this marriage will last. We will give it our best shot and hopefully it will be happy until we die.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

You sure you love your wife? Since I got married I don't really care what happens with my old female acquaintances or former lovers and I am not interested in arranging any meetings with them.

 

[SW15]

I have a theory that every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband ( even if its only 1%). Once that is taken off the table many of them discard you out of sadness and bitterness.

I can see that as true.

If I announced a marriage across all my social media channels today, it's possible that some women I knew during high school or college might see the announcement. Some of them could be bitter about it, if they are single themselves. Most of the women I know from high school or college around my age are married and the single ones were previously married. It would be less common for me to know a never married woman from that phase of my life.

I have some female acquaintances that might see a marriage announcement on social media from me and have some sadness/bitterness about it. This would also be uncommon given my social circle but someone at the fringes of my social circle could be in that spot in their lives.

 

[Manure Spherian]

6.) Some women want to sleep with you more after you get married. They dont care.

A coworker asked me out the week I got engaged.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

When my work found out I got married. I was told one of the slvtty girls at work lamented ‘I wanted to try him out. I heard he has a big one.’

 

[DJ Novice]

Being married is a sign of preselection which works in your favour. As is being divorced after a long marriage (it shows you can commit over the long term).

Women are very competitive. A married woman is at the top of the totem pole amongst her female friends, a single woman is at the bottom and a girl with a boyfriend is in the middle.

Unfortunately if you are just casually seeing your girlfriend and are not living together, engaged or married then she will want to climb the totem pole to achieve those for herself at some stage due to peer group pressure.

 

[Manure Spherian]

I have a theory that every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband ( even if its only 1%).

What do you mean? I’m sure a good chunk of women I know or have known didn’t and don’t give a rat’s @ss about having sex with me, let alone marrying or “dating” or being “bf and gf” with me.

 

[zekko]

I have a theory that every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband ( even if its only 1%). Once that is taken off the table many of them discard you out of sadness and bitterness.

I don't think it's necessarily sadness and bitterness. They could discard you out of practicality: "Well, he's off the list".
I confess that I loosely keep track of the girls I know who are single. I have a girlfriend, but should something happen, it gives me an idea of who I could potentially go out with. Kind of like a "break glass in emergency" type of thing. It's not that I have any feelings for any of these girls, they're just on the list.

Women are more friendly when you wear a ring. They are more comfortable with you.

Knowing your married takes some pressure off, on both sides. Women can safely talk to you without thinking you're going to be hitting on you. Except the girls who are looking to bang other women's husbands, of course. Also, when you are married and have a regular girl around, you know how to relate and talk to women almost automatically, out of experience. So naturally you get along well with women.

I noticed this when I was a young man, a lot of the time a married guy would come in and be very comfortable around the girls in the group and charm them easily. I suppose there's a confidence level also, knowing that they're desirable enough to have a wife.

 

[jhonny9546]

I have a theory that every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband ( even if its only 1%). Once that is taken off the table many of them discard you out of sadness and bitterness.

Also, on their side:
when they marry, they'll actually "turn off" orbiters.
If they will divorce, they will "turn on" the orbiters back.

every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband

this particular statement is true for your old women friends, like those from your childhood.
Tell more about this @Pandora

 

[Pandora]

You sure you love your wife? Since I got married I don't really care what happens with my old female acquaintances or former lovers and I am not interested in arranging any meetings with them.

I noticed that her Whatsapp icon was gone and this girl was very active on Whatsapp and social media. I did not want to meet up. Also its hard to define what love is really. Does love mean I cant ever hang with any other females...maybe. You have to understand that we dont live in the same country yet.

 

[Pandora]

A coworker asked me out the week I got engaged.

Yeh that happens. I think she had you on the backburner and just was willing to let you stay there as an option. Once you got married it kicked in her anxiety. These creatures are nuts.

 

[Pandora]

When my work found out I got married. I was told one of the slvtty girls at work lamented ‘I wanted to try him out. I heard he has a big one.’

The thing is they have years to make a move but as long as you are single they keep putting it off. Sexual procrastination because there is no rush. Oh he will always be there. He aint going anywhere type of thing.

 

[Pandora]

every girl in your life sees you as a potential husband

this particular statement is true for your old women friends, like those from your childhood.
Tell more about this @Pandora

Well an ex told me that if a woman initiates ANY type of wanting to hang out with you then she sees you as a potential something. Even if you are in the friendzone you are just way down on her list but you are still on the husband list. She explained that women are far too selfish with their time to just give it to anyone.

I find that to be true. Girls that had me deep in the friendzone dont seem to be happy when I am in a real relationship that might go to marriage.

Women dont just enjoy your company. These creatures see you as a mating option even if you are ugly. If you are not her type you are the backup backup backup backup husband. Its wild man.

 

[Pandora]

What do you mean? I’m sure a good chunk of women I know or have known didn’t and don’t give a rat’s @ss about having sex with me, let alone marrying or “dating” or being “bf and gf” with me.

Not just women you know. Women who show any extra attention to you outside of work. Like for example if she texts you at all or she want to hang out with you at all. This is more of a guy in his 20s thing. Remember those girls that would never have sex with us but wanted us in their orbit. They would call us for coffee dates and blabber on about some guy? Yes she had you on the list. You were just bottom. She will not be happy if you are married.

 

[Pandora]

I don't think it's necessarily sadness and bitterness. They could discard you out of practicality: "Well, he's off the list".
I confess that I loosely keep track of the girls I know who are single. I have a girlfriend, but should something happen, it gives me an idea of who I could potentially go out with. Kind of like a "break glass in emergency" type of thing. It's not that I have any feelings for any of these girls, they're just on the list.

Yes this is what I am referring to. The reason it is so evil when girls do it is because if you made a move on them they would reject and frustrate you. They would banish you back to the friendzone that you just tried to escape. The whole time in the back of their head you were in the "husband zone". You were the guy that she would not fu*k because she is fu*king the guy who is her exact type. She would however use you to get married.

Its kind of creepy really. Women just cant be friends with a man either. Men cant be friend with women because they want to smash. Women cant really be friends with men because they want to marry.

 

[Pandora]

Women that would not "fuk you" would marry you. Women often used to say we can get married if I am still single but we aint having sex.
In her head it can be two different types of guys. Of course she wants to marry her prince charming but she dont mind marrying her absolute last choice in a pinch.

They can watch you from afar and not communicate with you for YEARS but still have you in their mind as a potential husband. Its nutty man.

 

[Pandora]

Being married is a sign of preselection which works in your favour. As is being divorced after a long marriage (it shows you can commit over the long term).

Women are very competitive. A married woman is at the top of the totem pole amongst her female friends, a single woman is at the bottom and a girl with a boyfriend is in the middle.

Unfortunately if you are just casually seeing your girlfriend and are not living together, engaged or married then she will want to climb the totem pole to achieve those for herself at some stage due to peer group pressure.

Yup exactly.

 

[justaroundthecorner]

I noticed that her Whatsapp icon was gone and this girl was very active on Whatsapp and social media. I did not want to meet up. Also its hard to define what love is really. Does love mean I cant ever hang with any other females...maybe. You have to understand that we dont live in the same country yet.

You married girl that does not even live with you? Man, that's retro-romantic or poor judgement. I hope its the earlier than the former.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

The thing is they have years to make a move but as long as you are single they keep putting it off. Sexual procrastination because there is no rush. Oh he will always be there. He aint going anywhere type of thing.

She actually did make a couple of low-key moves on me in the past. But I deflected them.

 

[jhonny9546]

Girls that had me deep in the friendzone dont seem to be happy when I am in a real relationship that might go to marriage.

This is crazy.. every time they see me with a woman they start huffing and puffing hahahahah (the interested ones)

It's like the bell of competition and FOMO goes off in them.
This means they never told you how important you really are or were to them, to their plans.
It's like they're currently content with their current boyfriend, but you were the one who was destined.

They can watch you from afar and not communicate with you for YEARS but still have you in their mind as a potential husband. Its nutty man.

We should highlight this. It says it all. They will block you, they will do everything to avoid you, but that "chemistry" or thing that binds you, that generates instant sexual attraction in her can not be erased. By now you have left a mark